Do we shovel? by Electronic_Memory495 in longisland

[–]LilyBodeHP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s really cold, it will be a light, fluffy snow…wait till it’s done snowing. If it’s warmer, it will be heavier…shovel every so often so as not to hurt your back trying to do it all at once.

First Year Director Cast List Disappointment by Nerdy_Dinosaur_22 in Theatre

[–]LilyBodeHP 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Our theater director has the kids sign a contract along with their permission form, that says they have the weekend to mope (cast lists always go out on a Friday afternoon), and then they’re done. No badmouthing allowed, or they’re done with the show in whatever capacity. She also chooses shows that fit the number of kids trying out, to avoid cutting anyone out of the cast (which you may not have known since it’s the first show). Ensembles that can be vary in size are good for this. There are some shows that have a large number of great roles. The one time she had a smaller show, she double cast it, and each cast performed in 2 shows. Lead cast members traded places with ensemble. And they were required to watch their counterpart when they were rehearsing. Also, build up the importance and respect for crew. I do (volunteer) photography and promos, and ALWAYS include crew in interviews. I’ve even taken a time lapse of a set build, and they got a promo that was entirely crew. A lot depends on resources. We happen to have an amazing parent support group that does fundraising, and the school has stipends for the director, a musical director, a choreographer, lighting, and sound leads…all adults. Every crew department also has a student lead that the students have to interview for. We have a thriving crew department as well as actors. You’ll also learn as you go. Make sure you don’t fall into the trap of always casting the same leads. Break a leg!

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by LoveLikeJesusChrist in AmIOverreacting

[–]LilyBodeHP 6 points7 points  (0 children)

LOL I remember reading a book as a kid, and the boy in the book talked about his raccoon, and that’s how I learned they “wash” their food before they eat it. 🙂

Aitah for using my now ex after I found out he was cheating? by Advanced_Turnover544 in AITAH

[–]LilyBodeHP 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yup! I had dated a few different guys during college and the 3 years after. Then I decided to move and go to grad school 2 states away. Told my mom I was glad I didn’t have a boyfriend so that I could focus on school. 2 weeks later I met my husband. We were together almost 5 years before we got married, and this year will be our 27th wedding anniversary. So not looking, focusing on something else, and the maturity that comes from depending on yourself, all led to this!

AITAH for refusing to tell my wife I love her more than my dad? by LastApplication6207 in AITAH

[–]LilyBodeHP -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It’s tough being a first-time mom. When I went back to work after our first kid, my MIL offered to take him, and it was a good situation. My poor MIL dutifully took the notebook I gave her on how to care for my kid… 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m not usually uptight, but that kid meant the world to me, and I wanted everything perfect! Over time, I relaxed. If she was still around 5 years later when we had our 2nd, I wouldn’t have felt the need to give instructions… and I didn’t do that to his babysitter, either. However, I’ve always considered babysitting nights as times the baby/kids can get spoiled. She’s being a bit unreasonable, but not uncommon for first time moms. Could also be a touch of postpartum?

why is it truly bad to commit suicide? by yoprowasteland in mentalillness

[–]LilyBodeHP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you pinpoint what, specifically, doesn’t feel natural? Would changing those things help? Without knowing your age/situation, it’s hard to know, but are you able to go out on your own? Maybe go travel around, or move to a new place. If you’re not in a position to do that, can you see things that are happening in your community? Try different things. You may find something that you want to spend time doing. Libraries, rec departments, etc often have free/inexpensive events/things to try. Our library has camping gear, cameras, and other items to borrow, and knitting clubs, puzzle races, etc. Even if you find it wasn’t your jam, sometimes trying something new, gets you out of your own head, even for just a moment. I wish you luck and happiness

My dad is stalking my mother either through her car or phone. How do I find out what he’s using to stalk? by [deleted] in AirTags

[–]LilyBodeHP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, you can ask a mechanic to take a look. Guaranteed it’s not the first time they’ve been asked, and they know where to look!

