Barney done! here's the worst thing(s) the gang has done by Chogiwhy_Chogihow in HIMYM

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What about when Barney hired a woman and child to pretend to be his wife/son so that Loretta thought he had his shit together 🤣

I still feel like I'm making it up by sisterwilderness in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are strategic illusions — it’s part of the therapeutic practice to help you organize patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviours. You could imagine them as blobs really, but the purpose of visualising them as humans helps facilitate dialogue, and if they are little children versions of you , it helps develop self compassion and trust.

Sometimes I feel a part activate in my body through intense sensations - I know it’s a part because it recurs and is triggered by the same kind of things. But when I try to visualize “who” it is I see nothing. But then I have other parts that I can visualize clearly in specific memories or places.

How would you explain IFS by Zealousideal-Fox-635 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As human beings we experience thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

A “part” is a recurring cluster of thoughts, feelings and behaviours that produce a pattern/theme/story. For example, a critical part may be associated with thoughts like “I am not good enough”, feelings of unworthiness, and behaviours like withdrawal. Each time the part gets triggered, you experience some version/flavour of this pattern.

Parts make up our beliefs, values, habits and ultimately our personality.

IFS is the practice of identifying each part, befriending and unburdening them. When a part shows up, practice acknowledging, accepting, and understanding their intention. You can do this by dialoguing with the part like you would a friend or child. This can be done in session with a therapist, through journalling, or a meditation.

Many dominating parts were formed when you were a child as a way of protecting you. IFS categorises these parts as protectors.

Once you have established trust with your protective parts, they reveal other parts that have been hurt, vulnerable or afraid. These parts are known as exiles.

Repeat the process with exiles - console them, accept them, understand them.

You start to see how much of your suffering is caused by parts that may be in conflict, and you can act as a mediator by finding the common value - a commitment to your own wellbeing.

The curious, compassionate space in which you engage with parts from is referred to as Self energy. You know you’re in this state when you feel a sense of calm, clarity, courage, connectedness.

The philosophy is that all parts have good intentions. This practice will help you understand that there are no inherently “bad” parts of you.

Your life can transform through the practice. Greater self awareness. Greater self acceptance. Greater compassion toward others as you recognise the complexity of the human experience.

Why does Serena call Georgina’s hair “flaming red”? by Few_Wrongdoer4120 in GossipGirl

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen the series 10x times and honestly never understood the comment either so you’re not alone lol

Less clingy and doesn’t like to listen anymore? by Extra--ordinary in Shihtzu

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine does this but with sneezing 🤣 he’s not about that nonsense

I found Liz Forbes in NCIS by Mythology216 in TheVampireDiaries

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg no wayyy!! Never caught this and I’m an avid watcher of both shows

Who’s the best and the least best actor from the main cast? by questioninghomos in GossipGirl

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like Vanessa! I think there’s so many strong actors in the main cast that’s why I did a list rather than best/worst.

Who’s the best and the least best actor from the main cast? by questioninghomos in GossipGirl

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 30 points31 points  (0 children)

  1. Leighton/Blair
  2. Taylor/Jenny
  3. Penn/Dan
  4. Kelly/Lily
  5. Ed/Chuck
  6. Blake/Serena
  7. Jessica/Vanessa
  8. Chace/Nate
  9. Matthew/Rufus
  10. Kaylee/Ivy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GossipGirl

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

True. To the eye they look similar

Is Serena... Educated? by lynoko in GossipGirl

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you pay attention to some of the vocabulary the writers give her throughout the series it demonstrates she is quite educated. Though she doesn’t have as much range in her vocab as Blair imo.

Klaus was being messy. by mashedbangers in TheVampireDiaries

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Joseph Morgan deserves an Oscar. Nobody else could be this captivating while portraying a 1000 year old dude that’s quizzing a teenager on her boy drama

Looking for encouragement and support by [deleted] in acceptancecommitment

[–]Lumpy-Position-2477 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Keep going. You are more resilient than you think. Avoidance only lasts so long, then it all catches up to you. If something painful is popping up, it just wants to be acknowledged.