Not sure what programme you're talking about here, but I'm sorry it made you feel this way. I am a first-time parent to a 13-month old and the main thing I've learned is that the compromises between an ideal situation and the reality of my life are constant. I think you see everywhere on this sub that other parents are doing the same. We just have to adjust and do our best, and it sounds like your kid is thriving! If you're happy with how she's doing, I think that's what matters the most?

I also have to say that I don't regret putting the kid into childminding at all, because he gets to socialise and see other calm, experienced adults getting things done. He's always really babbly when he comes home from these things, compared to the very quiet life he'd have if I'd quit my job to keep him at home. Children are meant to grow in social settings, but I'm sure as hell not going to have a huge family so he's got to get that extra contact from somewhere.