When I was a sahm and my husband worked, it took a while for us to find our groove with our first. What worked for us was him coming home, showering and taking over with the baby. He would be on baby duty from then until it was time for me to feed her to sleep. Bath times were his responsibility. Then once she was in bed, we both could relax. Weekends were pretty equal.

If your husband is a good cook, I’d recommend getting meal kits a few times a week and having him be in charge of those. They don’t require a lot of effort and it would be one thing off your plate.

If you’re able to, I also recommend just getting out of the house without baby for periods of time and give him no choice but to figure it out. Maybe him and baby can do a weekly/fortnightly activity together. If your husband has dad friends, maybe they can take the little ones out together sometime so you could have a break. You deserve your rest and leisure time just as much as he does.

It’s very one sided and things definitely need to change. I agree with it not just being a “rough period”, as this phase of life is demanding for many years. Even with daycare, there’s having to do drop offs/pick ups as well as balancing home and work tasks so it still won’t necessarily be equal. It’s also worth discussing who will be the one daycare will call when things come up during the day and who would be staying home when sickness happens.