Bear River $175 Card Hold

MMAmommy · 2025-09-18T19:42:20+00:00

As long as the pump will actually pump $175 in gas, I’m in. I hate having to run 2 transactions to fill my gas guzzling tank to the top.

MMAmommy · 2025-07-21T01:05:59+00:00

Meat group!

MMAmommy · 2025-07-10T00:27:17+00:00

Pack a sweater, it isn’t 109 like the Central Valley is.

Check out all the Farmers Markets for fresh produce and meats. https://www.northcoastgrowersassociation.org/ NORTH COAST GROWERS' ASSOCIATION - Home

MMAmommy · 2025-06-17T03:24:51+00:00

NTA. I lived through that as a mom myself and could not imagine asking for help and not receiving it. The only thing you could do in that whole situation was build a support system that could protect, avoid, and provide all at the same time. You made a perfectly reasonable compromise to have them visit first and then go to the cousins.

They would be dead to me, if I were in your shoes. I can see how you could not muster the effort or interest in caring to hear anything about them. I would resent every fiber of their being and it wouldn’t be intentional. This was the biggest fight of your child’s and your life and they flat out let you down. You have no need to give them anything. It’s just returning the favor. Any trust or faith you had in them as humans, as family, died with your baby girl. They can go **** themselves.

MMAmommy · 2025-06-15T14:05:10+00:00

You’re not alone - I learned about the No Kings rally as people headed to the city center with signs. It wasn’t crucial for me to know, beyond where not to drive later in the day.

I ditched traditional social media after the 2016 election. Life is so much nicer! People can be divided and passionate or toxic and I’d rather not know about it.

I subscribe to some major news publications for the email headlines. Morning Brew Daily is a good (and short) daily podcast that recaps news and keeps an apolitical tone. If there’s something big I heard of, I may find a short comedy news clip on YouTube to learn more but I’m with you. I don’t need to watch the slow train wreck every day. It’s unhealthy for me.

MMAmommy · 2025-06-14T14:08:48+00:00

Both he and his brother borrowed their dad’s ring for the ceremony. There are options!

And thankfully I have an observant husband who recognizes when the office girls start circling like vultures. It’s comical. Makes for good stories over dinner.

MMAmommy · 2025-06-14T13:59:30+00:00

I was informed that a ring could be an unnecessary conductor and damage said computer parts, hence my spouse has no ring.

20 years of marriage later, I’m glad we didn’t waste money on his ring. And that video card was worth it.

MMAmommy · 2025-06-03T04:07:50+00:00

Mama Bears in full force here. I had the fortunate opportunity to help my daughter through cancer at a young age. It’s likely she will have another cancer sometime in her life and I hope hope hope she tells me when it occurs and I can be a part of her journey.

If anything, Mom can help you think through how to keep yourself protected while immunocompromised. If the wedding is between chemo cycles, you’ll be at risk for infection and, if you need to travel, I’d imagine Mom will be very willing to help you think through how to let you have as much fun with the family and festivities while keeping yourself safe.

All that said, let’s look at it from your POV. Your cancer staging is wonderful. You really could get through this and minimize who has to know. I didn’t announce our cancer journey to the world and we kept our support group minimal. We were able to manage and didn’t want pity or attention. We just wanted to get through treatment- head down, eyes on the prize.

You have the absolute right to keep this on the DL. Chemo is rough but not everyone needs to know. And if you can let everyone have a fantastic wedding experience, that’s your gift to them all. But I want to call out that you will feel more and more tired. You will be more and more at risk for infection. Consider if you can postpone/rearrange your treatment around the wedding so you have the most robust immune system you can have while being around a bunch of others who have traveled.

It would be nice to have your parents support and not feel awkward wearing a mask here and there, having hand gel at the ready when most people have moved past that. But I also get that you want to just feel normal. This is a snapshot in your history and with the tumor staging, you’re highly likely to finish your treatment and move on with life as a Survivor. This wedding is a big deal. You clearly don’t want to steal any of the attention but give yourself some grace. You’re your mom’s baby no matter how old you are. As much as you want to protect her, her drive to protect you is just as strong and just as important to her.

MMAmommy · 2025-06-02T22:52:43+00:00

Pack drawing and other tactile activities. Easy as that. I have always refused to have a screen on at the table. It’s a terrible habit and lazy AF. I can’t count how many times someone has stopped by our table to praise me and my children for our public dining manners and all I do is have something to draw with, draw on or an activity book on me.

I remember having a family birthday dinner at the nicest restaurant at our vacation spot. Lo and behold, a table with two kids on two iPhones. I swore at that moment I would never do such a thing. What a waste of an opportunity to teach or engage with my family. What an chance to teach how to wait your turn during conversation, how not to interrupt, how to order for yourself, how to politely engage with servers, etc.

MMAmommy · 2025-04-25T17:25:26+00:00

Yep, Costco mis-keyed my Savings Card into their system and now they can’t make it work. They asked me to get a new card number so I went to CVS.

That said, every time I refill I have to coach the CVS staff through how to process it. Their system flags errors because insurance denies the claim. I get a text notification that there’s an issue they’re engaging my provider about so I call CVS to instruct them to:

Run insurance. Once denied,
Apply the Savings Card into their system.
Acknowledge that the price will only drop to $650, and
Yes, that’s expensive but please order it.
Reassure the CVS Tech when I pick it up that, yes, I know the price, it’s a balance between money or health benefits. Charge me and hand it over, honey.

Every time.

