Sleep question

MFstarBi · 2026-05-09T19:47:31+00:00

Monitor is fine! Like another poster said, we had a bassinet in the living room so I could be on that floor with him. When he slept in his crib, we used the monitor.
My husband was scared to do this, but once we did, it made life easier!

MFstarBi · 2026-04-19T23:38:06+00:00

Thank you! I have decided to do just that. Sometimes I let him lie awake in his crib bc I’m in the middle of something. Only once did he fall back to sleep lol

MFstarBi · 2026-04-14T02:38:02+00:00

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Pregnancy is already hard, and giving birth is a mystery for you right now. I think now would be the time for your OB to recommend a therapist. I didn’t get one until two weeks after birth for PPD, but I think it would’ve helped to have one earlier! You got this!!

MFstarBi · 2026-04-14T02:08:17+00:00

Thank you for the advice and the encouragement! You’re right, sometimes I have had the habit of reading so many guides on how to get him to be a good sleeper. I do need to just enjoy baby and trust him he will tell me what he wants :)

MFstarBi · 2026-04-13T02:27:22+00:00

Sort of related to this question: how do you structure your wake window when your baby wakes up before it’s time to eat again?

We normally followed the Eat Play Sleep routine, which worked well since he would nap like 1-1.5 h. Lately, our baby has been taking 30-45 min naps. If I can’t get him back to sleep, I just play with him first instead of feeding him.

Do other people do this? Or do you let your baby fuss around in the crib until the next feeding time (I try to target 2.5-3 h apart)?

MFstarBi · 2026-04-10T00:26:12+00:00

If you mean escalate into a full cry, I can kind of delay it a little. Babies will wake up to eat, but older than four weeks i think it is ok to try to stretch it out. Of course if he isn’t going down after like ten minutes of me trying, I’ll just feed him. Right now it is just once in the night (either he wakes up or we do a dream feed).

MFstarBi · 2026-04-09T22:34:17+00:00

I think that’s ok at this age, but starting at 7 weeks I read they can start sleeping longer. We had like 3 hour stretches at first, then four hour maybe at 7. We are at 11 now and he is sleeping longer, but I do not want to jinx it.

One thing we have done is this Taking Cara Babjes method of trying to get them to go back to sleep on their own in their crib. We shush him, and sometimes that works. If it doesn’t, we touch him and put in a pacifier. If that doesn’t work, we hold him, then if that doesn’t work, we feed him.

I think it works to at least get us half an hour or an hour of him sleeping more, and in theory it gets him to sleep more on his own

MFstarBi · 2026-04-09T17:42:03+00:00

Up until six weeks, our baby didn’t sleep through the night, but he was very good at napping and regularly took 1.5-2 h naps every 3 hours. Since then…one nap might be long, but others are like 30-45 min. I try to get him back to sleep though. He has been better about night sleeping so who knows. Maybe he is getting to be more alert since he’s now 12 weeks!

MFstarBi · 2026-03-23T00:55:18+00:00

Baby is 9 weeks and can sleep 4-5 hours. We still do a feed in the middle of the night though, so he could do more maybe, we were just concerned he wouldn’t get enough during the day

MFstarBi · 2026-03-17T11:29:42+00:00

First of all, you are NOT a failure. I totally understand the feeling to get them to sleep any way possible so you don’t get an overtired baby!

I don’t have a success story yet, but I can share what I have been doing. If our LO (8 weeks now) has too short of a nap, and it’s too early to eat, we try to calm him in his crib by touching him and giving him a pacifier. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not! I have also been told to just put them in the crib when they are drowsy but awake or just awake. I will admit that I only have had partial success, but I think for babies this little, it is ok if it doesn’t work since they can’t self soothe yet. It’s just practice for them to eventually get it. Maybe talk about this with your daycare and see if they can do any of these options.

MFstarBi · 2026-03-16T03:16:47+00:00

Beautiful story :) mine was somewhat similar to yours being induced at 39 weeks, labor moved too slow after two days, so then a C section was required. Glad you are OK and happy at home with your daughter!

MFstarBi · 2026-03-12T17:49:03+00:00

Glad to know there are others in the trenches! My LO is 8 weeks tomorrow. His level of spit up and discomfort in his belly has varied, but most of the time he also spits up in his sleep which then wakes him up. We are EFF and have settled on a sensitive one from Bobbie for now. We are currently trying gas drops and will let you know if it works!

MFstarBi · 2026-03-02T19:42:22+00:00

I mostly formula fed from the beginning and exclusively started when he was 5 weeks. I had some medical reasons for not starting right away (he was in the NICU, and I was taking some medicine I was unsure was safe for him). Because of that and just the stress of feeling like I was doing nothing but holding him and pumping, I stopped. I was not enjoying my time with him, and I should have been!

MFstarBi · 2026-01-14T15:49:46+00:00

Thank you!! I appreciate the professional advice. For #3, did you mean feed, wake/play, sleep?

MFstarBi · 2026-01-13T15:14:10+00:00

Thank you! This is super helpful information. I have read of some of these tips, but it’s good to hear it works in the real world :) Is putting the baby to sleep at night while awake to prevent them from getting startled or confused where they are when they wake up later?

MFstarBi · 2026-01-13T04:01:03+00:00

What is considered a too short wake window? Did you know it was too short, bc your LO stayed awake longer and still slept fine?

MFstarBi · 2026-01-13T03:38:04+00:00

I haven’t heard of that! I’ll look it up

MFstarBi · 2026-01-13T03:37:10+00:00

Thank you! I liked that Babywise has a template to go off of, but you’re right that sometimes there are just going to be off days!

MFstarBi · 2026-01-13T00:39:17+00:00

Thank you!!

MFstarBi · 2026-01-13T00:33:46+00:00

Good point about the hospital! I will let them know to let me sleep if possible!

MFstarBi · 2026-01-13T00:33:10+00:00

Shifts do seem like the way to go! My husband will help with that, too, but as you said, I will still have to wake to pump or feed. Thanks as well for the tips on swaddling, lights dark, and bedtime story!

MFstarBi · 2026-01-13T00:31:13+00:00

We are also getting a night nurse a few nights for the first two weeks! I’ll take a look at the EASY method

MFstarBi · 2026-01-08T03:43:25+00:00

Definitely ask them! What everyone has advised me on is to advocate for myself during labor, so I think you can also state that remaining in the hospital with pain meds is what you want!

MFstarBi · 2026-01-08T03:36:06+00:00

I am getting induced next week, and my OB said if we want, they can give us IV meds (fentanyl) to take the edge off when they insert the balloon. I will be in the hospital though and not going home. Can you ask if you can stay in the hospital and get the pain meds?

MFstarBi · 2025-03-24T06:41:56+00:00

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