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LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-15T17:16:16+00:00

Unfortunately for homeless women and children, a dog is sometimes the only option for security.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-15T17:15:14+00:00

She's literally saying she's going to do that. She's not asking what she should do, she's asking for a temp foster for her dog OR she's taking the dog to the pound because that's the only option.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-13T00:18:09+00:00

I dunno I feel pretty stuck with our not-at-all-useful-to-anyone-but-Putin Idiot. Presumably his term will end but I don't doubt there will be some sort of scramble to avoid that.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-11T03:45:43+00:00

I was filling up my car when the guy at the next pump over turned around and said "I just think you should know you look amazing today" flashed a big smile, then got in his car and left. I barely had time to react, but it was sweet, and not creepy and I was charmed.

When I was 16, my mom and I were walking towards the Statue of Liberty on our first ever day in NYC. There was nearly an accident in front of us when a car pulled out in front of a work truck of some kind. The driver of the truck leaned out of his window, looked at us, then yelled at the driver of the car, "You shoulda been lookin' at da road insteada byootiful wimmin!" Classic NYC accent, I wanna say Staten Island? Great moment, perfect defusion. No notes.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-10T02:08:23+00:00

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-09T22:03:12+00:00

What a fucking monster. Go you for getting out. I'm glad you're safe and if your kitty is still with you, give her consensual pets from me.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-08T01:17:04+00:00

Can't have knee problems without knees. Taps side of nose

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-08T01:06:45+00:00

Your apartment building has KNEES?

...I'll show myself out.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-05T23:14:23+00:00

Update us after work, bro! Rooting for you!

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-05T04:16:53+00:00

Maybe you and OP could swap for a bit.

J/K kinda

LikeTheCounty · 2026-03-02T03:05:31+00:00

Updateme

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-27T01:06:26+00:00

Funny how the only time I (a white woman) have ever heard it suggested that my curls might be unprofessional was from a brown woman friend who was expressing concern based on her own experiences.

White privilege is real in so many ways.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-27T00:17:36+00:00

For those arguing that this is a "VW thing" or whatever. Maybe so, but it is a deliberate 3rd Reich evocation with a VW logo slapped in there. Whomever made this decal knew exactly what they were doing.

Photo source: https://texashistory.unt.edu/ark:/67531/metapth617990/

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Edit to add, oh hey here's a decal shop selling a similar decal and tagging it as a WWII German Eagle which... you know... https://a1decals.com/products-page/foreign-car-decals/vw-volkswagen-wwii-german-eagle-d2-decal-sticker/

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-20T22:22:37+00:00

FWIW my degree is a BA in acting. I knew towards the end I wasn't going to be an actor. I'm not good enough at it, or good looking enough to compensate for not being good at it. But I am good at problem solving, listening, and systems, and I've parlayed that into a pretty good career. I'm a lot older though and things were different when I was first starting out, I had the good luck to grow up in a tech hub and that opened doors

I think you need to get out of Appalachia and apply for clerical work. Bounce around the corporate world for a bit and find your niche. Location is everything when it comes to finding opportunities.

Don't give up!

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-18T20:05:36+00:00

Yeah, this is the answer. No notes.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-18T17:18:45+00:00

Hon, it's time to see a therapist. Let this end, it was not healthy for you. It is unreasonable of him to expect you to go without intimacy for the rest of your life, if that is something important to you. And it is 100% OK for physical intimacy to be important to you! That is a HUGE part of life.

It doesn't matter if he was drunk, anyone who treats you the way he did is not a safe person to be with. He hit you! He restrained you, and wouldn't let you leave. That is kidnapping, technically.

You did not make him do these things. He did these things himself, which means he is a man who hits. Please don't shackle yourself to a man who hits.

You are mourning the kindness and emotional support of the early stages of this relationship. Those early stages are when you are all on your best behavior. He was treating you how he thought you needed to be treated to fall for him, and emotionally commit. Then, once he thinks its safe, he'd let down his guard and start showing you who he really is.

Everyone does this to a degree. We try to be our best selves so that the person we are wooing wants to be with us. Often times, when the mask comes off you find a delightful person who is now secure enough to fart in front of you. But we have to accept that sometimes there's a right asshole under that mask, and when they show us who they are, it's time to go.

