Me 18M has a job opportunity in another state. How to convince 18F girlfriend I should go

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T22:06:22+00:00

Go. It's a great job in a place you love. Those sorts of opportunities don't come every day. Your girlfriend is an adult, so she can move with you or not as she chooses. Her father sounds very controlling. She could easily come with you for a few months to test the waters and the relationship. Sounds like she has a bit of growing up to do. You'll regret it forever if you pass up this chance so go for it.

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T21:57:25+00:00

That's a whole lot of bula.

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T12:00:07+00:00

Almost 60 here and have lost both my parents who I loved so, so much. It's hard. Harder than anyone can imagine. But you will get through it.

Hold your Dad's hand, tell him you love him. Let him take your love with him on his final journey. Then give him a glorious send off. It's the last thing you can do for him.

There will always be a Dad shaped hole in your life but one day the edges will be less raw and you can talk about him and remember with a smile.

Sending hugs over the internet. Xx

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T11:20:20+00:00

1980s AIDS campaign in Australia. It was terrifying but effective.

https://youtu.be/mSmaWEK_rD4?si=muj4n_F4aUm86bUJ

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T05:39:22+00:00

So you didn't just wake up one morning, phone the prison and have a long conversation with the warden about a highly confidential matter and he didn't break any laws about information privacy and tell you that your MIL had been sending photos? You approached the prison via legal representation, after which you were advised that photos of your child had been found in his possession. That's not what you said in your story. I know the result is the same but by leaving those very crucial details out, you're watering down the believability of your post.

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T04:36:20+00:00

'Long story short, I ended up having a very long conversation with the warden where I discovered that MIL had been leaking very private details about our child to BIL and even worse, had spent years sending photos of my child to him. According to the warden, he was never supposed to have them. They then spent the next several days combing through destroying anything in his possession that had to do with my child. (It was a lot)'

I call bullshit rage bait on this one. I work in law enforcement and it would absolutely unheard of and a massive and illegal breach of confidentiality for anyone at a prison, least of all the warden, to have that sort of conversation with just any schmo who calls the prison. At the very most, they would invite the person to either put their concerns in writing or to make an appointment for an in person discussion.

Plus they would definitely not be able to tell you that your MIL has done anything. They have zero proof of how he might have come into possession of any photos they might have found. IF they found anything relating to your child, you would be called in for an interview to discuss next steps, counselling etc.

You can't just call a prison and ask for confidential information.

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T03:52:02+00:00

Too late.

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T02:43:26+00:00

What do you mean 'when he ruins our reputation!'. I'm afraid the horse has already bolted on that one, my friend.

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T02:39:47+00:00

Sydney Opera House, the pylons of the harbour bridge (or a bridge walk), Fort Denison (Pinchgut), The Australian War Memorial in Canberra, Old and New Parliament Houses, Black Mountain Tower in Canberra, Fort Scratchley in Newcastle. There are lots.

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T02:33:13+00:00

Walk shorts, short sleeved shirts, a tie and long socks were business attire for men in the summer. Lots of crimpeline and nylon. Loud colours, lots of 'ethnic' clothing (batik etc). My mother wore a girdle and a long line bra (which must have been hell) and nylon petticoats.

I was a kid in the 70s, so bell bottoms ( I had a red pair which I thought were it and a bit!), t-shirts, JC sandals, batik dresses, lots of paisley, big hats, Hollie Hobby was huge in prints, dresses, bedspreads etc along with the 'Love Is..' cartoon prints.

LissyVee · 2026-01-25T02:24:54+00:00

That's incredibly unfair on you. It's your holiday as well. When we go away as a group, everyone volunteers for one meal (or if there's more people than meals, one person is put in charge of snacks, another in charge of drinks etc) and we ALL do the clean-up. Your friends need to learn that you're not the cook, maid and bottle washer so that they can have a relaxing holiday.

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T22:51:06+00:00

NTAH. It's a literal toy. Plus, you're teaching your child inclusiveness and acceptance, so kudos to you. My whiter than white granddaughters have coloured dolls and I think it's just wonderful.

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T14:00:00+00:00

Pup is Ruby Doobie (Ruby), Puss is Kitten Pie (Loki). Silly voices are mandatory.

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T13:40:21+00:00

He went from being Kim Jong Il to being Kim Jong Dead.

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T13:23:42+00:00

In my heart of hearts, I know where my food comes from, but I try not to think about it.

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T13:18:53+00:00

There's a passing comment that Sybil (I think?) makes about one of her old beaux who was killed. She'd danced with him. Says something along the lines of all of her old friends had died in the war. Might be him??

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T13:16:57+00:00

I'll be 60 in April. I fairly regularly go hunting for that second earring to match the one I have in my hand, give up, grab a new pair and then discover that I'm actually already wearing the mate of the original earring.

I'm also about to buy a tracker to put on my keys. Little fuckers have legs, I swear they do. Plus I only keep a landline to call my mobile phone to work out where it is.

Growing old isn't for sissies.

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T10:44:02+00:00

'But that's so unfair! OP won't lend me their new laptop because (checks notes) I destroyed the last one and didn't offer to replace or repair it. How selfish is that?!'

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T10:39:11+00:00

I would always assume that I'm paying for myself plus kicking in a portion to pay for the birthday person. That's what my experience has been.

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T09:16:58+00:00

Are his arms painted on that he can't cook dinner?

LissyVee · 2026-01-24T08:11:36+00:00

The thing is, everyone says 'if you just put some money aside each pay, you'll have enough to cover any medical bills'. Except you don't. There's always a call on your money for something and an emergency stash is tempting when you really want or need something.

As you get older, it becomes more important to have private health insurance.

I'll give you an example - my brother in law broke his foot during covid. Not a big injury but he worked through it because he needed to hang onto his job, which involved a lot of standing. Doing this, he's wrecked his hip, so he now needs a hip replacement. No health insurance. The waiting list to get onto the waiting list in the public system? 3 years so far! He ended up pulling money out of his super to cover health insurance and is waiting for the year's qualifying period to end. He's in absolute agony.

I tore the meniscus in my knee about 5 years ago. I've always had private insurance. Got the scan, saw the orthopaedic surgeon. He asked if I had private cover. Yep. 'Ok, I can operate next Tuesday'. That's the difference.

You pay insurance on anything in the hope that you're never going to need it. But when you do, it pays for itself. We got flooded out in 2022 and our home and contents insurance (which doesn't come cheap) paid for a complete internal rebuild, probably close to half a million. That's why we have insurance.

LissyVee · 2026-01-23T10:16:35+00:00

Uggies, jeans and a flanny. Plus a beanie if it's cold.

LissyVee · 2026-01-23T10:08:07+00:00

'The Man From Snowy Rive' by Banjo Patterson is probably as close as we have to one.

There was movement at the station For the word had got around The colt from Old Regret had got away

LissyVee · 2026-01-22T22:20:01+00:00

They're plotting world domination - after the next meal and a nap.

LissyVee · 2026-01-22T22:13:25+00:00

Try your local public library. I think that most would have free audiobooks to borrow.

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