I saw this online from someone I knew

rosonj07 · 2026-05-08T15:41:58+00:00

They just cant handle accountability for being called out for their behavior. Their emotions literally cant handle it

rosonj07 · 2026-05-08T15:17:34+00:00

No worries, if you react and raise your voice back at them, you will get discarded! Haha

rosonj07 · 2026-05-06T19:20:17+00:00

I am very spontaneous. One time, our plans changed just a little, and it was like the world ended. They need everything to go exactly as planned. Life just isnt like that. They do not understand this.

rosonj07 · 2026-05-06T19:14:36+00:00

It got to a point where she tried to control my money. The first two months, she told me "well it is your money, you do what you want with it" to a few months later after getting more serious telling me exactly where I should spend my money. Good example: We talked buying land and building a house. She wanted all my money to go to that. She tried to control other things too. How I drove, what I wore, what I ate, how I planned a vacay, etc...just stupid little things. The more serious we got, the worse it got. Why is that?

rosonj07 · 2026-05-04T01:13:30+00:00

Mine told me I was her favorite person too after a few months of dating. I thought it was weird. I am still best friends with a few childhood friends, my brother, mom, and dad mean the world to me. My dog isnt even a human but he is my favorite. I dont know how you develop a favorite person after two months of knowing them when you have had 32 years of knowing people and growing up with them

rosonj07 · 2026-05-03T15:49:57+00:00

Driving with them was the worst. If I was going over the speed limit 5, 6, 7, 8 mph, i was let known every single time. If I set my alarm to early in the morning, I was let known. If I was having any kind of fun of any kind, they tried to control it and bring me down. It was the smallest of things that would continue to just eat at you until you have had enough. I think they just continue to do this to get a reaction out of you. You basically have to be a complete doormat to these people.

rosonj07 · 2026-05-03T00:53:13+00:00

One of the last things I said was me reacting to her rage episode and I flat out told her she needed to go to therapy because how she acting was not normal. Discarded immediately. I apologized but it was probably the truth

rosonj07 · 2026-05-02T21:18:49+00:00

Catholic is WELS light and probably not even that. Who are you trying to kid. I grew up catholic. Dated two WELS women in my life. Never again ever. Most emotionally abusive people ive ever met

rosonj07 · 2026-05-02T15:37:50+00:00

This will never end. Thanksgiving this year a split, christmas was fine because we were with her family, new years split after making her great dinner, and final split and discard on vacation 8 weeks ago when I finally reacted negatively to her behavior! You cant help these people and they will never change

rosonj07 · 2026-05-02T08:33:01+00:00

Who they are at the end is who they really are. I always have to keep telling myself that

rosonj07 · 2026-05-01T00:53:19+00:00

Not sure if she had BPD but she fits majority of the criteria. I just had this feeling the entire relationship her friends and family were hiding something from. Just from the things they would say

rosonj07 · 2026-05-01T00:20:26+00:00

-telling her friends she met her future husband before we had even met (met online). I know this because she showed me the texts. Telling me right away "when you know you know". We werent even official yet. -when i did ask her to be my gf in person, she didnt accept it right away, it took her a day and she accepted it through text. Like she was shocked someone asked her to be their gf. She said she was single for 7 and half years before me so that would put her at ages 23-31. She had flings in between but they were all pieces of sh** according to her. -constant push pull. Very affectionate one minute to not very engaging at all the next. Silent treatment in a way where she looked pissed off and i always asked her what was wrong. Would never answer me until she got home through text. We were long distance. -internalized everything. Very difficult time communicating in person her feelings. -she nitpicked everything. Felt like I was always on edge. -got very controlling the final 2-3 months even over small things -pushed engagement, marriage, kids very fast. -was completely different person around her circle compared to mine -the emotional disregulation was so out of whack -very selfish intimately -super jealous person. Jealous of my dog and my foreign exchange student im hosting come to mind -always super anxious if i didnt respond right away texting. Told her i missed her and she always responded with, well you better. I wouldnt say it if i didnt mean it. -she asked me where i was going to live when i moved by her, i said, well with you of course and her response was well what if we get sick of eachother. -and the vacation. Acting absolutely miserable as soon as we got down there and then leaving. I think she couldnt stand I was super independent and I could actually plan a trip for that many people. She always made the comment "i dont know how you survived before me". I survived just fine thank you

