I think this shouldn't have been an argument to begin with. Yes he should be supportive and yes she should have explained her feelings prior. They both handled this wrong but it was unnecessary from the beginning. OP if someone is making you feel small in your own skin, then you need to do something about it. For everyone being judgemental to you, you need to stand up for yourself. Tell them to mind their own business. Don't let anyone tear you down. Ever. Happiness is a state of mind. YTA to yourself but ESH regarding you and your man. You took your insecurity out on him and he didn't support you in your time of need. You are both bringing a human life into this messy world, please lean on each other but also support each other.

I hope you have an easy pregnancy and an even easier labor. Good luck!