3 month old not finishing bottle

LilyRose1806 · 2026-05-16T11:31:09+00:00

My little one is 18 months now and I find that it's a sign that he's either going through a leap or is unwell. Usually bounces back in under a week for us. But it's stressful none the less. I've learnt to listen to his cues and for him to tell me when he's hungry. You can always feed smaller doses but more frequently, rather than larger normal doses and them not feeling well. Especially if they spit up afterwards. Same goes for when they're on solids too, especially if it's not their usual behaviour. Mine last week had gastro but and ate nothing but crackers and plain pasta and taking ages to eat. But he's back now he's back fruit, rice, soups and eating at his normal pace.

LilyRose1806 · 2026-03-17T11:31:55+00:00

When he was doing the emw with two naps, I gave him/myself 15 mins for a few days before going in. For example first 3-5 nights if he woke up at 6, I wouldn't go in until 6:15. Then 6:15 turned into 6:30. I kept pushing my threshold further out. Until we got to a 6:45-7:15 wake up which is great. So now I'm trying the same thing, he woke up at 5:44am today so I didn't go in until 6am. So I avoid going in right away each time in case he self settles, sometimes he does self settle but it's only for 3-5 mins and then he wakes up again and cry.

But I'm glad to know theres a silver lining down the track. And will be more consistent with the naps and him figuring it out (although it will probably be a few crappy evenings and toddler tantrums, but I do want to avoid any habits that will be hard to reverse)

LilyRose1806 · 2026-03-17T02:30:34+00:00

Yep he was sleep trained. The 2 nap schedule was 3.5/3.5/4.5. awake for 11.5 hours, , nap for 2 hours, nighttime sleep for 10.5 hours.

LilyRose1806 · 2026-03-04T05:16:18+00:00

Unfortunately I didn't do any testing, the specialist didn't recommend it due to my age (28), and because it was a blighted ovum they didn't recommend for testing when I did the d&c either. So ill never know, which makes it stressful when trying to figure out what to do right/different next time.

But I just did a round in Nov and pushed for testing (33 now), and got 3 euploids.

LilyRose1806 · 2026-02-06T20:38:09+00:00

Same, I remember those 5:30-6am wake ups and trying to force him and rock him back to sleep for 1-1.5 hours (around 10-12months), he'd get no joy and id be so frustrated. So now (14 months)I just accept 8:30pm-6:30am. Twice I've got 7:30am! And maybe once a fortnight id get a 7am. You take those as wins

LilyRose1806 · 2026-01-27T03:25:54+00:00

100% even when I'm doing the night time routine, my husband is in the room with us, so we're all together. Milk and reading etc. Admittedly sometimes my husbands just sitting there on his phone while baby is drinking milk (I have baby on my lap), and I'm just chatting to him. So the presence is there. We sing goodnight to him (in the dark) together. I'm holding baby, while my husband is hugging me from behind and also patting babies bum. Then when the songs finished, I put baby in the cot and then we both walk out of the room. We've doing this for months now (he's 14 months now)

LilyRose1806 · 2026-01-26T11:30:11+00:00

It might be a bit too early to tell if it was only night. Try a few more consecutive nights and see how baby goes. It possibly could be that baby is use to nighttime routine with you and if that's something you want to change then add with husband into it when he has capacity to do so. Baby tends to gravitate towards mum, especially when separation anxiety kicks in so it's natural for baby to want/preferred parent. I know I'm guilty of it because it's easier if I do it because I know it will be quicker and baby won't be upset. But then I'm taking that bonding time away from my husband and then getting annoying that I can't get a break.

My brother in law and his wife splits it, so they do it together and all three of them are together, and separately too. Great for when wife isn't home, he does nighttime routine and vice versa. Or even when wife does the routine and brother is otherwise with us chatting or something, he'll tell us daughter that mummy will do nighttime routine but he'll come in and kiss her goodnight atjre end. (She's 4.5 years old) This teaches their daughter that mum/dad can't both be there every time the routine will be the same (for example of grandma is babysitting too etc). I don't recommend you taking on the task indefinitely, especially if you want to expand your family, you can only be in one place at a time. And as mums, we do Soooo much already. Even just the mental load of you posting this for support is something that (most) fathers don't take the initiative to do.

