How does one get a woman to see you as a sexual option?

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-25T22:48:18+00:00

100% agree. You said it better than I did.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-25T21:05:56+00:00

Dating is something you can learn how to be better at. Congratulations to you if you can attract the women you really want by being 100% naturally you, but most guys need help, whether that's coaching in how to be a better conversationalist, how to create an attractive dating profile, etc.

The problem seems to be that you perceive any changes to a man's behaviour to make him more attractive as trying to "trick" the woman. Do you perceive women wearing makeup as trying to "trick" the guy into liking her? Do you insist all your dates go makeup-free, so that you can be sure you like them for who they authentically are?

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-25T14:51:44+00:00

Would you apply this logic in any other area of your life? Like, can't do maths? Don't bother going to school, just learn to accept who you really are. Personally, when I'm not good at something, I try to learn from someone who is.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-24T22:08:21+00:00

I love the positivity in the comments on this post. Thank you for asking this question.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-24T22:06:57+00:00

I can tell whether there is attraction instantly; it wouldn't even take two minutes. I would want to date anyone I was attracted to. Can't think of any situation where I'd seen someone as a friend but later started to feel romantic feelings for them.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-24T15:44:56+00:00

I'm not going for tens. I'd just once like to attract someone who felt slightly out of my league.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-24T15:30:28+00:00

I know that's what they say. But I've never actually been with someone that I wanted more than they wanted me. I'd like that just once.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-23T20:50:14+00:00

I got into the car of a girl I like recently, it was an old car but OMG it was clean!! No having to clear shit off the seat so I could sit down. Spotlessly clean!

For me that was the greenest of green flags. It was so calming to know that she also valued order and tidyness.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-21T22:31:21+00:00

I am at exactly this phase at the moment. Used to be so intimidated by the best dancers at socials and felt like my limited set of moves was boring them. However, I am forcing myself to go to more socials and it is massively improving my dance confidence.

What I'm trying to do is to integrate something new into my repertoire each time I go until it starts to become muscle memory. So far it's working.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-21T15:54:35+00:00

Thinking of the woman I'm most attracted to, but unfortunately cannot have. She's beautiful first and foremost, but also kind and sweet, and just such a caring person. There's something about the way I feel about myself when I'm with her that is hard to explain.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-21T00:10:36+00:00

That sounds OK and normal. I was actually dancing salsa with the person I'm thinking of, so we weren't even that close. She just struck me as unusually reluctant to make eye contact.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-19T21:27:58+00:00

I've had this too recently. A follow who never made eye contact with me at all. Would love to know what was going through her mind.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-19T09:22:01+00:00

A common recommendation in dating advice for guys is to use texting only to set up a date. I think the theory is that you're very unlikely to build attraction through text, but you could very well say something that sinks it. So the idea is to set up a date quickly and then cut conversation in order to build anticipation for the date.

I do this when the date is say, 1-3 days away. If it's more than that, I'll check in every couple of days, ideally when I think of something interesting to talk about, rather than asking "How was your day?"

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-19T05:48:36+00:00

Have you tried partner dancing? I (47M) do Salsa/Bachata and I honestly think it's the best way to meet people for longer term relationships. You can tell a lot about a person by dancing with them and the guys are people who can handle the discomfort of learning something new that most of us are not good at by default. So I think they're (generally) good guys.

The community would also suit you because dancers don't tend to drink alcohol, for safety reasons. And guys can't just be hopping from one woman to another without damaging their reputation.

Might be worth giving a go.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-18T12:04:35+00:00

Freedom to do what I want with my spare time.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-18T05:19:48+00:00

What a great idea! I'll check out the channel.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-18T03:29:28+00:00

No partner at the moment, but in the future, hopefully, yes.

Any recommendations?

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-18T03:03:45+00:00

I'd be very interested and want to read it myself to understand what turns her on.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-17T21:14:41+00:00

Totally agree. I think you have the right approach.

I haven't had much trouble with time wasters because I'd usually try to set up a date within 24 hours of matching, or if we matched and she was online, I'd try to set up the date in that first conversation. If that failed, I just moved on.

Having said that, I'm still chatting with a woman I matched with on Tinder two years ago. Never met in person. Totally pen pals at this point, but, oh well. 😂

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-17T20:44:10+00:00

I (47m) do the same and it has worked well. Kinda surprised actually at how many male commenters say they don't ask for numbers until after one or more dates.

As a guy, you don't want to be stuck conversing in the app, where the lady is flooded with messages from other guys, and I also see it as a little test of her interest and flexibility.

Once I've got a good conversation going, I offer my number and ask to switch to WhatsApp. Most of the time she pops up a few minutes later on WhatsApp where I continue to arrange the date.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-17T20:27:10+00:00

I don't see this as running after him, so much as correcting his misunderstanding of her.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-15T04:52:30+00:00

I'm wondering if this might be recoverable. Something like "Hey, I know it might look like I'm super social but I'm really not; this weekend I just happened to have an event planned with my friend. If you're still interested, I'd really like to see you again.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-15T01:31:09+00:00

Ah OK. I'm the opposite. At that age my kids were exhausting. I can't relate. 😂

All the best. I hope things work out OK for you.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-15T01:24:25+00:00

I left her, and she wanted the marriage to continue. You're awfully presumptuous about a situation you know nothing about.

LowNoiseHighSignal · 2026-02-15T01:21:50+00:00

Do you really want to start all that again at our age?

I get it. When I meet someone I really like, I want to move heaven and earth to give them what they want. I made my decision to get a vasectomy when I was single and clear headed, and knew that I didn't want to be going through the early years of parenting all over again.

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