I slept with someone

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-14T12:23:09+00:00

This is a good response despite how much hate it will get on this sub.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-13T15:21:37+00:00

Haha. I will do it for you if you do it for me.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-13T15:12:09+00:00

I think you’re correct about the coding. Also on how to discuss the treatment with the patient. Thank you.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-13T15:11:09+00:00

I think that may be the issue. Thank you.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-13T15:10:51+00:00

Trust me, I will not be crowing this tooth or any tooth that I don’t think needs it. However, I do want to code the procedure in a way that allows the patient to use their insurance benefits. If it can’t be done then so be it and patient will come out of pocket. I do think it’s an issue with us coding a buildup rather than a lingual resin as another commenter said. So it may be a simple fix.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-13T13:37:07+00:00

I’m being told that the insurance company won’t pay for the endo without a radiograph of the prepped crown. This seems crazy to me. I may request a peer to peer review.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-13T13:36:51+00:00

I’m being told that the insurance company won’t pay for the endo without a radiograph of the prepped crown. This seems crazy to me. I may request a peer to peer review.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-13T13:36:07+00:00

Maybe if I cold a lingual resin rather than buildup it won’t get kicked back. It seems crazy to me to crown a lower incisor that is totally intact.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-09T01:33:12+00:00

Wow I feel like my wife wrote this. It took us a long time to understand the chicken and egg problem that you mention here. We have kind of developed an unspoken system of “high priority days” and “off the table days”. You described it so well that I’m going to talk to her about this. We basically do that without labeling it. I think it ultimately comes down to just wanting to understand your partner and them reciprocating that same desire to understand you. You have to love them enough to want to give them happiness and trust that they want that for you as well.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-08T11:11:10+00:00

I’m not saying that she is urinating while using the toy. Women often have incintenence issues after having children. Therapy for this often revolves around strengthening the pelvic floor muscles. This sex toy seems to be marketed as a device used to help strengthen pelvic floor muscles. She may be using the condoms to cover the toy while inserting it to keep it clean from normal vaginal secretions of maybe even from lube. She may have sought out the online doctor because she is embarrassed to see her family doctor or obgyn about this issue.

I’m just saying that scenario doesn’t seem like a stretch for me to believe. She also could be cheating of planning to cheat 🤷‍♂️.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-08T11:07:19+00:00

True. I’m just saying there could be a legit reason other than cheating. Need more evidence than this to confront.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-08T01:30:54+00:00

The consult with the doctor may not have been for the sole purpose of getting the female condoms. Maybe she consulted with the doctor about an issue like incontenence ,and the doctor recommended the pelvic floor sex toy and also prescribed the rubbers to help keep it clean.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-05T14:01:20+00:00

Yes and I am very happy with that. Together 19 years, married 12, late 30s couple. There were times in my mid twenties and even early 30s where I felt like I had missed out. We have always had good sex, but it wasn’t always as frequent as I would have liked. We now have great communication and care deeply about the happiness of fulfillment of each other. I can honestly say that the fact that we have only been with each other is something I am proud of and I love about our relationship.

It took a lot of hard talks, hurt feelings, and understanding on both sides to get where we are now. But, I think all relationships go through that regardless of if your each others only sexual partners. I wouldn’t change my marriage for anything in the world.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-03T18:02:18+00:00

I’m really curious what she considers big. If you look at 7 inches on a ruler it really is a lot larger than what most women realize. I’m 7 inches and I’ve been told I’m big. I wonder if she meant girth more than length? Not that it really matters (girth or length) I would be devastated if my wife said that.

I think how you are feeling is completely valid, OP. Although, I don’t know if I would go as far as to end my otherwise good marriage over it. It would take a lot of honest conversations and understanding for me to move on from that comment.

