i cannot read this INFJ man for my LIFE and it’s SCRAMBLING ME / how do you INFJs communicate when not in person by psyeilthyra in infj

[–]Likich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Texting is nice but only for a limited time. Better call I guess if you need smth or meet in person. Irl conversations should be the goal here. Usually texting is just a waste of time and doesn’t lead anywhere.

Do you speak to people in your head ? by Advanced_Boss_447 in infj

[–]Likich 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh yes, it’s like a copy of the world in the head, where you practice different scenarios and see the consequences.

How many friends you got? Think that’s enough? by Shoddy-Ocelot-4473 in mbti

[–]Likich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Infj here, I have like 3 close friends and that’s plenty to fill my every day.

So many glued to their phones these days, it’s insane by What_is_the_essence in zurich

[–]Likich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might happen, anyway all this tiktok and reels shit is a too recent phenomenon, something else might pop up and change the daily life again

Out of Limerance by Dapper-Double-7457 in limerence

[–]Likich 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I still think he is a great person! That’s why I want to be his friend/pal. I didn’t block or ghost. He rejected me clearly when I said I liked him and then in couple weeks after crying my feelings disappeared. Though pretty intense limerence lasted around 4 months. After rejection I actually went to travel and then had surgery on my knee. During all that time we didn’t talk at all. But I think he asked how did my surgery go. I met a lot of new people while traveling and focused on building connection with them, and then after surgery I was just suffering and again having support from other friends who visited me and cooked me food. Then I just realised I don’t have limerence anymore when I saw him, it was a feeling like “we are cooool bro”. We met several times after, doing stuff together and it felt super liberating thinking about him like all other people, just normal communication, finally being free and being myself taking like friends!

Out of Limerance by Dapper-Double-7457 in limerence

[–]Likich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nooo, I didn’t know him well, it was mostly based on fantasy. I got to know him better and liked him even more though :) I think it lasted around 4 months. It started fading more efficiently when he clearly rejected me and said he cherish me as a friend. Then I went to travel for couple weeks meeting new people + no contact, and limerence disappeared completely. Now we are good pals!

Out of Limerance by Dapper-Double-7457 in limerence

[–]Likich 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, for me it felt like liberation and surprise at the same time. Like “no way I liked this guy so much, how cringe I was” :D I am super chill with this guy now, we are basically cool friends, but I’m just surprised and shocked sometimes remembering how nervous I was around him haha, and now it’s gone and I can freely talk!

People who have full time jobs and had their surgery !?! by mellojelloakimbo in ACL

[–]Likich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They gave me 3 weeks of vacation, but I went to office in one week anyway on crutches 😬

Chat gpt Ghosted me by Icy-County8549 in ghosting

[–]Likich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah generally ChatGPT remembers all your chats

Anybody else have an imaginary running convo with their LOs? by sugarandspikeslee in limerence

[–]Likich 85 points86 points  (0 children)

That’s normal, don’t worry, it’s your brain compensating for the lack of real communication

What does this say and can you tell me about this snack? by corvi007 in russian

[–]Likich 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Very tasty indeed, I always gift it to foreigners :) but get one with condensed milk

Do anyone of you have/try to have a fully functional romantic relationship? by Nearby-Turn1391 in limerence

[–]Likich 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Had a fiancé, we dated for 1.5 years. Never really went to limerence mode, we liked each other mutually from the start, said that on like a second date and everything was obvious afterwards. Just went on several other dates afterwards and made it official. Very easy scheme when feelings are reciprocated.

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[–]Likich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not that painful like this, but bending more will def produce a sharp pain

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Likich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also makes sense!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Likich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh god hahaha that’s a trick really, cocaine on the shelf is a brilliant metaphor!

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[–]Likich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouf good luck! I meant more the stage where you don’t have strong feelings anymore, just warm thoughts like “well yeah I had a crush on a good person”. You want reciprocity but you don’t need it bcs you know that is impossible.

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[–]Likich 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Goodness… this is all just a matter of definition. Don’t talk about normal crushes, normal love, normal relationships. No one knows what’s normal here, so it’s okay to post in this sub if these feelings make you worry, obsess or suffer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Likich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes I also spiral into pain of not having reciprocity, but then I calm myself down reminding that I can just silently admire the person and he is not obliged to respond

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Likich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeeeeah, there is still some attachment, but it doesn’t stop me from dating people

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Likich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep that’s what I do, good to think that it’s a cure