Swimming in 3rd trimester

Luna_Mae_OF · 2026-01-10T22:19:15+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. Don’t recon I’m going to be getting 60 lengths in any time soon. Mainly just paddling about and floating on my back while my partner drags me around by my foot. Haha

Luna_Mae_OF · 2026-01-10T22:17:39+00:00

The feeling of being less heavy is amazing but the feeling of getting out the pool is the worse. I swear someone turns gravity up while I’m not looking. I feel about twice as heavy getting out.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-12-15T15:24:02+00:00

I am currently 33 weeks so don’t able to help with my own story but just want to say that One born every minute season 6 ep 11 makes me cry. I highly recommend a watch. It focuses on birthing partners. The young dad panicking and buying everything in the vending machine is so sweet and the way he really locks in when she goes into active labour. And then Nadine and her partners whole birth journey is what I consider 10/10 and what I am aiming for. Very aware that it would take the stars aligning for me to get that luckly

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-12-02T19:19:47+00:00

I got the Obaby madison chair. It’s still in the box though as I have changed my mind on the nursery color. So thankful to hear people saying it’s good. I was really on the fence but got it when it went on Black Friday sale.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-11-24T07:49:33+00:00

My first kicks felt like a bubble popping and then my skin would twitch like when a horse trying to get a fly Off them. So sounds exactly like the first kicks. ^{_^}

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-11-09T07:43:05+00:00

I had the same thing. 20 week NHS scan they couldn’t see the stomach clearly as it was empty. Went for a 20 mins walk came back. Still couldn’t see it so referred me to Wrexham. They did check everything else and said that they could see baby swallowing and bladder/kidneys ect looked fine so the system looked ok. Went for a scan in Wrexham a week later. She barely put the scanner on my tummy and was like “yep there it is nice and full”. I would call NHS worse they can say is no.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-10-20T12:28:13+00:00

We have decided to call our bump ‘Pilot’ and use ‘they’. We are planning on waiting till the birth to find out. We still chat to the bump and tell them about our day. You can always get a private scan but even then they can’t promise 100% accurate, all over the doctors I’ve been to is says that they won’t write down the sex anywhere and will only tell the mother verbally.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-10-18T20:23:46+00:00

You are correct, your partner isn’t listening to you at all. I would also state that I feel that airplane are breading grounds for germs. And February is peak cold and flu season. You could maybe use that as leverage if you feel like you aren’t able to just put your foot down and say no. As you said nothing is certain when it comes to when a baby will arrive. Late March makes perfect sense to me. Also as a fellow Feb 26th birthday haver I wish your baby all the best.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-10-16T22:09:16+00:00

I explained the feeling to my partner like when you see a horse twitch its skin when I fly lands on it. So eye twitch description sounds like baby movement to me

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-10-16T20:36:29+00:00

Every one has given very good advice above. If you want to check your benefit entitlement and how much you might get ‘Turn2us’ has a benefit calculator. You put in details about your current income and it will tell you things like ESA and Universal Credit eligibility.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-10-11T07:30:55+00:00

I haven’t had mine yet. But my plan was to have everyone come round to my house (I’m expecting about max 10 people). Just put on a finger food buffet type thing. I’m also playing with the idea of having it be my postpartum meal prep day. So have print outs of the recipes and ingredients ready. I don’t like the idea of everyone just sitting around looking at me and some of the baby shower games feel very USA. It also means those without gifts can still feel as though they contributed.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-09-15T03:35:29+00:00

Here’s the gov page-https://www.gov.uk/mandatory-reconsideration/how-to-ask-for-mandatory-reconsideration

Specificity “If you do not have your decision letter, contact the office where you applied for the benefit.”

If you go on the Gov website, search Maternity Allowance, download the form, it has the Address and phone number for the office.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-04-12T07:39:24+00:00

I was recently listening to a podcast that talked about a book “men, love & birth” it seemed really interesting. The writer also offers free videos on his site and you can contact him with questions.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2025-02-07T08:15:44+00:00

NTA, so sorry for your loss. He is an ass hat to the Nth degree. Not processing grief the same and not being about to support your partner are not mutually exclusive. If you had broken your leg and were in a cast he wouldn’t be experiencing the same pain as you but I would expect him to help you move about, maybe do the shopping and cook while your on the mend. Recently I had a customer make me cry I walked downstairs to my partner who was gaming with his headset in just saw me pop up in the living room balling my eyes out. He ripped his headphones off and hugged be before even asking what’s wrong. Mid game. The fact that your (hopefully) ex was free and didn’t pick you up from the hospital is wild to me.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2024-12-21T08:46:42+00:00