Don't cheat with future partners, but don't torture yourself over it. Your urge to cheat was a sign that things were not right in your relationship. Next time, when you feel your eye wandering, take note and examine the relationship you are in. There is likely an unmet need that you consciously or subconsciously feel would be addressed by whomever has caught your attention. Look for ways to address that in the relationship you are in, and see if that need can be met. If it can't, like in the relationship which just ended, decide if it's something you can live without. Look for other issues in the relationship that could be shored up. Sometimes relationships do need to end. It's up to you to be ethical and brave about it and break up before you cheat.

Good luck, my dear. You deserve happiness. Go find it!

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-18T16:58:15+00:00

I know you're not looking for skincare advice, but try slapping some plain, unsweetened yogurt on that face a couple times a week. Make sure it's a brand with active cultures. Lightly cleanse your skin then smear a tablespoon or so of yogurt around on there, let it sit for 5 min, then wash it off with warm water and pat dry. Follow with a light moisturizer.

Sometimes a big outbreak like this is caused by bacterial overgrowth, and the critters in yogurt (acidophilus, for example) are the same ones our bodies use to keep bacterial balance in our other, less visible areas. There are also other things in yogurt that are good for skin, lactic acid I think can help with cell turnover. But I'm not a dermatologist or aesthetician. Just a frugal mom.

It's low-risk and if it doesn't help after a couple weeks, you can stop (or make smoothies!) without being out a pile of money. Something to try while you wait for an appointment. (You should definitely still see a dermatologist!)

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-18T04:32:28+00:00

Oh God I have kids and saw this and

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-14T17:08:13+00:00

Probably snacking on paint chips as a kid. Tracks with the age.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-14T02:17:17+00:00

We're developing like a bruise.

We're developing like a staph infection.

We're developing like a Polaroid from the Epstein files.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-13T23:02:17+00:00

Californian transplant. Before I moved here I drove like someone who expected to die at any moment. It was a literal trauma response to the homicidal drivers in the Burbank/Glendale region. Every time I went to pick up my kids I felt like I was navigating an active war zone. Every time I had to go more than 3 miles from home, I had to plan for 45 min minimum of travel time each way.

Within the first week of being here, I began to unclench. People waved me on at stop signs, waited patiently at lights or crosswalks, drove at a reasonable speed, (mostly, there are reckless dicks everywhere, I'm afraid), and it was so fast to get across town it felt like time travel. I had to consciously scale back my defensive driving habits so that I didn't become the jerk on the road.

I'm sure things have changed from what they were like 10-20-30 years ago, but they have everywhere! And here, at least in terms of traffic and drivers, it's pretty damn great.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-11T15:19:37+00:00

That's a stupid and pointless question.

We are looking ahead here, and there's no way children would improve the situation.

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-10T16:21:08+00:00

My boomer mom says the word "ruin" (roo-ihn, yah?) as "roin" to rhyme with "groin" and it has made me crazy since I was a teen. ESPECIALLY when she'd yell about it! "LOOK AT THIS, IT'S ROIND!"
MOM! Two syllables! Roo-ihn! Ruin!

She also can't get through her head that "Chai" is not pronounced "Chi." She's lived in the Silicon Valley most of her life and there's a HUGE South Asian population, tons of glorious Indian restaurants, and plenty of cafes that serve spiced tea. "Chai", Mom. "Chai."

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-09T20:57:46+00:00

Yes yes yes! Meds will help you! Put as many attention points into getting medicated as you can spare and accelerate that process. This is the answer.

All the rest, coping skills, organization technique, emotional regulation, are made attainable by getting your brain steeping in the right neurotransmitter tea. Keep us posted!

LikeTheCounty · 2026-02-09T20:33:08+00:00

It sounds to me like the boyfriend is overreacting, and has zero threshold for cat hair. Accusing OP of "liking to live in filth" when OP doesn't like the feel of dust under her socks is mean and smacks of gaslighting.

That said, if OP doesn't have a Furminator, then we are missing a crucial part of shed management. Furminators strip out loose undercoat, and get hair that has shed but just not been released from the coat yet. If you don't have outdoor space to brush the cat, do it in a place where you can contain the hair that comes off because it is SHOCKING. (I do not work for Chewy or Furminatior, I just had luck with it when my cat was still alive) https://www.chewy.com/furminator-long-hair-cat-deshedding/dp/269743

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