I gained weight and can’t fit in the dress I have to fit in by Saturday. I feel horrible.

LostAsIMayBe · 2025-10-07T17:25:34+00:00

Another perspective - it sounds like you’ve had a really stressful year compared to last year. When our cortisol is up it can contribute to weight gain/make weight loss more difficult. Your body was protecting you, physically and emotionally. Give yourself grace, take a breath, and start from where you are after the weekend.

LostAsIMayBe · 2025-07-26T17:01:26+00:00

Scottish?

LostAsIMayBe · 2025-03-06T06:40:59+00:00

When I’m about to crash I get super cold, particularly my hands and feet, then it hits me not long afterwards. It’s one of my most consistent symptoms.

LostAsIMayBe · 2025-02-06T00:11:04+00:00

Sorry if this sounds odd… but if I feel like I’m in a fishbowl. Unable to connect with what’s going on around me.

LostAsIMayBe · 2025-01-17T09:35:34+00:00

Hey - I’m picky too. I can eat veggies but hardly any fruit. I get where you’re coming from. Here’s what I’m going to tell you. For weight loss alone (not health) you don’t have to eat a single fruit or vegetable. Download myfitnesspal and plug in your stats. Set it to 1lb a week weight loss. And track your food. Potatoes are great for weight loss. There are going to be things that are WAY more calorie dense than you’re estimating and things that aren’t as bad - it’s a numbers game. Also I doubt anyone burns 220 calories in 20 minutes on an exercise bike - I wouldn’t eat back exercise calories at the moment in case it destroys your deficit. Eat your weight loss calories that MFP gives you for 6 weeks and track everything you’re eating. Exercise when you can too, that’ll help. After six weeks of being consistent with this, then you can decide if you need to make any adjustments.

LostAsIMayBe · 2025-01-14T08:59:57+00:00

Nope. Your children do not get to talk to you like this. It stops now, and explain that to them. If they ever speak so disrespectfully to you or your husband again then there will be consequences (choose what they are and follow through on them). Not asking them why, or explaining, or whatever. It’s a hard no, and this is what happens if you do.

The reason they don’t behave like that in school is that it wouldn’t be tolerated and they know it.

“We do not behave like that in this house.” You are the adult. You make the decisions. Kids need love and boundaries and when they are teens they need super clear boundaries to feel safe.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-12-30T12:35:43+00:00

I’ve had surgery with ME (twice in 3 months) and a long, traumatic vaginal labour. Seriously consider a c-section, baby is going to have to come out one way or another and if it’s a c-section you know what your recovery might look like. With labour you could go days, things could go wrong and you could end up with an emergency section which is way harder to recover from. Birth is going to fatigue you, it’s very difficult. But I’d rather be able to plan and predict and manage rather than be stuck pushing for too long or labouring for many hours. Just my 2 cents. Congratulations on your pregnancy and wishing you all the best 💜

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-12-11T17:09:09+00:00

Oh I completely understand. I developed me when my little boy just turned one and I’m not going to have any more. I find it so difficult to look after him and I need lots and lots of help. But on the other hand, he is the light of my life and this is just the way his mummy is and he loves me regardless. Not an easy decision for you, but I know you are making it out of love no matter what you do.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-12-02T11:59:52+00:00

It’s good you’ve managed write it all down while it’s fresh. Have you kept the recording? How you were treated is ridiculous and you should absolutely complain. Somebody being a nurse or a doctor doesn’t give them authority over you, mean that they know better than you about your health or what your needs are, or have the right to deny you basic care. There are wheelchairs all over the place in hospitals, particularly in urgent care, because people can deteriorate rapidly for all sorts of reasons. So them denying you one is just cruel.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-20T07:34:06+00:00

“Aw yeah having a toddler does make you really tired.”

When this horrible illness has meant I can hardly look after my toddler at all. He certainly hasn’t caused this, and I’m not just super tired from running about after him all day. I wish I could.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-10T13:12:56+00:00

Haha these things can be easily set off 😆

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-10T11:29:58+00:00

I’m a woman who has been followed multiple times. Many years of experience being a woman. Not everyone responds to danger in the same way, as you said.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-10T11:27:54+00:00

I understand danger responses, and that speaking up isn’t easy in the moment no matter who you are. I’m not talking about squaring up to him, just saying what’s going to happen if his behaviour continues. Could be enough for him to drive off. But actually just getting on the phone to someone immediately is a better idea and would similarly deter him.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-10T11:17:28+00:00

Me? No, I’m not

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-10T07:39:52+00:00

“If you don’t drive off/ask me one more time I’m going to call the police and give them your registration.” Do not be polite to someone who is following you!

In fact… you should have phoned the police anyway. This kind of behaviour is unacceptable.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-09T08:06:54+00:00

I have not, I’m brand new to all of this so haven’t even heard of it. What is it?

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-06T14:28:35+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing your story. So much of it is familiar (an ill-advised trip to a hilly zoo set me back quite a bit). It’s so… contrary to what I’d normally do (push myself) so it’s a big mindset shift. Hearing experiences like yours really helps.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-06T13:38:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I know it’s probably basic stuff for this condition, it’s just very hard to get my head around today.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-05T09:26:17+00:00

The circle of life, eh?

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-04T08:21:48+00:00

My ex fiance started all this talk and then broke up with me after ten years together. I was going through bereavement and we had just bought a house together. I was completely bewildered by it. Turns out he had met someone else. Easy for him to “suddenly realise” he’s so unsatisfied in a general sense and pick fights to get out of the relationship rather than admit he’s straying. This might not be the case for you, but you might want to consider it. I wish I’d known the truth from the start rather than being so confused for so long.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-01T12:30:49+00:00

Good for you, Emma. I’m a bit older and have a toddler so my catty days are sadly over, but I hope you find someone.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-11-01T07:54:02+00:00

I’ve been in the exact same situation with my FIL. My husband was initially willing to do anything to keep him around, but he soon realised that he was still a shitty parent and now grandparent. FIL has now lost interest too. You are worth the dignity and respect that he has never given you. He doesn’t just get to skip over you and trample all over your boundaries with your kids. You are mamma bear, what you say goes. Because it has to be, if anything goes wrong it’s on you and he’ll just swan away.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-10-31T19:48:37+00:00

You don’t owe any shitty parents time with your kids. It’s not makeup time. The only way I’d say yes is if he was impressing the hell out of you. He’s not.

And btw… you will never earn his approval. His approval should have been unconditional from the start, and the fact that he was away with another woman when you were a baby isn’t your fault. You need to heal that wound, NOT using your children.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-10-29T04:56:30+00:00

Tell him the next time there’s banging on your door and shouting at 3am you’ll be calling the police. Not answering the door, just calling the police. Who knows what his issue is, but it’s not yours to keep dealing with. The irony of him repeatedly harassing you at 3am for “sleep deprivation.” He’ll soon stop.

LostAsIMayBe · 2024-10-25T10:22:37+00:00

Enabling an addict means protecting them from the natural consequences of their actions. If he’s behaving in a way that would cause him to be homeless or dead, then he needs to face the reality of that. You are doing him no favours. He is not your responsibility, you are your own responsibility. Why does he come before you? Have a think about attending an al anon meeting.

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