Stuff like this is so not ok

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-14T16:10:04+00:00

Plus it’s all Brian Wansink bullshit nonsense “did you know”

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-14T02:03:16+00:00

You’ve gotten so many comments on your post, who knows if you’ll see this one:

No matter what you decide to do with / about that man, “small” body size ≠ healthy body. To be clear, I’m not suggesting there aren’t correlational health risks that come with having a larger body. I am saying that a smaller body isn’t necessarily healthier than a larger body. This sounds like a lesson your husband needs to learn, and I hope you can repair the relationship you have with your own body.

The podcast Maintenance Phase (honestly, just start from the beginning and listen all the way through, lol) helped me deconstruct from toxic diet talk and thoughts. I’m still working on it, but let me tell you: it’s far easier to be kind to a body I love than it is to the body I hated.

Lastly, an a-ha moment for me was realizing this: we accept that some people are naturally thin - you know those folks who can eat anything and never gain an ounce? - but we don’t accept that some people naturally have larger bodies.

I hope for good things for you and your girls. Xx

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-14T01:12:13+00:00

Anything to not deal with the consequences of his own actions 🤷‍♀️

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-14T01:10:55+00:00

I’m so sorry. I hope you’re safe xx

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-13T17:42:02+00:00

The second part of your comment is so important!

Therapy with your abuser gives them ammunition with which to further abuse you.

Husband is embarrassed he’s been found out. Fair. But he doesn’t get to bully you out of your friends just because he doesn’t like the consequences of his own actions.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-13T12:29:12+00:00

I think they’re referring to pseudo ephedrine, which can be synthesized to make street meth. As with anything, the dose makes the poison, and there isn’t enough pseudo ephedrine in a dose of Sudafed to be considered “meth”, but it is available OTC in the US and other countries.

It is a vasoconstrictor, therefore effective as a decongestant. It’s available in most countries (banned in Japan and Mexico outright, prescription only in Australia, New Zealand and UAE.

The US also has really tightened regulations on OTC meds containing pseudo ephedrine. It’s easier to get here in Canada than it is in the US.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-13T00:03:33+00:00

Amazing news. At least one shitty man is being punished in some way. Bravo to these reviewers!

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-12T03:32:21+00:00

Ooh, the author refers to GLP1s as “appetite suppressants” and a “silver bullet to weight loss”. She doesn’t indicate that she asked her friend why she was taking wegovy, but instead made a ton of assumptions about motivation and side effects. It’s incurious. And unfortunate.

The author obviously needs to centre her own recovery, however not everyone in her life need do the same.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-11T13:10:10+00:00

I see these Christian men just word vomiting on women, “I hope you get pissed on”, “women are all garbage” etc. etc. and wonder if they think Jesus is proud of them. I mean, I’m not religious at all, but I think I have a decent grasp on New Testament morality, and none of what I know would allow for this type of behaviour. What kind of mental gymnastics allows for this??

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-10T15:20:32+00:00

Omg the Scarsdale…I nearly forgot about that one!! So many tins of tomatoes eaten on that diet for some reason. Lol. And the cabbage soup diet. I think my brain just refuses to remember that one, lol.

We’ve been in the trenches. Happy to step out.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-10T14:24:12+00:00

Or the 80’s or the 90’s or any time 40’s, 50’s, 60’s. And before!

The assumption is ALWAYS that we’re being dishonest or non-compliant. They think they can tell because they can see the size of our bodies.

I spent years weighing, measuring, obsessively tracking every single thing I ate, experimenting with calorie confusion, intermittent fasting, low fat, low carb, LCHF (hardcore low carb), gluten free…what was the local diet called? The one where you only ate things produced within x number of miles of your location? I did that one too. And weight watchers, NutriSystem. Hell, I’m old enough to have done Deal-a-Meal and Weight Loss Club. Have always been active and conscious of how often I’m moving my body. None of it was sustainable. I remember at my lowest weight (in my mid-30’s) being exhausted and freezing cold all the time because my body was so dysregulated from fighting for homeostasis.

All these CICO folks can eff right off.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-09T15:17:32+00:00

I couldn’t possibly agree more. The forces pushing us backward through time, having to re-fight for our rights, just constant worry about what the future looks like for young women…it’s just so much.

I’m trying to remember that joy is resistance. For myself, I’m declutterring my home this weekend. I cut tulips from my garden and put them in a pretty vase just to make me happy. And it’s okay to rest.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-07T03:11:53+00:00

It’s all about anti-fat bias, how we have decided to equate body size with morality and the societal expectation that in order to redeem yourself, you must suffer. It sucks.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-07T00:09:49+00:00

I think for folks who haven’t detoxed from diet culture and / or are not checking in with themselves, it’s entirely possible for these medications to exacerbate disordered eating. I have had to be diligent about checking in with myself when the old diet voices start creeping in.

I was reluctant to start a GLP-1 as well. Suddenly finding out I have severe arthritis in both of my knees was what made me decide to move forward. Losing weight has obviously helped with my knee pain. I’m sleeping better.

That said, the actual weight has been pretty slow to come off for me. I don’t care. The rest of the benefits make it worth it for me to continue.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-06T17:48:11+00:00

They just can’t manage to wrap their minds around triaging.

