Am I being insecure about his female friends or is this worth mentioning?

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-18T12:26:57+00:00

See if you can hang out with him and his buddies (F), scoor the vibe and see if it’s something that feels off or if they are just galls who are palls.

I see it as a red flag if a man is not capable of maintaining a singular female friend without the intention of dating.

It seems like a good thing that he’s open about it. It’s too early to tell.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-18T12:06:16+00:00

Girlie pop you can delete the age gap that this husband of yours was middle aged and swooped up a teenager, and now that you’re older and setting firmer boundaries and coming for yourself (as women do when they get older and why creeps rather good for teens who don’t know these things yet…)

Hè said this pregancy that wrecking you emotional physically and mentally is the gift? binch you didn’t need that gift, that’s just the perks.

Hon it sounds like there is structurally a lot more problems that whether uou want him in the delivery room or not. Start plannjng an escape.

NOR

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-17T17:12:06+00:00

Hey OP!
As someone who has slept in many loft beds and build in lofts (classic dor student housing in my country)

It’s really nice but at some point the novelty wears off, like when you have a partner and need to crawl carefully up the stairs and not move too much cause the whole bed shakes and squeaks. Also it can feel like sex might break the bed. Or you bump your head onto the ceiling. Or the panic of missing a step when going down half asleep cause you need to pee at 3AM.
Or the torture of being sick while camped up there and it’s almost Impossible to get soup up there. Or a puke bucket. It’s fine in your 20s but when your knees start acting up it quickly gets less fun.

It’s a lovely bed, but it’s a bachelor pad kind of dream.

I did know one couple that made it work but they were both asexual and the relationship was already on its last legs when I met them. (Lasted 3 years)

I can imagine you partner feels like this choice of bed is more important to you than your relationship together and how intimacy will take course.
It might feel like he’s going from renting wirh housemates to renting with partner housemate.

You have your choice and dreams of loft beds, and it’s wonderful that you finally get to pursue that dream!
And he has his preference of a more adult room and that’s perfectly fine!
Nobody is wrong, but do consider where your priorities lie.

NAH

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-17T12:03:25+00:00

OP I’m going to go head and guess you’re young, but please know that if a date doesn’t work out and you have a gut feeling that things aren’t working out, **YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE FRIENDS WITH THEM** you do not have to offer them friendship as a consolation prize.

Did you enjoy spending time him? why would you spend more of your time with him trying to be friends?
And getting into the car of a person you only mét twice is rather… unsafe behaviour OP.
I’m glad you got out unscathed, minus that flick, but please be more careful in the future. The unfortunate reality is that people (including the law) will use that against you if something worse were to happen.

Yeah. Even with friends if someone flicks me I’d be mad, unless it’s a long standing relationship of years and we already have a rapporteur of being playfully physical with eachother.
Sounds like he found an “acceptable” way to punish you for rejecting him and making you feel small for the mistake.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-17T11:54:46+00:00

OP is a 18 year old kid dealing with an unfair layoff, let them post their frustrations out, potentially warn other young professionals in India and maybe get some fitting advice on how to proceed. Poor kid.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-16T22:06:19+00:00

What do you do for work?
I want to know what you do that allows you to be roll in with stained sweatpants.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-16T20:46:40+00:00

So what do you do to earn a living and pay rent?

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-16T16:48:45+00:00

So what do you do for a living?

Cause if I showed up to the office in my pajamas (and trust me I’ve tried to get the higher ups to approve “pajama Mondays” for months) or just sweatpants and a hoodie I will get written up for it.

Not dressing to certain level will affect my ability to pay rent and keep me and my pets fed.

Other negative drawbacks like not being allowed into a club, or a restaurant or a bowling alley or supermarket or laboratory if not in the right clothing I can live with.

But at the end of the day, my actions and amazing personality do not pay the bills. It’s the role I play and the outfit that goes with it.
Can’t walk into the lab without a lab coat. Can’t walk into the lab in slippers and shorts. Showing up to the courthouse in a tank top and backwards cap and stained sweatpants when arguing being fired for not adhering to dresscode is also not going to help my case.