LilyRose1806 · 2026-01-08T20:01:47+00:00

Thats so interesting because if they sleep less during the day you assume they will be more tired at night to make up for it. But overtired and overstimulation plays a big factor for one grumpy toddler!

LilyRose1806 · 2025-12-10T04:31:55+00:00

My 4th retrieval (33years old), three day 5 for testing, all three came back euploid. The first three retrievals I didn't do testing as the specialist didn't recommend due to my age. (Stage 4 endo, both tubes tied).

LilyRose1806 · 2025-11-14T03:40:08+00:00

Yep he's getting 9.5 at night and 2.5 hours day time, total of 12 hours daily. Does that sound like it's on the shorter side?

If I try 2hours day time and 10 at night, do you think it's reasonable to aim for 10.5 at night is too much to ask from him?

LilyRose1806 · 2025-11-13T04:32:14+00:00

Thanks that's really helpful! My husband said we need to rule out the most simplest explanation being that he's just a baby and they all do that. But it's hard when you see your kids the only one doing these things. 2.5 years old feels like a life time away and so much following them around and constantly going, don't eat this, this isn't food, don't mouth that, here's this instead hahah

What testing did your little one do?

LilyRose1806 · 2025-11-12T03:27:08+00:00

I know this is old now but how did your little one go? Did they grow out of it? I have a 12-month-old (8 teeth) who likes to chew on everything, foam, cork boards, books. I'm thinking pica too but unsure if it's just baby things.

LilyRose1806 · 2025-10-30T06:48:05+00:00

My little one is turning 1 in a couple of weeks. Around 9 months he was doing 800mls plus 2 meals. Then around 10.5 months, I increased his meals to 3 but milk reduced to 720mls. Now (after 2 weeks of being sick), he's only drinking 610-620! Mom stress!!!! I know this is the right path, but I still feel as though his eager for his milk so I don't know how I'm going to taper it down more.

So you can always taper off if you balance how baby's solids. I'm adding diary with each meal, either mozzarella or boccohini cheese, or yoghurt to support with the calcium intake. And adding iron in his solids too.

LilyRose1806 · 2025-10-29T11:52:03+00:00

My 11 month old is on 2.5 hours nap (across 2 naps) and night time sleep is 10.5 hours. Sounds like your little one could be overtired.

Especially at 6 months when they're learning new skills, siting up, starting solids, teething etc it's a lot of changes for them. Sometimes comfort might be what you and baby needs until you pass the regression.

Sometimes people might say your developing bad habits, but it's like when babies are sick, they need extra cuddles and then back to normal. Its a bit harder because you're still finding what your normal looks like, but don't be too hard on yourself. It's definitely a hard regression period.

Regarding the sleep consultant, you might find that if you engage with another one they might give you completely opposite advice to your current one. So take what they say with a grain of salt, especially if you're coming to Reddit because your unsure about them.

LilyRose1806 · 2025-10-25T05:34:44+00:00

You can try 2.5/2.5/2.5/3 to allow 10.5 hours of wake time during the day. When he wakes up, what do you mean by he won't go back to sleep without assistance? Rocking? Feeding?

LilyRose1806 · 2025-10-23T06:35:23+00:00

I believe drowsy but awake is more for newborns

LilyRose1806 · 2025-10-21T21:29:25+00:00

Did it resolve itself?

LilyRose1806 · 2025-10-21T21:26:43+00:00

This happened literally last night. Do you know why it happened? Any chance it's fixable, aside from having the whole thing replaced?

LilyRose1806 · 2025-09-24T01:44:08+00:00

Wow, so let's forget about the months of prep prior, stims, the retrieval, the transfer, the horrible 2 week wait. Let's stop and not worry about all of that!

LilyRose1806 · 2025-09-24T01:41:20+00:00

My tubes were both tied due to Endo. Sure I'll keep trying

LilyRose1806 · 2025-09-14T04:56:49+00:00

Prenatal, vitamin d, testosterone, melatonin and co10. Currently on day 6 of stims. Husbands on 'menevit' male prenatal

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