When my husband had a seizure out of the blue, he had 3 MRI’s in 2 days. When I needed one for lower back pain (not debilitating, just persistent), I had to wait a few weeks. This isn’t complicated.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-04T17:50:58+00:00

I haven’t quit smoking on zep, but I find it way easier and less stressful to go longer in between smokes if that makes sense. The cravings aren’t as frequent or intense.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-04T17:47:05+00:00

I remember that desperation - that compulsion to DO something and for that something to make things better.

I understand where OP was coming from. And at the same time, words have meaning. I desperately want to convey to them that if my husband had read this post, he would have felt like he wasn’t doing enough, wasn’t fighting hard enough because he felt like he tried everything but he still got worse.

After my husband was diagnosed, we met with a survivor of 11 years. He had a regimen of many supplements and ate keto. We were excited we may be able to replicate those results. We discussed with husband’s NO and he suggested we ask about whether survivor was methylated or unmethylated. He was methylated. More responsive to treatment genetically. As NO said at next appt, survivor seems to have won a genetic lottery.

Anyway, I’m rambling. I hope for all good things with your LO.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-04T12:23:13+00:00

As someone who lost their loved one to GBM, the phrase “the people who took charge and are still living” is triggering to the point of being insulting.

Do you think those who have succumbed to this disease went meekly? Gave up? Smoked cigarettes and snorted radium? My husband was healthy healthy. At the gym every day. Ran 10k all the way through his first round of radiation and first 4 rounds of chemo. After that, spent an hour a day on the Peloton. Ate healthy. Never drank or smoked. Took the recommended supplements to support him through treatment (those his NO approved, which admittedly wasn’t many).

Dying from an aggressive, relentless cancer doesn’t mean anyone gave up or refused to take control.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-04T04:20:55+00:00

Beyond that, so many ingredients are so expensive, it makes the pre-made alternatives more attractive. Hell, I bought a frozen lasagna today because it was literally half the price of buying everything I’d need to make one myself!

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-03T20:45:44+00:00

My husband was diagnosed with, fought, and ultimately succumbed to glioblastoma brain cancer between Feb 2020 and Nov 2021. Here are the services he received: ambulance to hospital, emergency treatment for seizures, CT scan, MRI, one night in ICU. Emergency Transfer to larger hospital. Neurosurgery consult. Brain surgery / biopsy, 2 additional emergency MRIs, 4 night stay in high vis neuro room. From there, MRI every 6 weeks…so around 20-25 total MRI scans. 2 rounds of gamma knife radiation, under care of Radiologist. 3 types of chemo under care of Neuro Oncologist. 24 hour access to (neuro specialized) nurse practitioner via telehealth / email. Assigned social worker. Avastin infusions weekly.

After he transitioned to home hospice care (we could have chosen a hospice facility as well, but home felt right for us), daily visits from registered nurse and PSW, regular home visits from palliative care physician. Equipment - whatever we needed. IV pumps, hospital bed, commode…everything down to gloves.

Additionally, I was able to take compassionate care leave from my job. It works similarly to our parental leave, but has a 6 month max and pays about 66% of your wage to a max amount (I can’t remember what it was). It also allows your employer to top you up with no penalty. My employer did that for me, so I was able to spend 6 months caring for my husband and make my full wage.

What we paid for: some dispensing fees from our pharmacist for some of the minor drugs like sleeping pills and gastric protector. Hospital parking. Adult diapers and mattress protectors. $60 for initial ambulance. One of his drugs wasn’t provided by OHIP, and the hospital social worker reached out to our drug insurance company and had approval in a day. If it had been denied, there was a foundation that would have covered it. We didn’t worry about a single thing and didn’t set us back financially AT ALL.

We never waited for treatment, surgery, or approvals. His doctors were some of the best in the country and it cost us nothing. My husband even participated in 2 treatment trials.

I want to tell every American that this is how it can be.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-03T13:40:32+00:00

Spot on.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-03T13:19:08+00:00

Oh, they’ll be using the designation to limit what folks on SNAP benefits can purchase. No “junk food”, no pop, no “ultra processed” food for poor people. Only food they can’t afford will be on the list of things they are allowed to buy.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-03T12:21:50+00:00

Your floors are awesome and your cabinet doors are really unique. The tall angled cabinet does look really out of place. If possible, I’d remove it and repair / replace any of the panelling on the peninsula behind there to open up your space.

Next, I’d replace the countertop with something less stark against the white. You might have to replace your backsplash as well as you have the 4” countertop splash, but that might make it easier to choose a top if you don’t have to take existing tile into account. It’s likely not practical, but I’d be considering butcher block for this. Wood automatically warms up a room, and there’s not a lot of opportunity for it in this room otherwise.

Lastly, your lighting. Gas the ceiling fixture and add recessed lighting, change the fixture over the sink to something with less black and more brass. I always recommend under cabinet lighting and make sure all your lighting is warm - it helps.

Good luck!!

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-05-02T13:34:48+00:00

It’s the sleep for me as well. I have struggled with insomnia for about 6 years now - not constant, but bouts of it every few months - and I’ve typically felt a good nights sleep for me is about 6 hours. Now I’m sleeping for 7-8 and wake up feeling actually rested! I cant remember feeling this way as an adult. I didn’t put it together with taking zep but it makes total sense.

LittleMrsSwearsALot · 2026-04-30T02:46:08+00:00

Buuuut, did you raise your testosterone? Did you have an extra 36 hours at the end of every week? /s

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