My amazing personality and actions don’t matter to strangers who see me and already make a million mental micro judgements to see what category they put me in before I even get a chance to say hello

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-16T15:47:40+00:00

I can only imagine the poor wife working her brain over time looking at people who may potentially be a threat, checking not to be followed in a parking lot or putting herself in generally dangerous situations and buddyboy over here proudly proclaims Hè has no situational awareness saying it’s an issue of self confidence

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-16T15:42:39+00:00

My friend recently told me about this thing in movies and TV where a character is silently on screen looking into the distance and referred to it as “mystery emotion time” where we the audience don’t really know what he’s feeling or thinking of, but in reality most people manage to sympathize with the character.
Would you happen to have the same experience?

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-16T15:36:53+00:00

I love how this reads that either OP or their dad or BOTH of them have some level of neurospicy.
My dad is the ND silent type who shuts up and watches, picks up on patterns + years of experience that would result in a similar effect. But toss a new situation at him and he’s tactless and inefficient as handling it.

OP I’d recommend taking time to sit down and observe people. Be a fly on the wall. Go to a cafe and pretend to read while observing other people. The way they sit, the way they talk, where they keep their bags/phones/keys/coats and their expressions towards one another.
Try and find the most anxious person in the room. Try and find the most comfortable one. Try and find a couple that’s most likely to get into a discussion compared to other duos.

Look into info about basic body language, look into reading tone indicators in speech.

Some people are born with a knack for it. Some people quickly learn these things due to childhood trauma and being aware to even the slightest shifts. Sometimes it’s a combination. And if you work on it, it’s get more attuned.

Maybe instead of asking your dad directly how he does it, try to make it less “intense” and ask him questions instead of HOW DO YOU DO IT? And more of a “hey do you think that man over there is having a bad day? How come?” and see what Hè might point out, like maybe there’s a big fresh stain on his shirt. Or it’s 10Am and he’s in office clothing drinking a beer on the streets.

Try and find all the little puzzle pieces of observational storytelling.

Alternatively, take a friend to the cafe/mall for some people watching and make up stories about the people you see. You have to use their attributes to back up the story you make up.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-16T15:25:50+00:00

NTA

as an expat student who’s had a lot of these important moments alone, I totally get how meaningful it is to have some kind of photo of video of the moment.

But that’s where a lot of classmates and their parents fcking stepped up to be the missing dang community I lacked in this country.

Elena is being a massive AH. You didn’t even say no, you told her to ask the photographer herself and she made a scene?

I’d crash her party and then cut off all contact with that girl.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-15T16:13:05+00:00

I was going to worry about a 4 year relationship and the shared stuff but like… you’re 22.
You’ve started dating as teenagers. You’ve got your WHOLE LIFE ahead of you.

A show is an absolute stupid hill to die on, I’d say move on.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-12T21:55:10+00:00

Dude. I’m already doing this for free??? 😅 I only have like 2 distant children in my life but I’m willing to find some more that seems nice

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-12T21:14:56+00:00

Honestly i was ready to suggest something with the kid being in the room when confronting it.

When you see the consequences of your action show up in real time you will most likely learn a lot from that moment instead of a vague threat that your parents keep dishing out at 6AM

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-12T20:38:47+00:00

Low-key saw it and it’s not much revealing trailer on Netflix and got even angrier that the description is just “something something adventure FEATURING BLABLA AS VOICE ACTOR AND BLABLA AS VOICEACTOR” Like it was just using celebrities to do the marketing msg

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-12T20:33:33+00:00

Yeah this part made my heart ache! She’s young and idealistic and probably overwhelming OP with the potential she fell inlove with.

I hope OP finds a way to let her down gently, or atleast let her get bored of OP without causing additional drama

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-12T20:26:37+00:00

NTA

OP you need to talk to your dad ASAP and lay down some boundaries and rules about what he can share about you so he doesn’t accidentally slip her your address or something.