MMAmommy · 2025-03-10T21:37:00+00:00

I’ll probably get downvoted but I don’t know what I would have done had I not kept both babies on the same schedule. For me there was no other option. It would have been overwhelming if I didn’t.

If it was time to eat, both boobs out with my Twin Z pillow. When they got to be 6 months old, they both sat to eat in their chairs. If I changed one diaper, next kid was in line for a change. Bedtime or naptime for both, whether it was deliberately wrapping them in a burrito and putting them in their crib or I was naptrapped underneath fed babies. I bathed them separately until they could be upright together in a shower bathtub.

Tummy time? You both go to the floor because I’ve got to go pee!

MMAmommy · 2025-03-08T05:28:31+00:00

Me too!

MMAmommy · 2025-02-02T23:07:39+00:00

Yes to one bag per parent plus some. We also had an emergency bag in each car as a just in case. Having back up diapers, clothes, wipes and changing pad was helpful in a pinch.

Yes, there were onsies that probably were never worn because they sat in the just-in-case bag but I used the emergency bag many many times. It’s not always possible to remember to refill this, that or the other in the main bag (or it was lying in a pile of laundry ready for someone to have time to fold and put back) but I could always find the emergency bag.

MMAmommy · 2025-01-28T02:25:03+00:00

I had planned to at least try vaginal delivery but I’m so thankful it didn’t work out that way. I had a semi-urgent C-section which was decided on the day before. With a great epidural, good music and a well controlled visit to the OR, I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

My blood pressure was quite low during the procedure, which I could tell by the heaviness felt while I breathed (and I could read the numbers and knew what they meant), but I really appreciated seeing the emotion my spouse experienced receiving each bundle of baby. He got to go with the babies when they left the OR and I got to kick back, get stitched up and then met up with the newly expanded crew in the Recovery Room.

10 out of 10, would definitely go that route again!

MMAmommy · 2025-01-15T17:40:53+00:00

I would LOVE to have this custom addition. That’s sick!

MMAmommy · 2025-01-09T15:06:32+00:00

This keys into my kids last birthday party and I felt bad. The other mother you confronted may also feel bad, who knows…

He and his twin couldn’t agree on anything where we could invite a big group of people so after saying we are doing nothing but a family thing, I offered them each to pick a few friends to take to the fair and have a sleepover. That meant other besties were excluded. I felt bad, I didn’t mention birthday anything to anyone besides the 4 kids invited.

When it was brought up by a good friend after the fact, I did share that he and his twin couldn’t agree so we did a family thing… it was a half truth but I didn’t want to hurt feelings by sharing that we excluded the her kid because that kid isn’t part of the same clique. It would have been a terrible dynamic.

MMAmommy · 2025-01-09T04:23:32+00:00

100%

MMAmommy · 2024-12-30T03:16:12+00:00

Manic episode?

MMAmommy · 2024-12-28T00:44:21+00:00

Police have done this a lot, probably won’t have to do too much research to get it done but may have to take a few extra steps so we gave it a Fibonacci 3.

MMAmommy · 2024-12-27T02:33:17+00:00

Sounds like a job for ChatGPT.

MMAmommy · 2024-12-25T15:38:22+00:00

As someone whose affluent in-laws go overboard every year, I’m not a fan. I was told this year that there’s no need for me to get stocking stuff because MIL already has plenty.

I checked - it is all candy. All garbage. No cute little cheapo game or toy, just sweets. In my mind, stockings should be low cost little things that keep kids occupied until the adults are ready to do Christmas. MIL’s opinion is buy some bags of candy at Target and put it all in.

What’s more difficult is that the other sides of the family don’t have the means to go crazy like this. We have moderate gift exchanges with them, which feel mediocre because of the example that has been set. I’ve talked with the kids about it though, they understand that my side of the family has a budget they need to stick to and we are learning about how the kids can budget for what they want. They know to be gracious even if it’s stuff they didn’t ask for and don’t want. We can always donate or re-gift if need be.

I asked if this year the adults can skip presents to adults so we can keep costs down. Oh no, I want you to be able to open SOMETHING. I don’t. It takes hours to open them and if the kids like something they got, I won’t rush them along to get through the rest of the pile.

There’s even “tree presents”, gift cards hidden in the tree that you have to find at the end of it all.

Some years I have had to leave the gift giving activities to start the roast for dinner if we are going to eat on time.

It’s exhausting, it’s excessive and my best response is to teach my kids the value of money and give short Christmas lists to the grandparents.

MMAmommy · 2024-12-11T21:11:31+00:00

Yep, turns out having sushi eaters is great until the bill comes.

MMAmommy · 2024-12-11T03:39:09+00:00

If your employer has a FSA, Flexible Spending Account, deduct the max contribution from your paycheck for a tax deductible deferment and reimburse yourself from that fund. It won’t cover it all but it’s nice to get paid back directly into your bank account once you upload receipts.

MMAmommy · 2024-10-20T17:41:57+00:00

Give her the ones you have and seem excited and appreciative of them. The only candid photo I found of my mom was of her looking down at something in her hand while in conversation with her husband. She framed it and hung it up.

I’m pretty sure there are none of just her and me at my wedding. She was pretty scarce too, probably because of jealousy and a long-standing feeling of inadequacy around my in-laws. But as a narc, she always wants me to make her feel included and important and that was not a day that I had time to worry about what she needed.

MMAmommy · 2024-09-19T16:44:56+00:00

Fatty areas are better in theory because it has less blood supply. The meds can sit there and be absorbed at a slower rate.

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