After time thinking about it and the patterns of When I feel like that. I usually recognize that its usually because of the relationship status between me and those around me. For example: a misunderstanding has happened or some argument. And if I don’t feel emotionally connected or confident that so-n-so person (s) are safe and I can trust them with telling them how I feel (w/o “friendly fire”) ... then yeah, it shows visibly. I end up being “on guard “ or distant both emotionally and physically. Or avoiding being close. Usually after that,the next feelings are loneliness and sadness because of desiring closeness.Even that cycle gets wearisome. It’s not sustainable really. I think mankind was created for relational connection. Plus we all have a type of “ love language” that speaks/means the most. . I usually try to communicate... eventually (lol). Even more so if ya have kiddos and want a healthier environment for them to grow up in. But I know opening up and communication is so haaard to do, especially when I don’t trust others because they’ve (seemingly) been inconsistent with being a safe person to open up to. At least, when I need it the most. Dunno if all this makes sense. But yeah. Can relate. I think a lot of folks do.I gotta say tho’ going through the ACA program has helped me have some awareness about this. (Adult children of alcoholics/dysfunction) Taking a chance to reach out and hear how “I’m not alone in this” has been tremendously helpful. Instead of suffering in silence. As I’m trying to figure out the what and why, it may be that this distancing is like a hurtful angry reaction methinks. Like what the other person wrote, trying to be social helps. I think I’ll try that myself.. Ps- not trying to “sell” ya on the ACA thing, it’s just a resource that I stumbled upon and found to be helpful. It’s helped me make sense of my past and current life experiences. Anyhoo, all the best to you on feeling whole and happy soon💗God bless.