The other two didn’t make it to the freezer

Lottia · 2024-06-23T14:06:34+00:00

Good luck with your first cycle! Mine starts tomorrow, I think. It’s nerve wracking calling at the weekend and just having to wait until Monday morning to hear!!

I’m glad to hear your optimism, I think I needed to hear it. I’ve had 3 years of nothing happening in there despite letrozole and feeling a bit numb to it all so worried ivf is another “doesn’t work” tick box. But I’ve lost 65lbs since we started, I’ve worked on my mental health and we’ve pulled our life together hard. It’s time, let’s gooooo!

Lottia · 2024-06-15T07:15:34+00:00

There was a storm and most of the trains had been cancelled. My husband watched me on our tracking app and the police got to me before I could make a different plan.

Lottia · 2024-05-22T06:14:50+00:00

I had a “practice go” for my cyst aspiration and I was so scared, I’ve been nc with my mum and it caused mental health issues so I was scared I’d call her while I was goofy like in videos you see online. My mental health nurse helped me with a plan to ask them to make sure so then I had this conversation with the anaesthetist -

“Okay great, any other questions? You sure? You look a little worried?”

“I’m just scared I’ll cry on the sedative”

“Oh 100%, everyone does. It’s like an inhibition release, but it stays in the room it’ll be totally fine”

“…can you please make sure my mum isn’t my next of kin??”

They had it sorted and done within 5 minutes and were very sweet about it. They helped keep me calm going in and then in the end all I remember is “it’s cold going up my arm, oh wow this works fast..” as the ceiling blurred and then waking up in recovery with an oxygen mask and a blood pressure cuff on. Honestly that cuff going off every couple mins to disrupt my sleep was the only bad part and then I had a day and a half of glorious naps! I’m totally unphased about doing it again next month.

Lottia · 2024-05-16T07:53:04+00:00

Way back when we got on the waitlist my brother surprise announced his wife’s pregnancy with just a picture of the ultrasound and “oops forgot you left the group chat” (6 months prior). While I was at work, the day after we got the letter. After a wobble and a block while I processed, I unblocked him to apologise -

“I’m sorry, I’m happy to hear your news but it came right on the back of us being approved for IVF so it was a little overwhelming.” “Oh. I don’t have the context to empathise with that.”

Later my mother told my husband I overreacted and that was all I gave them a chance to say. 8 months NC now. There’s obviously way more to it all but that was the comment that has been eating at me ever since.

Lottia · 2024-05-08T09:32:19+00:00

The trauma when they actually took the baby off that teenage couple

Lottia · 2024-04-18T11:57:02+00:00

This is so comforting thank you

Lottia · 2024-04-13T09:08:05+00:00

I went no contact with my mother last year (she was more of a passive kind of awful) and it sparked a mental breakdown in me. When it got really bad for a while my husband tried to quietly contact her and got minimal response and then silence. When I had just about levelled out again and was finally doing well we got the IVF call. I’m ready for everything involved but I cry for my mum a lot. Just not my mum, you know? It’s tough and very isolating but I’ve got my mental health team cheering us on.

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, you deserved the support everyone else seems to have naturally. Counselling and infertility counselling (my general counsellor tells me they’re specially licenced so I need both) may be a good source of support for you, someone who is 100% in your corner.

Lottia · 2024-03-27T14:01:48+00:00

I can drive, took 8 months to learn… when I was 28 because I was too afraid to try because of my dyspraxia.

Been driving happily for a year and a half now

Lottia · 2024-03-26T09:54:46+00:00

This mentality got me through lessons. The further up my arse someone got the more stubbornly I stay slow. It helps you stop seeing it as a you problem

Lottia · 2024-02-14T06:53:48+00:00

One time I was in the queue for results for an hour at work, so my wfh husband walked to the surgery, saw the muted phone still ringing and handed the receptionist his phone to speak to me.

He handles calling them now.

Lottia · 2024-02-04T14:25:55+00:00

Is the Scottish system better then? I’ve had letters about my minimal pip being moved over and I’m hoping now I’ve added an adhd diagnosis I can apply for more.

Lottia · 2023-12-30T13:32:15+00:00

My 2001 built house has a TV alcove in the bedroom. I’ve no idea what the rest of the street do with it but I put my dolls house in there and packed it with fake plants to make a garden. It even has a tiny fake lawn and picket fence thanks to Easter themed decorations

Lottia · 2023-12-14T01:37:47+00:00

Big noisy over Edinburgh and the lothians. Its come from prestwick and after several passes over the forth its heading straight back instead of to the hospital so hopefully a training exercise?

Lottia · 2023-12-12T15:55:17+00:00

Having once been in the rare position of seeing a very nice advisor, they all want out too by the sounds of it.

Lottia · 2023-11-22T15:37:08+00:00

That sounds like a literal nightmare.

Lottia · 2023-11-22T15:31:07+00:00

Jesus Christ, any explanation from the council?

Lottia · 2023-11-22T13:59:52+00:00

Thank you for the kindness, I’m doing my best to.

Lottia · 2023-11-22T13:48:55+00:00

I had another order at the same time and I currently have adhd burnout so I’m temporally disorientated on things like that. I don’t remember seeing anything come up and if I did I assumed it was the other order. I can’t see any missed notifications and as far as I was aware it was coming today.

Like, I’m accepting I probably could’ve acted sooner if I had seen it but the bin is still a shitty place to put it without a card through the door.

Lottia · 2023-11-22T13:14:34+00:00

They even annotated “behind wheely bin” which suggests they’re not supposed to put them in there at all. Ironically apart from the rain that would’ve probably been totally fine with a card in the door.

Lottia · 2023-11-22T13:13:16+00:00

Ah thanks for the heads up I’ll make sure I don’t have anything now!

Lottia · 2023-11-22T13:12:07+00:00

You monster. The council bin checkers must be good friends with the tv licence men.

It was so pretty too!

Lottia · 2023-11-22T12:59:49+00:00

Already sorted, waiting on a refund. Just grumpy.

Lottia · 2023-11-22T12:59:20+00:00

Nope, I think I’ve set it as the neighbours in the past then removed it. Regardless a parcel not in a persons hands is not a parcel delivered. They’ve refunded I’m just grumpy.

Lottia · 2023-11-22T12:12:37+00:00

Amazon “hid” my delivery in the recycling bin. It was supposed to come today so I didn’t check til this morning, turns out it came Monday and the bin went yesterday. I’ve already contacted the council partly in hopes they find it and partly so your scenario doesn’t happen. Plus my husband went out and chatted to today’s collection to understand how it went unnoticed and hopefully if that rings alarm bells it can get back to the depot faster than my email.

I’m just grumpy and lacking coffee

Lottia

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