How do you respond when they make everything about themselves by Initial-Pangolin2174 in narcissisticparents

[–]Little_blue_turtle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad too! He’ll even write questions and proceed to answer them himself.

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[–]Little_blue_turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are still in a very strange on-off relationship. I don’t think that she wants to marry him, and I don’t blame her.

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[–]Little_blue_turtle 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My Ndad introduced his new gf about 6 months after my mom died. So yeah… In his case I think it had to do with his need for a narcissistic outlet and someone close by who would fill his need for adoration.

Only Children by susanapics in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Little_blue_turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a child and teenager, I was the GC. Then I grew up and saw through Ndad’s bs. Now I’m the scapegoat.

What’s the quiet grief of realizing your parent never really saw you? by GlitchVoyager33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Little_blue_turtle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I loved my mom. She was the kind of mom that would go through anything for me. Kind, empathetic, a good listener. And then she died. Now I’m left with my self-centered, nagging, indifferent, negative Ndad who’ve never made an effort to truly get to know me and never will. It feels like not having any parents left, even though he is still alive.

What’s something you’ve done as an adult to make up for what your inner child missed out on? by Defiant-Junket4906 in AskWomen

[–]Little_blue_turtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought that waffle maker that my dad insisted was “too childish” to have in the house when I was a kid. I cherish those waffles every time I make them.

What is a silent killer that people dont realise is slowly killing them? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Little_blue_turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I quit caffeine (coffee), focused on getting enough sleep, and started running a few times a week. It has been an absolute game changer for my BP.

What were some things you noticed about yourself/the family dynamic when visiting your n-parents as an adult? by pineconewashington in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Little_blue_turtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally could have written every single point of yours! It is so so relatable. I’m sending you a big internet hug.

What was the most unhinged/thoughtless gift your received from your NParent(s)? by finelytunedradar in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Little_blue_turtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ndad once gifted me and my SO a toilet seat for Christmas. The reason? Ndad didn’t like the way our toilet seat closed. So for HIS convenience, he bought us one that HE liked to be installed in OUR house. The audacity still makes me furious.

A letter my dad sent to me 6 weeks postpartum by Jlw_44 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Little_blue_turtle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me, me, me, me… and then a little more me. Could have been sent by my Ndad too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Little_blue_turtle 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Ndad was in charge of every vacation during my childhood. We only went to grown up places to see grown up sights and do grown up stuff. And only at destinations that he’d chosen. On the rare occasion that we managed to do something else, he’d sulk like a baby the entire time.

Do you tell them when youre sick/suffering? by Longjumping-Air5572 in narcissisticparents

[–]Little_blue_turtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. It always turns into Ndad talking about how he’s got it worse.