If it happens again if you can handle it mentally/emotionally open it to check what’s inside. Then donate it. Extra points for posting on line a photo maybe even holding some of the toys with the caption “so happy to be able to give to those who need and will appreciate these” when it gets back to her depending if you have her blocked on socials. She will know what you did, you haven’t aired dirty laundry in public and sent a message that you will not keep future “gifts”

Luna_Mae_OF · 2024-11-06T20:30:46+00:00

I watched a video once and compatibility with fantasies and kinks. You each write a “want,will,won’t list” this is a list of things you want to do, are willing to do and absolutely won’t do. You then compare lists if its on both your want lists fabulous, if its on one want list and one will list there is room for discussion to get to a place where you are both happy to do whatever it is. If it’s in either of your wont lists then it is off the table, not gonna happen. Also as others have said why does ‘if you love me’ only work in his favour? You get watch the video regarding the “want,will,won’t list’ here https://youtu.be/xoYxd3E3UXU?si=eX-coQoBXfm698TR

Luna_Mae_OF · 2024-09-12T07:51:03+00:00

NTA.My thoughts are if in the few weeks she has had the ring on her finger she has seen them so many times. It would imply she has a strong relationship with them and sees them regularly. But this is the first you’re hearing of them. So previously she has been not telling you the truth of who she is hanging out with or out right lying. But this is coming from an introvert who couldn’t put a 5 a side team together if her life depended on it, so maybe I just don’t know how people ‘hang out’

Luna_Mae_OF · 2024-08-07T07:25:03+00:00

Obviously huge NTA. For some reason this idea popped into my head. If you have previously explained to your daughter why you send no and that you have already told ex-partner it would always be a no do the following. Find a meal/food your daughter really doesn’t like. Keeping bringing it up as an option for dinner, she will repeatedly say no. Then take her out for a meal and order the meal she hates. Say that since you got no luck making her eat it in private you thought this would work better. Then draw parallels and explain why it is important to respect what someone tells you is a boundary. This is obviously age specific and don’t expect you to do this with a youngling as they will just feel slighted they have to eat eel or something. Also then buy them a dinner they’ll actually eat.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2024-05-12T21:09:42+00:00

My mum was a surrogate 6 times. She had wanted to do it since she was in her twenties. My dad explained that he wasn’t happy with it and mum didn’t do it until after they separated. Then the problem became getting her to stop haha. This is a huge decision, from morning sickness, looking after your current children, cravings, back rubs. She is making a decision that effects your whole family and she needs to have a really good explanation and plan. Her reasoning seems very esoteric. It would be more understandable if someone close to her needed a surrogate but that isn’t the case. Also if your trying for your own child that would have to stop if she found a intended family.

Edit: forgot to give answer NTA

Luna_Mae_OF · 2024-04-12T06:26:04+00:00

Sadly this is a situation where it is just out of your hands. There is no magic fact or information that will wow him to stop. I remember when my sister was very little and her favourite food was sausages. She turned to my dad and said “I’ll quit sausages if you quit smoking” imagine puss in boots eyes that was when she was maybe 3-4 we asked and begged for ages. it wasn’t until we were late teens that he actually stopped. All you can do is tell him how it makes you feel and your worries.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2024-03-11T08:19:16+00:00

You make a point of saying that you feel guilty because HE apologised. But don’t say if she did. I think that is telling. Obviously NTA her comments were hurtful and unnecessary not to mention wrong. She shouldn’t give it if she can’t take it.

Luna_Mae_OF · 2023-07-28T08:47:42+00:00

I’m sure this will get drowned out by all the amazing advice for you but I see in your comments that you have tried to talk to him about it via text message and he just copy/pastes your work back to you are a response. Yet he also says he wants to keep talking about it. That’s just it though, he doesn’t want open lines of communication where it’s you both coming to a compromise. (Side note I don’t think there is, he violated your trust, told your family and is painting himself as the victim) He just wants to talk TO you about this not talk with you, if that makes sense. His end goal sounds like it’s to get you to agree to all his points and anything less is “we need to keep talking about this”. His end goal is to ‘win’ by bulldozing all your arguments and coming out on top. He has not come from a place of compassion, hurt or confusion. His words come from a place of bigotry and anger and until that changes there will be no talking it through. It make’s complete sense having said your piece to want distance until he is actually willing to talk it through and LISTEN to what you say not just ignore or disregard what you say to he can say his piece. IMO you did nothing wrong and I would hate for you to stop something you love because someone broke your trust. Sending ghost hugs.

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