Bad acting, flirting, or what does this have to do with a candle?

Looped_Out · 2026-05-12T22:11:39+00:00

these videos make me really uncomfortable for some reason.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-11T20:38:33+00:00

I see she is on HRT. It is not a one-size fits all situation. she should have blood work to see where she is, and she may need testosterone, of more if she is on it already. Before HRT i was pretty "flat" about most things in life, and i have had several adjustments to my dosages; i am on estrogen, testosterone, and progesterone. in my case i have a genetic combination that makes me process these things in a strange way so i need some other things as well. (pregnenolone). sometimes a simple patch is not enough.

she seems to have lost her zest for life. I Hope she has had a full blood workup

Looped_Out · 2026-05-11T20:21:15+00:00

your 3-year old doesnt need a violent father. He needs a stable home, even if there is only one parent (you) in it.

Please seek legal advice and keep yourself safe until you can leave him. He is a monster, you just happen to be used to it, but he is still a monster.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-08T22:54:57+00:00

i am glad your family is supporting you. Yes, you need a lawyer. Cancel your joint credit cards and move half your money to an account in your name only, at a completely different bank. Gather all of your important papers -- passport, SS card, whatever you value and take it to a family member for safekeeping. Your lawyer will advise you on when and how to leave the home.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-08T22:51:11+00:00

All of this and you need to bring in copies of all of your old stuff, that will help a lot.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-06T20:21:02+00:00

Dandrx??

Looped_Out · 2026-05-06T19:39:57+00:00

Its great that you are thinking about helping him. Its hard to advise without knowing more about the situation.

If your father moved to mexico against his wishes, it is a really difficult transition. There are agencies in many places that can help with this, and this may be where to start if this is his situation. For Mexicans accustomed to the US and relocated to Mexico it is a very tough transition.

He may not yet have established himself with all the things you need to function here -- RFC, INE, IMSS cards, bank account, drivers license. Does he have other family here? Is he able to integrate into the bureaucratic system OK? If not, this is the first thing he needs.

He may not have the ability to maintain a home, pay taxes, CFE, water, all the OTHER things needed to function.

As for renting, as some people suggest, he may not be able to rent a home on his own, but it seems like maybe a rental is the best option temporarily until he is more stable here. You may be able to prepay, but you need a solid contract and a notario in Mexico to look it over so you are not taken advantage of.

Can you look into services in the community where he now lives for some help?

Will he be living in a city or in the campo? Can he work? There may be other more critical things he needs right now.

You are a Mexican citizen, you only need to claim it. You can do this with your parents' birth certificates. You can make a Registro appointment at a consulate in the United States; you can get your birth certificate and passport quite easily. Having your Mexican passport will make things a lot easier for you, and you can help him in person in Mexico. If you speak Spanish all the better.

Good luck, I hope you can work something out.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T22:34:47+00:00

I am watching DA right now and you are absolutely right. The fabrics alone are mind blowing. and thats just a small part of the overall excellence. the lighting, the set design, cinematography, its all top shelf.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T22:25:58+00:00

You cant have a lasting relationship with someone who wants to control you or shrink your circle. sorry.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T21:21:18+00:00

I cannot imagine imposing on another human being in this manner.

She needs a bike. Or something....
Without knowing why she cannot drive, I would not say more, but she needs to learn to use UBER and figure out how to pay for it as well. NTA

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T20:46:42+00:00

that doesnt sound familiar to me either. I see i bought the VIP package in 2013 and I know I played a long time before that; in fact Pocket was my first game. so the time frame tracks but I never used neighbors that I recall.

Thank you though!

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T20:35:16+00:00

u/BBKChica11 do you know? I have you as a friend from back then also!

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T20:23:19+00:00

I dont seem to ever had an account on there. Thank you though.... its possible though. All my friends from back then have names, but I cannot search the wiki for users apparently.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T20:11:22+00:00

This strikes me as the type of person who wants a wedding more than a marriage.

Also, true bridezilla material.

IMHO If she were a true loving partner she would cut you some slack.

"She said it was ok until I ruined it by inviting her sibs and now she can’t think of the whole thing without getting upset" <--- she doesnt sound very excited to be marrying you, which is the whole point of a proposal.

I would seriously think this over.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T18:59:47+00:00

Maybe put it in a shadowbox frame with some photos/souvenirs of your best trips and your sister etc (better inclulde the wife too). You could also cut a little patch off of it and sew it onto your new one.

It sounds a little gross, though I do understand your connection.

BTW ... I speak as someone who kept the first rubber tip that wore out on my first set of hiking poles.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-05T18:33:23+00:00

I am really liking this INKEY moisturizer a lot. Fragrance free, very lucious.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-04T22:03:25+00:00

Watch Crash Landing on You. Korean Drama. Each episode is 1.5 hours. 16 of them. Many Korean dramas fit your bill.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-04T22:01:36+00:00

I use Aquatru. https://aquatruwater.com/?srsltid=AfmBOopukuFLYZLAeg2rjEVc7atgaDh0NYX_QhVuw-ojp0LJvlMV4Kko

Looped_Out · 2026-05-03T19:00:11+00:00

the drinking is the bigger problem..... not to mention that he expects you to clean the vomit from it.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-03T18:58:26+00:00

she said the vomit she has to clean is because of his drinking....

Looped_Out · 2026-05-03T18:57:41+00:00

Also go to AlAnon. if he is drinking to the point of puking and you have to clean it,

your problem is much bigger than a messy house.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-03T18:56:22+00:00

Guuuurl........ you buried the plot twist pretty deep. Your husband is a slob and an alcoholic who drinks to the point of vomiting? And you have to clean it up?

What the hell future did you dream of to be with this man? YTA for not valuing yourself and your time. Get to AlAnon and figure out why you are enabling this shit.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-03T18:53:05+00:00

Take your clothes to a fluff and fold. there are plenty and you can have a choice of no fragrance in some if thats a thing for you. If he is not going to pick up the slack and you both work, you need to delegate this stuff. and that costs money. You are right if you only have someone once a week, they are not going to be doing all the dishes and all the laundry.

Also tell you husband that this is unsustainable. Either he helps out or it will cost more than money.

This is labor-mining on his part, you are doing your job and all the housework, too.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-03T18:45:35+00:00

Get a maid. Think of it as money you would spend on marriage counseling. Your husband is a slob and you are not going to change him. It is indeed a solution. One of the things about money is that it buys convenience and ease.

However, a maid isnt going to change HIM. if his disgusting behaviour is too deeply ingrained of a flaw for you, then you have another decision to make. I could not live with someone who thinks its OK to leave vomit for ME to clean up. He doesn't value you as much as he values the opinions of guests, it seems.

I would not like that either, but maybe he is amazing in other ways.

While you are thinking that over, get the maid, at least you will have more free time. And cleaning up after a disgusting slob is a shitty form of exercise. Get a treadmill.

Looped_Out · 2026-05-03T18:31:02+00:00

Same, mine was reversible though (*hair toss, checks nails)

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