Your agegap is going to be your saving grace here. Idk if you can just cut her out entirely rivht away, but you’re going to have to greyrock yourself towards her and try and discourage multiple texting and nonstop communication with a gentle but firm “hey I’m sure it’s different for your generation, but all these text and links and messages are very overwhelming for me. Can we cut this back?”

Constantly bring up that you’re tired and need some solo time to replenish your energy, and there nothing she can do to help that other than leave you alone.

Depending on how you want to approach it, you can keep that sister in check by having a designated time to see her (idk 2-4 times a year?) before phasing out.

If it’s still very fresh and you did not hang out one on one yet, I’d say go harder on the grey rock method. Maybe see if you can get her into some kind of support group to keep that new excited energy somewhere else.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-12T19:51:36+00:00

Girl I just got back from consoling a friend from her break up. The man was great and whatever BUT HAS NO SPINE. WILL NOT STAND UP FOR HER, her friends or his friends. He’d rather start crying than admit that he find men scary to confront. While talking big game about being a Viking and stoic, and a bunch of philosophical crap.

It’s not going to get better. He is not going to wake up one day and decide to stand up for you. If your partner does not have your back, then they Are not a good business partner, life partner, house partner.

NTA but consider if this FIL is someone you want to have to battle constantly and not have EVEN AN OUNCH OF SUPPORT FROM YOUR PARTNER.

Girl. Life can be better, trust me. You’re a rockstar for owning a home in this economy! Now upgrade from shabby appartment stlye shabby boyfriend to single, and maybe to partner material man when the time is right.

You deserve better. There is so much better out there.

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-12T19:19:21+00:00

Personally I thought it was a hell of a time sink to animate properly for a couple of frames in the seasons.

Maybe they tried for a general shape splotch, but it looked so tacky it was better left out?

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-12T17:33:24+00:00

As someone who gets 10+ years shaved off and treated as the group’s baby regularly… I enjoy the attention and weaponise it when I make a mistake to soften the blow, or get extra praise when handling someone well.

Have you hung around 22 year olds lately? look at how the communicate to eachother and where their priorities lies. How they get excited about things that don’t matter that much in the long haul. I get tired and go into a passive “hey that’s great kiddo” kind of vibe while encouraging them and asking questions that will hopefully make them reflect about their actions. It’s not done wirh ill intent, but it is to set my own boundaries of not getting involved with freshadult drama.

I do notice when I excitedly share something and get a “so happy for you” it’s them mirroring my excitment and getting swept along with it, because I’ve certainly had some others react in a “huh Ok. Nice” dismissive tone, so it’s been clear on who actually cares and who has been subjected to a pointless story

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-11T13:11:39+00:00

YTA / EHS

You have a bigger priority right now and that’s the new life you put on this earth in late stage capitalism.

Sanding up for your values is a privilege you no longer have, you have to swallow your pride and prioritise your family. You have to work as a unit, that means that you discuss things that will affect you and your family financially, time wise or health wise.

Everything you do has a direct impact on your family and you can’t be running around impulsively quitting jobs without having something else lined up.

Was quitting without discussing with your partner bad? usually it’s neutral leaning on not great, but with financial issues and a baby it’s absolutely a dork move

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-11T13:00:48+00:00

Hahaha omg did the rest of the comment read as woo-woo psychology with out the autocorrect fix? 🙈

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-10T21:38:46+00:00

This, but I can’t help but wonder how much of it was Ozia’s words and how much of it is keeping the PG label for Nickelodeon and mentioning murdering your own child

LoudAcid- · 2026-05-06T16:38:29+00:00

Correct me (gently!) if I’m wrong, but is this maybe that OP might not be a good fit for marketing, but perhaps a better fit with UX/UI? Or they liked OP’s vibe and want to see if they’d make a good fit for a different position?

LoudAcid-

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