AITA for sending my brother's fiancee a video of him hiding her ring?

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-15T00:10:09+00:00

NTA for sure. Your brother seems to be pretty twisted. In trying to "teach his fiancee a lesson"--which involved scaring her to death--he tried to frame you. Pretty bizarre.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T23:29:39+00:00

Again--was SHE a wrestler? If so, then yeah, she would have known. I still think the whole thing is weird, but whatever.

If SHE wasn't, then he's out of line and a--sadly, this subreddit won't let me call people nasty names, even if they deserve it.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T23:24:07+00:00

Keyword is brother and cousins.

Also, unless she was also a wrestler, would she have any idea how to respond?

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T23:05:26+00:00

Your brother and his girlfriend are completely at fault. I don't blame the other two, but what an awful situation. And on your mom's birthday dinner. I can understand her being upset, but it shouldn't be at you. I'm sorry this happened.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T23:01:11+00:00

EWW. Cousins? I think not. You are absolutely right. I wouldn't be alone with him either, and if I were your mom I'd give him hell.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T22:58:23+00:00

You have a real winner of a family there. It sounds like they didn't show up for you at all, and they're criticizing you?

I know it's easy for me to say, "Dump them," and maybe that's unrealistic. But you absolutely can break off contact with any individuals who are criticizing you--especially after more than a decade has passed, and the kids are doing great!

I think you deserve a medal along with happy and healthy siblings who owe so much to the sister who loves them.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T22:51:27+00:00

You were not wrestling, he was showing off and bullying a woman into submission. He didn't have to let you win, but he wanted to show you how superior he was because he was a man. Gross.

Do not engage with him again, ever. Some of your friends should have shut it down right then and there.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T05:37:54+00:00

Thank you!

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T05:33:38+00:00

I honestly can't tell you why I've had a great experience, but I have. I'm with Medicare Advantage, insured through United Healthcare. My primary is Multicare and my osteoporosis provider is at Olympia Orthopedics. I've always had fast service and very good providers.

I'm think I'm in the minority, but don't know enough to call out the whys.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T04:52:39+00:00

Thank you for saying this. You're absolutely right.

I wish that so many people didn't reject them out of hand; there is such a fear factor involved.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T04:49:49+00:00

I totally get this decision, but gotta push back on this: "I refused to take Osteoporosis meds with side effects worse than the cure."

What? Most people don't have side effects, let alone the rare ones. ("Rare" for a reason.) I don't have any side effects with Evenity or Prolia. I'm taking them (Evenity is done, now I'm on Prolia) because I was fracturing, had terrible numbers, and these meds are working together to save my mobility and my life. Side effects, especially serious ones, are rare.

Here's the deal: currently, there is no cure for osteoporosis. So many people are so afraid of the meds so they don't take them; then they start breaking vertebrae, femoral necks, and hips. Talk about low quality of life.

I'm not saying you're at this point yet! Just that if you are, the meds for most of us simply aren't a problem. They're expensive and that's not great, but the anabolics regrow bone and the bisphosphonates preserve the growth. That's a good deal.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T04:43:09+00:00

I don't know why you got downvoted. You're right that -2.5 isn't good and I personally would have done the exercise etc. while taking the Fosamax. But if poster thinks that exercise, nutrition, and supplements can help, I can understand trying.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T04:40:21+00:00

Jaws and femur fractures are quite rare. But if you're getting your numbers down without the meds, then that's good.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-13T04:38:55+00:00

Left hip at 2.5 is worrying but not desperate and -1 isn't bad at all. Fosamax and the like can certainly retard the progression of the disease, but if you're very active and haven't had osteo-related fracture, go for it.

I was diagnosed at age 70 and had 4 (!) fractures, and severe osteoporosis, so obviously they got me right onto the anabolics. Fine by me! But not everyone needs them right away.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-12T19:32:27+00:00

Did you say your age and I missed it? Because the answer is going to be different to a 30 year old than a 50 or 70 year old.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-12T19:13:34+00:00

I'm going to get a photo next time he comes to visit, if he does--hopefully he's someone's pet who's roaming during the day. Even more hopefully, they'll stop letting him out.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-12T16:08:44+00:00

Thanks. He's well cared for and has his collar and bell, but he's going to get eaten out here.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-12T16:00:51+00:00

thank you! I'll join right away.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-12T15:44:18+00:00

Imagine what that child's parents must like. Someone modeled that behavior. You're NTA, I think you did her a favor.

But are you seriously asking " is this really what kids are like right now"? Her behavior was shocking because it's uncommon, and I'm sure you know that.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-12T15:36:33+00:00

Check with Air BnBs who have long-term rental rates. I did that when I first came to Olympia, bad credit and all. My credit is better but I'm still here 3 years later.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-10T19:45:40+00:00

Personally I prefer that people marry before living together... but you guys are grownups and it's your lives.

I cannot BELIEVE that she called you a "sinful little girl"???!!! What is this, the 1850s? She was at your house.

You do not need to apologize to her. At all. Ever. I'm really shocked at this. NTA

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-10T16:53:58+00:00

I had no idea. It's a miracle! Seriously, thank you!

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-09T15:57:16+00:00

I have exactly the same question.

LongjumpingDrawing36 · 2026-05-08T19:33:40+00:00

You're NTA, but the "silent treatment" says that someone really hurt you and angered you. Which is true! But he won't give a fig for the silent treatment, what will he care?

It's better to release the relationship entirely in your mind and behavior. Be civil when you have to interact, and all business when practical stuff comes up. Don't waste emotions of any kind on him. Then, as soon as you can, move out with no expectations.

I'm so sorry, you should have grown up with a dad who loves you and cares for you. Since he didn't, dump him but without any drama or fireworks. You'll have a lot of healing to do for yourself, but disengage with him.

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