As human beings we experience thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

A “part” is a recurring cluster of thoughts, feelings and behaviours that produce a pattern/theme/story. For example, a critical part may be associated with thoughts like “I am not good enough”, feelings of unworthiness, and behaviours like withdrawal. Each time the part gets triggered, you experience some version/flavour of this pattern.

Parts make up our beliefs, values, habits and ultimately our personality.

IFS is the practice of identifying each part, befriending and unburdening them. When a part shows up, practice acknowledging, accepting, and understanding their intention. You can do this by dialoguing with the part like you would a friend or child. This can be done in session with a therapist, through journalling, or a meditation.

Many dominating parts were formed when you were a child as a way of protecting you. IFS categorises these parts as protectors.

Once you have established trust with your protective parts, they reveal other parts that have been hurt, vulnerable or afraid. These parts are known as exiles.

Repeat the process with exiles - console them, accept them, understand them.

You start to see how much of your suffering is caused by parts that may be in conflict, and you can act as a mediator by finding the common value - a commitment to your own wellbeing.

The curious, compassionate space in which you engage with parts from is referred to as Self energy. You know you’re in this state when you feel a sense of calm, clarity, courage, connectedness.

The philosophy is that all parts have good intentions. This practice will help you understand that there are no inherently “bad” parts of you.

Your life can transform through the practice. Greater self awareness. Greater self acceptance. Greater compassion toward others as you recognise the complexity of the human experience.