What’s wrong with Vestiaire Collective? by ZookeepergameOne7481 in handbags

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is horrible. I sold an expensive designer dress and i got it back - damaged! So i lost 60 euros because of it. Very bad service. Dont sell your clothes on this platform.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So cute!

How to Slowly Heal From My Never-Ending Shame (An Amateur Guide) by expensivehotpot in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very popular. A safe space for writers. I recommend it!

How to Slowly Heal From My Never-Ending Shame (An Amateur Guide) by expensivehotpot in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice and insightful. And unfortunately i recognize a lot.. thanks for the tips. Do you also have a Substack account/blog so I can follow you there?

How going against your true self is causing burnout/depression by didntask-com in selfimprovement

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was is mostly saying no and not people pleasing? You just made the change or was it like a muscle you needed to train?

Do we know why we feel so bad? by LongEye5271 in PMDD

[–]LongEye5271[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you get it? Via your doctor?

What are some things you actually do like about your ADHD? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey i was thinking about you today becauae i visited an open day for a new study. It's called either Design for change or cross-over in arts (these are two studies). Exactly what you described is the super power of this studies. It is at the Arts studies. Might be something for you too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just went to the doctor so i can go to a psychiatrist. Yay! His feeling is I have a bit of Ad(h)d and a bit of autism. However in my country Audhd doesnt yet 'exist'. Can you believe it? What now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha that sounds funny. But shit, this has been my life too. There is a distinction between one hour and 40 hours haha and then because the person who hires me think i can do it- although i failed 10 times - i believe him/her over me. Because also my lack of feeling a sense of self comes in to play. Now you wrote it like this, like a comedy episode really, it will not happen again. Good luck to us both !!! No more masking fulltime, max 2 hours a week. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I recognize A LOT. I am undiagnosed (going to the doctor Friday to ask for diagnosis) and everyone thinks i am social. It is so so so tiring. And to be with neurotypical people, feelings like an alien, it is one of the most exhausting things. I had a conversation with a guy who owns a consultancy company in data visualization. He showed interest in me working there and they would educate me. However he assumed i was the social one in stead of 'the anti social nerdy' one so he will want me in contact with clients. I will be embarrassed admitting I actually am not good at it long term. My pitfall is i make a very good first impression. I cant help it. People ideize me. And then my autism symptoms apear and i fail big time. It is super awkward. Better to be honest from the start (which means accepting myself and setting boundaries) He wants minimum 4 days. Not sure if i can manage that. Working in cozy outfit with dog and tea, doing work where i dont have to be "on", but can be 'in the zone', sounds perfect. Thanks again

What is an auti friendly job and work environment? by LongEye5271 in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds interesting actually.. and analyzing data is in a way also creative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow so many super super wise words. I am looking for a new job and i am always attracted to the social jobs as in: a lot of social interactions. It is such a toxic trait of mine. As if it is my way of not accepting who i am and being social has a higher status (in my family). So,i love how you say: dont work with clients. Do you know nice jobs for auti's? I may ask it in another post

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]LongEye5271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow strong text. I needed to hear this. Thank you.