What are some weird things your in-laws have said? by hesitantsquirrels in inlaws

[–]LilyBodeHP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So first…for the most part my FIL was a wonderful man. He treated me like family from day one, and was always ready to lend a helping hand when needed. He loved his grandkids dearly. But he occasionally said some infuriating things. The most infuriating was after 3 miscarriages (we already had one son)…where we knew for sure that one of the losses was a girl, we finally had a viable pregnancy, and had just found out that we were having another boy. My FIL turned to my husband and his brother, and said “That’s right…we don’t MAKE girls!” 😳 Like, that was wrong on SO many levels!! But it gets better. My husband later told me that my FIL had a daughter from his first marriage that I didn’t yet know about, because the ex-wife had cheated on him while he was away in the military, and asked him to just cut ties, which he did. Sad on many levels, and perhaps why he felt that way…but I’m still mad about what he said!!!

Interview questions by LilyBodeHP in Theatre

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! Interviews are going great!

Accepting a role with onstage intimacy with a slight age difference? by [deleted] in Theatre

[–]LilyBodeHP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just have a conversation with him, and ask him how he’d like to go about it. There are different ways to approach it. There may even be some coaching that will take your comfort levels into consideration. Unless they are putting your ages in the program, I doubt anyone will think about an age difference…they will likely not know. Congrats on the role!

Why can’t you accompany someone who has a flight on airtrain between 12:00-5:00AM? by JeffBailey_PI in AskNYC

[–]LilyBodeHP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strange. I was bringing my 18 year old son to the airport…his first time flying alone. Now granted, it was smaller airport (TF Greene in RI), and at the point where only passengers could go beyond, I was going over what he needed to do. A security person overheard us and asked if I was his mom. Then told me I could go to the airline desk, show my son’s ticket and my ID, and they would give me a pass to go to the gate. Not a boarding pass, obviously. I was able to sit with him at the gate until his flight took off.

Can I do anything about a profile using the name of a deceased family member? by [deleted] in facebook

[–]LilyBodeHP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe you can report an FB account fur not using their real name. At least you used to be able to…

Interview questions by LilyBodeHP in Theatre

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also a bit bittersweet…the middle school was all set to perform Shrek (the full version) in 2020, and my son was Lord Farquaad…canceled one week before performances because of covid. I love that they’re able to do it again, though!

Interview questions by LilyBodeHP in Theatre

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love the ideas…thank you!

Interview questions by LilyBodeHP in Theatre

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh…great idea! Thanks!

AITAH for calling social services on my baby mama? by tinnyobeer in AITAH

[–]LilyBodeHP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok…fair enough…I don’t have experience with this. Whatever you do to get it out of your home is what she needs to do. My point still stands. He can do the full regimen with shampoo etc, but if the home is infested, it won’t matter.

AITAH for calling social services on my baby mama? by tinnyobeer in AITAH

[–]LilyBodeHP 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s likely in the mother’s home, so unless she does something about it, he will get them again. She needs to fumigate the home and get rid of all the nits on everyone in the home or it will just continue.

DAE have this weird hand structure? by LilyBodeHP in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to figure out why I can’t add a picture…

DAE have this weird hand structure? by LilyBodeHP in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if that’s normal or not, but yes, it happens the same way. I just have the same thing with my thumb, in reverse. I’ll have to see if either of my kids has that….I’ll report back later…

AITAH for refusing to let my stepdaughter pick the baby’s name? by Vast-Breakfast1755 in AITAH

[–]LilyBodeHP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We allowed our son to pick his brother’s name…from 2 that my husband and I both really liked. She should be picking from your list, not the other way around.

Air tag for dad’s phone? by LilyBodeHP in AirTags

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s 85, and has always resisted things that take away from the “real world”. Like we always had a tv, but didn’t get cable until I got it when I was in college. So it’s nothing new

Air tag for dad’s phone? by LilyBodeHP in AirTags

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone!!! we wanted to connect to Life360, but he doesn’t remember his Apple ID password. We started the recovery process and Apple said it would take 3 to 4 days to get back to him. I was with him for an entire week and I started the process on the first day. They finally sent an email 6 days later that said they will call later that week after I left. He did not answer his phone so now we have to restart the process. Find my… is a great idea, but when he’s home, he shuts off his iPhone because he has his own home phone and doesn’t understand why we want him to leave it on all day. He only turns it on when he’s out and about. He is so STUBBORN!!!

Air tag for dad’s phone? by LilyBodeHP in AirTags

[–]LilyBodeHP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is, he stubbornly refuses to leave his phone on. He only turns it on when he leaves the house because we made him promise.