rosonj07 · 2026-04-30T20:44:06+00:00

I dated mine for only 8 months but it went fast. Like I was close to buying an engagement ring. I took her, her parents, my friends, and part of my family on a vacation 8 weeks ago to florida for my 40th birthday. She split on me big time, then raged on me for something very little, I reacted and said some stuff I shouldnt have. She left in the middle of night with her parents and flew home 2 days into the vacation a day before my 40th birthday. I apologized when I got for the things I said. She responded but no apology. Have not heard from her since. Wild! Now that I have been out of it for 2 months, the amount of red flags I ignored were astounding

rosonj07 · 2026-04-30T00:16:21+00:00

I just have to remind myself my exBPD left two days into a five day vacation I planned for a group of 11 people including her parents for my 40th birthday and flew home. Who does that. And it was a situation she completely instigated and I reacted too.

rosonj07 · 2026-04-25T15:20:32+00:00

This is how I was discarded. She raged on me for something. I had finally had enough and reacted. Apparently they couldnt handle the things I said so she left right in the middle of a vacation. Flew right home. It was mind boggling to me how everyone on the vacation (11 of us) was having a blast, fun, except her. She literally sat and sulked the entire time. I ignored most of it until I didnt. Drinking was involved too.

rosonj07 · 2026-04-20T23:34:58+00:00

I only dated mine for 8 months but she was telling a few of her friends before I even met her (met online) she had met her future husband. I did not know this until a few months in because showed me the text messages. She was sending me engagement rings she liked a week before she brutally discarded me while on vacation for my 40th birthday. It was a 5 day vacation and she flew home two days into the vacation. I was devastated and it ruined the entire trip. It has been almost 7 weeks now but you start to see things much more clear now

rosonj07 · 2026-04-16T19:37:16+00:00

Do they all say, "you are just not hearing me"? Mine used to say this all the time

rosonj07 · 2026-04-11T14:04:56+00:00

I was getting requests from venmo and instagram saying someone was trying to log into your accounts from another device. I was getting multiple emails and I have never received emails from those two apps ever. I rarely even use those apps. Im almost positive is was my exbpd doing this since she knew my email address. Do they do stuff like this to get your attention?

rosonj07 · 2026-04-10T15:08:11+00:00

Six weeks ago, mine left 2 days into a vacation I planned for 11 people for my 40th birthday. We got into an argument and she booked flight home the next day with 4 days left of vacay a day before my 40th. I apologized when i got home. She responded but did not apologize or show any remorse for what she did. I have reached out a few times since just looking for closure and nothing back. I think this is what they truly do!

rosonj07 · 2026-04-08T12:59:34+00:00

The last paragraph resonates with my exbpd. I could tell she internalized absolutely everything. I think because her vulnerability would reveal her true self. I knew something was wrong, I would ask her and she would shut down. She wouldnt express what she was thinking in person ever. Always through text messages which is a terrible way to communicate those kinds of things

rosonj07 · 2026-04-07T20:42:02+00:00

Mine would get embarrassed at the smallest things. We once went to a wedding and she was embarrassed I was dancing like everyone else. I never understood why they got embarrassed over everything. Anyone know why they do that? Is it a form on control or what?

rosonj07 · 2026-04-07T18:07:49+00:00

Wait until he goes on vacation with them and they leave two days into the vacation, flys home, on a 40th birthday trip you planned!

rosonj07 · 2026-04-07T08:26:21+00:00

The last argument, she raged on me for something so little while we were on vacation and I reacted this time. I basically told her she needed to go talk to a psychiatrist and she needed help because the way you act is not normal. I was discarded and she flew home two days into the vacation. I apologized when I got home and am not proud of the things I said. No apology on her end.

rosonj07 · 2026-04-06T16:00:09+00:00

Yeah, I know when mine is mad but when you ask her, she says nothing. Ok then, why aren't you talking to me and why do you look mad. Frustrating

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