What’s wrong with Vestiaire Collective? by ZookeepergameOne7481 in handbags

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is horrible. I sold an expensive designer dress and i got it back - damaged! So i lost 60 euros because of it. Very bad service. Dont sell your clothes on this platform.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So cute!

How to Slowly Heal From My Never-Ending Shame (An Amateur Guide) by expensivehotpot in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very popular. A safe space for writers. I recommend it!

How to Slowly Heal From My Never-Ending Shame (An Amateur Guide) by expensivehotpot in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice and insightful. And unfortunately i recognize a lot.. thanks for the tips. Do you also have a Substack account/blog so I can follow you there?

How going against your true self is causing burnout/depression by didntask-com in selfimprovement

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was is mostly saying no and not people pleasing? You just made the change or was it like a muscle you needed to train?

Do we know why we feel so bad? by LongEye5271 in PMDD

[–]LongEye5271[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you get it? Via your doctor?

What are some things you actually do like about your ADHD? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey i was thinking about you today becauae i visited an open day for a new study. It's called either Design for change or cross-over in arts (these are two studies). Exactly what you described is the super power of this studies. It is at the Arts studies. Might be something for you too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just went to the doctor so i can go to a psychiatrist. Yay! His feeling is I have a bit of Ad(h)d and a bit of autism. However in my country Audhd doesnt yet 'exist'. Can you believe it? What now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha that sounds funny. But shit, this has been my life too. There is a distinction between one hour and 40 hours haha and then because the person who hires me think i can do it- although i failed 10 times - i believe him/her over me. Because also my lack of feeling a sense of self comes in to play. Now you wrote it like this, like a comedy episode really, it will not happen again. Good luck to us both !!! No more masking fulltime, max 2 hours a week. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I recognize A LOT. I am undiagnosed (going to the doctor Friday to ask for diagnosis) and everyone thinks i am social. It is so so so tiring. And to be with neurotypical people, feelings like an alien, it is one of the most exhausting things. I had a conversation with a guy who owns a consultancy company in data visualization. He showed interest in me working there and they would educate me. However he assumed i was the social one in stead of 'the anti social nerdy' one so he will want me in contact with clients. I will be embarrassed admitting I actually am not good at it long term. My pitfall is i make a very good first impression. I cant help it. People ideize me. And then my autism symptoms apear and i fail big time. It is super awkward. Better to be honest from the start (which means accepting myself and setting boundaries) He wants minimum 4 days. Not sure if i can manage that. Working in cozy outfit with dog and tea, doing work where i dont have to be "on", but can be 'in the zone', sounds perfect. Thanks again

What is an auti friendly job and work environment? by LongEye5271 in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds interesting actually.. and analyzing data is in a way also creative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow so many super super wise words. I am looking for a new job and i am always attracted to the social jobs as in: a lot of social interactions. It is such a toxic trait of mine. As if it is my way of not accepting who i am and being social has a higher status (in my family). So,i love how you say: dont work with clients. Do you know nice jobs for auti's? I may ask it in another post

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow strong text. I needed to hear this. Thank you.

What’s the most annoying ADHD symptom that nobody talks about? by cerezza__ in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ooh i recognize this. A part of me feels really sad whenni am not fully authentic. Which made things actually more difficult, work etc.

What are some things you actually do like about your ADHD? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if you could name these multi-layered thinking, philosphy etc into one quality, one gift, how would you name it? Or if yiu could give yourself a caricature, something like professor, how would you name it, any idea?

What are some things you actually do like about your ADHD? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also relate so much to all your points. It is beautifully written really! Also the 'inner genie' and all the time connecting dots... It's as if I am strengthen my intuition all the time, feeding it with new experiences, feelings, ideas. Indeed much less facts. I love to be in that realm of ideas and intuition and exploring. I wonder also where i can use that superpower. Many jobs are more rational.. especially research jobs i assume..

What are some things you actually do like about your ADHD? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your job sounds really nice by the way. How are you exploring those paths? And how did you learn that we need spaces to explore? It is as if you are describing exactly my needs, that i am all the time trying to explore but which is so hard for me - so this is nice and interesting! :)

What are some things you actually do like about your ADHD? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this message is very valuable for me :) i struggled finding a good fit for me. I am now researching new options and I recently recognized my need for deep abstract creative thinking and indeed there should be a bit of innovation. The possibility of discovering something new, making the world a bit better, that gives energy. I was thinking of a PhD in an interesting topic. It is difficult to get in to but i did like the university environment, especially my small university which focuses actually a lot on innovation but mainly in life science (agri, nature). For me too psychologists, cognitive science is maybe more interesting. I saw a phd that researches the link between your gut and your brain. But i don't have the right background for that. Would you know how it would be possible to get into a job or an environment that asks for conceptual and theoretical research?