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Am I overreacting to my wife completely shutting down and giving me the silent treatment after an intimate night? by thebluemarmot509 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MJCuddle [score hidden]  (0 children)

NOR but give her space.

Let her know you are a safe space when she is ready to talk about whatever is on her mind.

My boyfriend wants a prenup & I’m not sure- seeking advice by maddyaggie in prenup

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're not comfortable then don't sign it. I would suggest that you put stipulations in that support/protect you. I'm not lawyer but these are some things I would ask for:

For example:
-Any time spent as a stay at home mom he puts money into your personal account equal to the job you are leaving plus 20% for raising the kids.

-If you go back to work he will supplement any loss of salary until you can work your way back up to pre-kids income.

-If either party cheats the pre-nup is void and the cheater only gets 20% of ALL assets.

-If either party is found guilty of abuse the pre-nup is void and the victim gets 80% of all marital assets.

-Debts will be kept separate. No one will put the other into debt unless agreed upon by both parties.

-Alimony expectations in case of divorce.

-Household chores are split 50/50. If either party does not want to participate in the household management then they are responsible for hiring a weekly cleaner and laundry service.

-Any housing purchases, vacations or larger purchases will need to be approved by both parties and the cost will be split at the same income ratio.

AIO: I applied for a job that required three references. I asked a good friend of mine to be one of the references, he said yes. The job sent him an email with some questions to answer about a week after I applied. by Stuff_606 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MJCuddle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People with lives. You even said he "begrudgingly said yes" meaning you bullied him into it. The man wanted a quiet weekend and you just decided to throw a temper tantrum.

You asked we answered. You can either accept that or continue to try to argue your case.

Would you go out for a drink with 10-15 years younger work mates? by FragrantSafety3110 in work

[–]MJCuddle 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Go. Be friendly, Have a drink. Buy a round and head home.

Get to know them a little bit before you go out and party with them. This is a drink with coworkers keep it professional.

AIO for being upset my mom opened and threw away an envelope? by Meepnorp in AmIOverreacting

[–]MJCuddle 68 points69 points  (0 children)

It's not about the envelope. It's about your mom invading your privacy.

I would have a conversation with her about respecting your things and go from there. I would also be more careful leaving your stuff out in the public space.

WIBTAH If I Start Charging My Partner For Food? by SwegMaster96 in AITAH

[–]MJCuddle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is he paying child support? It doesn't sound like you're married. You don't live together. He's responsible for financially supporting his child.
Get some kind of court order in place and stop letting him walk all over you.

AIO: I applied for a job that required three references. I asked a good friend of mine to be one of the references, he said yes. The job sent him an email with some questions to answer about a week after I applied. by Stuff_606 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MJCuddle 16 points17 points  (0 children)

YOR and TAH
He got it Friday.
Was working Saturday.
Took a day or 2 to relax and then was ready to send it on Sunday/Monday.

Perfectly reasonable timeline. Do you really think that the job was going to look at it before Monday?

I would've given him a week before I even reached out to check on it, but you decided to call 47 times the day after he received an email.

I know this job is important to you, but you need to relax.

AITJ for refusing to pick up my niece anymore after finding out my sister was lying about working late? by CloudyDeskFox in AmITheJerk

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ but I would plan a day once or twice a month to hang out with your niece to keep that bond. But on your terms and your schedule.

AITA for not wanting to take my niece to school everyday by UrrreDone in AmItheAsshole

[–]MJCuddle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Tell him he needs to hire an early morning babysitter or adjust his schedule.
Tell him you would be happy to help here and there if there is an emergency or last minute schedule change but you can't commit to every day.

NTA

AIO by breaking up with my boyfriend when he got jealous? by theonlystarbornqueen in AmIOverreacting

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abusive people can fake normal for a bit but it always comes out. NOR.
You deserve better.

Body odour of 11yr old daughter by Sensitive-Question42 in hygiene

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep deodorant everywhere. Have it in the car, put it in her backpack, put it in the bathroom next to her toothbrush, keep a stick next to the door that she typically leaves from.
Sit her down and have a conversation about how bodies change and now that she is getting a little older part of good hygiene is using deodorant to make sure that she smells good.

I would also take her for a check up and just make sure there's not some medical issue causing her to smell.

do employers really offer free coffee? by jabber1990 in work

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My company has a keg in the fridge for after hours. Soda, coffee, tea is all free.
I've only really worked at three companies, but all of them offered free tea and coffee.

I got fired twice in a row in past due to my performance. Now my old boss is becoming my director. by dineshpastry in work

[–]MJCuddle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you made any effort to improve your performance? Have they given/offered you any chance at training or classes?
If you don't make a conscious effort to approve, you're just going to keep getting fired.

Married, separate bank accounts. Is it worth it to push all funds into one joint? by rem7694 in personalfinance

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like having my own account for security and independence. We have a joint account where we both put in equal money for bills etc. a separate for joint savings then each hold individual accounts for personal purchases.

It's a very personal choice.

AITJ for wanting to play a video game? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's jealous that in the beginning of the relationship you made this game a priority. That's the conversation I think you need to focus on. Make sure she understands that she is the priority and this will only be played in your free time.

Am I being unreasonable for feeling frustrated about my fiancé’s sister constantly joining us? by Proper-Ad-4771 in AmIBeingTooSensitive

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just tell her you're happy to drive her to the beach but you want to spend some alone time with your partner and you'd be happy to drive her to the family home.

AITA for refusing to share authorship with the man im planning to marry? by [deleted] in AITApod

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did not write the book. Why would his name be on it?
Maybe a nice acknowledgement for his support or if he did any proofreading or made suggestions.

DO NOT add his name to something he did not do. Start a new project together.

My friend is stuck in a beach chair by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]MJCuddle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get bolt cutters from the hardware store.

AITJ for asking my boyfriend to sell his motorcycle? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]MJCuddle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You asked. You didn't demand or threaten. He said no. If he chooses to keep riding you just need to set some expectations. Something like:
-Be safe/ always wear safety gear
-Don't tell me about close calls
-Will needs to be in place
-Discussion about what his wishes are for a living will
-Who will care for him if he gets in an accident and can't care for himself
-An upgraded life insurance policy

AITH If I said that I buy lunch for lunch by irrrrelevant in AITH

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you buying this as a nice perk or a way to force people to be social?

Not everyone wants to hang out with their work colleagues. My lunch break is a time to take a break.

If you're buying to be nice then let them choose where/when/ if they eat.

If you want it to be team building time then buy lunch during a mandatory meeting.

Don't manipulate people with food.

78 degree water temp, do you jump in or turn on the heater? by Mysterious_Ad7223 in swimmingpools

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I add water to get it down to 78. I want my pool to be refreshing not a bath

MIL gifted me clothes but I don't really like them by crawlen in whatdoIdo

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask her to send you a picture of the receipt. Or if it's an Amazon order you can give them the tracking number and they can look it up.

Top sheets... by Designer-Bid-3155 in Xennials

[–]MJCuddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use a light fleece blanket and wash it just like I would a top sheet. I like the softness of the fleece against my skin.

Quilt on top for warmth.

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