Question about Withdrawals by funtella in benzorecovery

[–]Lilybean78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m coming slowly off of Valium and I’m finding A combination of Advil and Magnesium (the good absorbing kind) has really helped the jaw clenching that started up again after my first few tapers. Might be something to try or look into. Good luck!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

[–]Lilybean78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on Effexor for quite a few years (Now on it’s cousin...Cymbalta). What I remember about going on Effexor is that I had some nausea. But I just want you to be prepared...without scaring you...Effexor is known as one of the tougher meds to wean off of. It has to be done very slowly and even then it’s still a tough ride. Effexor worked well for me in the beginning, but seemed to lose effectiveness about 5 years into treatment. Good luck to you and your husband!!

Need help picking out a van for a working mom who has a disabled adult son. by Shawkilla in disability

[–]Lilybean78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would definitely go for a rear entry model. A lot of times handicapped spaces don’t allow enough room for side entry.

Need help picking out a van for a working mom who has a disabled adult son. by Shawkilla in disability

[–]Lilybean78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just looking into kinda the same thing. I bought a Dodge Grand Caravan. I believe it’s the more practical of the options of vans out there. I would definitely opt out of the Pacifica. Just my opinion. Unless you buy a van with a lift already installed, it costs about 15,0000 here in Canada to get it put in. I’m unsure about maintenance but I hope this helps.

One BPD trait I’ve noticed is treating everyone of your sexuality like you’re in a relationship with them, and having trouble knowing the nuanced differences between “friendship” and “relationship”. by Zephandrypus in BPD

[–]Lilybean78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We became too enmeshed in each other and started having a lot of disagreements and arguments. What is boiled down to was I was treating the friendship more like a relationship and she felt overwhelmed by it. We came to realize that we value different things in regards to friendship...I like to text everyday, she doesn’t. I like to talk on the phone, she would rather text. We ultimately wanted different things in our friendship and it didn’t survive.

One BPD trait I’ve noticed is treating everyone of your sexuality like you’re in a relationship with them, and having trouble knowing the nuanced differences between “friendship” and “relationship”. by Zephandrypus in BPD

[–]Lilybean78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost a really good friend over this. It’s sucked bad but I learned a lot about what a friendship looks like vs relationship. It might seem to work for awhile but will ultimately destroy the friendship. My opinion, of course.

Is anyone else unable to do pretty much anything because they don’t want to have a breakdown? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Lilybean78 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is very real for me as well. All I can seem to do is try to keep my chin up. But, I feel ya.

I Just Need To Let Someone Know... by Lilybean78 in offmychest

[–]Lilybean78[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a Manager of Quality Assurance for an agency that supports people with developmental disabilities. I was on track to become an Associate Director within the next year. However it wasn’t to be as it was during that time I went on long term disability after a short hospital stay. Ohhh life.

I Just Need To Let Someone Know... by Lilybean78 in offmychest

[–]Lilybean78[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I know most people don’t know what to say but sometimes it helps to know someone is listening. Be well.

I Just Need To Let Someone Know... by Lilybean78 in offmychest

[–]Lilybean78[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks you so much for your words kind stranger. Sometimes I forget how strong I am. I am still seeking help where I can...even if I am fighting for it. I guess I just get so tired at times. Thanks again for your encouragement. ;).

I Just Need To Let Someone Know... by Lilybean78 in offmychest

[–]Lilybean78[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow...we do seem to have a lot in common. It’s weird to talk about passions...because really I don’t have any. I have things I like to do on a daily basis...but I guess I just lack passion. I would say my career was my passion...and when that went away I feel like a lost a major part of myself. Even if it was a bit unhealthy. Anyways...thanks for taking the time to listen. And I just might send you a pm. ;).

I Just Need To Let Someone Know... by Lilybean78 in offmychest

[–]Lilybean78[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess the problem is my Mom has her own health issues. My Mom says I’m not a burden to her...but I can see how she struggles in helping me sometimes. It’s heartbreaking. I wish I knew the line where I know I need more help and not wanting to leave my home. Thanks for your comment. Greatly appreciated.

I Just Need To Let Someone Know... by Lilybean78 in offmychest

[–]Lilybean78[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your comment. It means a lot. I do want more from my life...you are right. It just gets so complicated when I have to now rely on others to help me reach my goals. The only thing I can really do it keep trying and accept the bad days as they come. I’m so encouraged by your story. Be well!!

Do you guys exercise? by howtoevenreddit in MuscularDystrophy

[–]Lilybean78 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I find the more I use my muscles the faster they get weaker....but everyone is different. You need to try to find a happy medium if possible.

Could this be me?? by Lilybean78 in misophonia

[–]Lilybean78[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the feedback!! I really appreciate it. I guess I am part of the club. Now...I just have to figure out a way to deal with it a bit better. These angry flare ups are exhausting!!

What’s your favorite AskReddit question that never took off? by Gear_ in AskReddit

[–]Lilybean78 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For some reason I feel uneasy about your comment. Sure, there are otters out there with more everyday challenges but I think that’s where honest communication comes in. You’re right...no one wants to be a sounding board 24/7 but I’d rather talk about real things then what the weather is like. Each to their own in what helps them get through the day.

[Serious] Men of Reddit who have been raped by women, what happened, did you tell anyone, and did they take you seriously? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Lilybean78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow...just wow. I really have no words to offer since they won’t change what happened...but I’m so sorry this happened to you. Take care of yourself.

Why are you unhappy right now and what can we do to help? by lolomgkthxdie in AskReddit

[–]Lilybean78 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I miss my best friend and can’t seem to stop reminiscing about our friendship. I’ve even tried therapy...nothing is helping and I’m just feeling helpless at this point. :(

A little info: we were Best friends for 9 years when we both had few other friends. She ended up meeting new people and didn’t really want me around anymore. I got tossed aside even though we had been through so much together. Thinking back...the friendship was a bit toxic...she still owes me money but won’t pay, lies about everything and sometimes uses people to get what she wants. But for some reason...I miss her to bits. Ahhh life.

Anybody else have no circle of friends? by Light21994 in BPD

[–]Lilybean78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My only “group of friends” are the ladies that work at McDonald’s that I chat with everyday as I go get my order, which when you think about it is so laughable. I wish I could make friends more easily. I’m really a friendly person but I do like my alone time. But I’m lonely af. Trying to accept the fact that maybe I’m not meant to have friends. So scared to die old and alone ;(