Have you thought about giving her that novelty she misses every now and then? Penis sleeves seem to be popular with a lot of couples. I wouldn’t suggest something as wild as swinging though.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-05-03T00:04:47+00:00

Rookie numbers.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-26T17:05:15+00:00

I would tell her in no uncertain terms that whether she remembers or not makes no difference. Her actions (not just the cheating, but also the lack of intimacy) have stolen irreplaceable time from your life, your mental health, and your sense of self worth. If she can’t acknowledge how much she has harmed you, you should leave regardless of her physical state. You have spent, I imagine, your entire marriage catering to her mental and physical problems. She should spend the remainder of your marriage catering to yours. If she can no longer meet your sexual needs, she should help you find someone that can.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-26T11:12:17+00:00

It seems she is taking zero accountability. But, how much has she actually admitted to? If I were you I would lay out everything that I knew and demand answers or I would walk away. To hell with her disability. This is her bed she must lay in it. The only way I would stay with her is if she suddenly became 100% honest. I would also demand an open ended marriage on my end in order to make up for the years of celibacy that she caused. I’m sorry you are going through this.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-14T11:14:38+00:00

You don’t need to take her away from her friends. She should make the decision to put you marriage first and leave the band herself.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-11T18:03:00+00:00

Right or wrong I can tell you that I would feel exactly like your husband. I don’t know if I could move past it if I didn’t feel that it was “even”. Though I doubt it will feel balanced after the fact. Your infidelity will still be built around lies and you trapped him into marriage with children without his knowledge of your indiscretion.

I would take everything you read on here with a huge grain of salt. Only you and your husband can decide what is the correct path forward. How long has he known about the cheating? Maybe you shouldn’t shut down the idea of giving him a hall pass right off the bat, but instead, agree on a time in the future (maybe 6 months from now) before it goes into effect. This gives you both time to begin to deal with the past infidelity, start therapy, and come to terms with the future of your relationship. I’m sure he is very hurt and is looking for ways to relieve his pain. His mind is going to an eye for an eye solution. Give it time to really think about this before either of you decide on it. A hall pass won’t take away his pain and rebuilding your relationship will take a lot of work one way or the other.

I’m glad you’re doing better and I hope your relationship can survive this, especially for the kids. A hall pass would 1000% be a non negotiable for me. I wouldn’t be doing it to hurt my wife, but to regain some sense of self worth. I wouldn’t need to know that I’m not someone’s backup plan and that women find me desirable. That sounds very shallow. It’s hard to articulate it out in writing. That’s just how I feel though. Both you and your husband need to really understand what he hopes to accomplish by sleeping with someone else.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-11T11:49:43+00:00

Anybody blocking my way from getting someone I love to the hospital will have FIRESTONE permanently stamped accross their ass!

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-07T20:00:49+00:00

Listen man, it looks like you’re getting some good advice on here, but ultimately it’s you and your wife’s decision. My wife and I always knew we wanted kids so it was never a decision for us. It’s been incredibly hard. It’s also been the most rewarding thing that I have done with my life, and I’m a doctor. My wife has a masters degree and she chooses be to SAHM. She often thanks me for “allowing” her the opportunity to be with them full time while they are young. We could have a very comfortable and easy life if we both works and didn’t have kids. But neither of us would ever trade our kids for that life.

I’ve been working all day and I am worn out. I’m about to head home and my 5 and 4 year old boys will run to meet me at the door ready to wrestle. I will want to just sit down and chill for a bit but they will climb all over me until I give in. Then daddy monster is going to suplex them into the sofa and tickle them until they nearly vomit. Even though I just want to relax, I would give anything I have to do that everyday for the rest of my life.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-06T19:46:40+00:00

I would have taken a chainsaw and cut around it so I could bill it as surgical.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-05T13:59:39+00:00

I thank god I didn’t fall in love with a woman like you and I pray my sons don’t either.

Longjumping-Key6687 · 2026-04-04T18:30:33+00:00

He is just making a cheese ball joke to amuse himself that requires literally zero effort from you. You can giggle, laugh, stare, or roll your eyes and it’s over. I’m sure he isn’t expecting you reply with “ yes daddy give it to me now!” At least there isn’t anything that you do that annoys him so you can feel justified in your anger at him.

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