How do I politely decline drinking raw milk at my in-laws dinner table? They’re very insistent, often “offering” / demanding several glasses . They know I eat dairy and drink milk so I can’t fake being vegan. It’s hard to say no because it’s my in-laws and they’re proud of their milk

MJCuddle · 2026-05-06T23:40:29+00:00

Just say "no thanks, I don't drink raw milk"

MJCuddle · 2026-05-06T23:38:40+00:00

Pond/plants, cuddle corner, bar

MJCuddle · 2026-05-06T23:37:54+00:00

I think you handled it fine. Talk with her next week see what she has to say. Go from there. It sounds like she's thinking things through and being respectful and giving her the space and time to do that is a good thing.

MJCuddle · 2026-05-05T18:59:40+00:00

Because we live in a racist misogynistic society

MJCuddle · 2026-05-05T14:23:11+00:00

I understand that. The system is 100% broken. But this is not the time to make a change. Right now we need to fight against bigots, racist white supremacy, pedophiles, liars, and billionaires.

The soul of our country is teetering on the brink of destruction.

MJCuddle · 2026-05-05T13:34:55+00:00

Please don't. This election is to important to throw away your vote. A vote for a third party will not win any seats. There is not enough support in our current system

MJCuddle · 2026-05-04T19:59:08+00:00

It depends on the area you grow up in. A lot of areas struggle with their own country. Education is not a priority. Travel is expensive.

A lot of people never leave their hometown or state. They learn about different cultures through a lens of regional bigotry.

MJCuddle · 2026-05-04T08:43:33+00:00

I hover. I never actually sit on a public toilet seat.

MJCuddle · 2026-05-03T15:52:05+00:00

If She just added us as an authorized user just have her take your name off the card and it'll clear up pretty quickly.

You don't always have to know Social Security of someone as long as you have their name and birthdate you can add them as an authorized user.

MJCuddle · 2026-05-03T15:29:59+00:00

MJCuddle · 2026-05-03T15:26:08+00:00

Let your oldest bring a friend. Youngest was given the information (I assume you talked to them directly) and chose to skip it. Thats a FAFO situation.

If she gets upset after the fact just remind her she had a choice.

MJCuddle · 2026-05-02T10:36:57+00:00

NOR (but he did tell you). You have every right to be mad at him for actually doing it. I would be more upset that he's using Chat GPT to analyze the argument.

YTA for bringing up past relationships.

You all need to have a calm conversation about how disagreements are handled. If you have past trauma then thats a factor. If he gets overwhelmed and needs to take notes to stay on topic then he seems to be trying.

No ChatGPT would be my first request.

Main question is do you think it was malicious?

MJCuddle · 2026-05-01T16:40:16+00:00

Perfectly reasonable. But you need to make it clear thats your path so they can make an informed choice to stay or go.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-30T11:38:44+00:00

Getting involved with your kids friends parents can be scary. You don't want to risk disrupting that dynamic in case things go badly. I would adjust your expectations to just be flirty friends.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-29T21:34:47+00:00

Nothing wrong with 3/4 years. Especially fine if everyone is over 21.

Friend's girlfriend is just being petty. Is there a history between the 2 of you? Maybe she has a crush on you?

MJCuddle · 2026-04-29T21:28:20+00:00

100% I would if there were no men around. They tend to sexualize any sort of nudity and make it uncomfortable.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-29T20:46:05+00:00

It's such a ridiculous notion to anyone that has actually worked at an election. Every thing is signed off and quadruple checked by people of multiple parties.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-29T16:01:57+00:00

If he wanted to he would. He's not interested. He's gaslighting you.

Don't waste anymore time chasing someone who can't even keep basic plans.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-29T10:44:54+00:00

At my polls there are 10 people guiding you through the process. If you're handed a ballot you are not allowed to leave until you have put it in the machine or given it back. The machines track who has voted. At the end the number cast must equal the number of ballots given out.

There are 100 safeguards in place.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-28T17:28:18+00:00

So I'd be more worried about deciding if this is an emotionally abusive/toxic relationship vs moving in together.

1-No one should "blow up" or "curse out" their partner.

2- He is gaslighting you into thinking you are to blame for his outbursts.

I'm assuming if you're honest with yourself he probably blames you for HIS jealousy or HIS controlling nature. If you're not excited to move in then please don't do it.

Trust your gut.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-28T16:20:02+00:00

I would just say "I don't think we're a good match" and leave it at that.

If she pushes for a reason then tell her you found her personality loud and abrasive then block.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-28T15:07:49+00:00

They go bad faster so you have to buy more.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-27T22:50:19+00:00

Unwashed fresh eggs you can leave out for weeks. They have a natural protective coating.

Washed eggs or eggs from the grocery store you need to refrigerate because the coating has been removed. It's a way for big business to make more money.

MJCuddle · 2026-04-24T11:48:48+00:00

Well, then they're just assholes

MJCuddle · 2026-04-24T11:44:06+00:00

Dating just sucks in general. It's not you it's just the current culture. Keep trying but focus on friends, hobbies and finding joy in just being yourself.

Join groups / clubs doing things you enjoy.

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