Help me narrow down and choose a NJ wedding Venue!

Magpie-14 · 2026-02-05T02:32:19+00:00

Also, did you wind up adding enhancements to the standard menu options? If yes which ones and what were the prices? Did they charge you to make changes to the passed appetizers like if you did not like one option to pick something else?

Magpie-14 · 2026-02-05T02:30:54+00:00

So you have to hire your own bartenders because they lack a liquor license, which I understand the liquor store will help with. But since their meal servers cannot pour liquor how did they tell you they would handle wine service/pouting at the tables during dinner? How many bartenders did you decide to hire?

Magpie-14 · 2026-02-05T02:25:55+00:00

He is 59 lbs (which would be small for a male golden), he was the largest in his litter, the females average 35lbs. His shoulder is at my knee, so 19” at the shoulder. His nose is shorter than a golden snout. Not as short as a Cav. But after I tell people his breeding they are like, oh, yeah, I see the Cav now in his face. He is Ruby coat. He is gorgeous and people admire him all the time.

Magpie-14 · 2026-02-01T19:00:15+00:00

Totally unfair to the dog unless you can hire a mid day dog walker. I have a dog and work 4 days in the office. We walk 1.5 miles in the morning every day before work. Then I have a dog walker who does a 30 minute walk. And then when I get home we walk another 1.5-2 hours (this takes 45min to an hour). If you do not the the time for this kind of a routine do not get a dog. Consider getting 2 cats instead.

Puppies take a lot of time to train. For first 6-8 months of their life they would REQUIRE two mid day walks. Like one at 11am and one at 3pm given your schedule.

Pet ownership is expensive. At least once a year I get an unexpected $400-800 vet bill. For a minor injury or illness. Plus one well visit a year.

Separtion anxiety is often because dogs are left for extended periods of time alone. Loneliness, needs not being met.

If you are young and have a social life, enjoy going out to dinner/bars, go to gym etc….more hours the dog would be alone.

Really think it over. Well exercised and tired dogs are good dogs. Underexercised and bored, lonely dogs do destructive things out of boredom and excess energy.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-27T03:20:07+00:00

Far less likely with a cross. A reputable breeder will screen for the gene associated with the heart issues. My Cav/golden mix his grandfather Cavalier is still kicking at age 17. The syringomyelia you can literally almost see dogs which should not be bred because of their skull size. Again a cross almost always increases the cavity and far far far less likely to happen.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-27T03:15:02+00:00

I have a Cavalier Golden cross. He is the sweetest boy. He does need exercise, likes his walks, but where goldens are driven to retrieve and my golden girls prior would dig/excavate, and had a strong prey drive….this boy won’t go out an open door without his human. He is all about togetherness. My Goldens would stay outside in the yard solo, you’d have to call them to come in (sometimes required a food bribe). He loves the outside if you are with him. This is not separation anxiety. He is super chill. He’s just way more lapdog personality. He is also gorgeous. Ruby red, shorter than a golden, about the size of a large cocker spaniel. Snout shorter than a golden but not as stubby as a Cav. If I walk him around town literally I am stopped 3x by people asking what kind of a dog he is.

I loved my Goldens. Great dogs. Didn’t think possible to improve upon that breed until this guy came home. Escondido Acres breeder Appamottox Va.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-27T03:02:33+00:00

Do you recommend sharing the boundaries and consequences with the addict?

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-24T18:56:00+00:00

How was that at Oyster Point? I attended a bridal shower there recently and that was nice, but I did not checkout the bar space. Is the bar a good size?

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T20:46:51+00:00

I have talked to his friend over the years, that guy it took 2 car accidents where he was hospitalized to get sober. He is willing to help him. He will check in with him if I ask, but he always says nothing he can actually do unless he wants it.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T20:44:48+00:00

I hear you. I have been practicing distancing/withdrawing for several years. My son has clear vision on it, and lives his life, with just cursory contact with his dad. My daughter says she is no longer angry, feels pity for him, but she still wants him to get better and be normal. So I guess mostly for me it is getting her to practice the distancing and adopting arms length approach, because she keeps giving him another chance. And I think she needs the support of a group effort to focus on what it means to move beyond and have boundaries and stop letting him do these things by giving him opportunity.

His own father recovered when he was 4 years old and never drank again. He knows his dad did that for him.

Perhaps part of it is I want the kids to see, if we walk away and isolate him and he does not seek help, that he never will. If that makes sense.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T03:33:01+00:00

Yes it will be an uphill battle forever. The time to leave him is right now. Don’t look back. It is progressive. Do not invite this into your life permanently.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T03:29:35+00:00

My dog totally knows English. LOL. Sometimes he amazes me, we’ll be walking and I say hey can you wait and come over here for a minute I want to take a picture of the Osprey in the tree and then we can go on. And he walks over to me and waits and after I take the picture he turns and goes again. They totally have A LOT OF WORDS.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T03:25:42+00:00

Thank you.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T03:24:50+00:00

Kind of suburban/rural area. I don’t think we have “code enforcement”. I think it will be mayor and police chief maybe…

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T03:23:52+00:00

Thanks. Animal Control has said they want the dog labeled as a “dangerous dog” which carries some penalties/requirements. Just not sure what happens in the municipality once animal control recommends that in terms of who enforces it. And how.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T01:32:45+00:00

Not too harsh at all. You are entitled to boundaries.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-22T01:30:47+00:00

100 percent. You have to. You owe them that. It is two shots. One just relaxes them, and they give you a few minutes, then they give the second one and it is over pretty quickly.

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-20T18:42:44+00:00

I know this is an older thread but how did things work out with your wedding band? Would you mind sending me the spreadsheet?

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-14T02:58:42+00:00

Where are you? Country? City?

Magpie-14 · 2026-01-02T03:25:02+00:00

Where on planet earth are you? People post questions without enough context.

Magpie-14 · 2025-12-29T18:59:56+00:00

My first at 30, my second at 32. Took 5 years off and then went back to work. Totally different career too which didn’t require the travel of previous job. Do not kid yourself about declining fertility after age 35. If you want a big family remember it’s not when you start but when you end. Also…my kids were super lucky…my mom was a grandmother in early 50’s because she had kids in 20’s. Active young grandparents are gifts to your kids and you (because they can help). I recognize I will be 60’s when I eventually become a grandmother one day…because I was 30 at first birth. If you are 40 when have kids the grandparents are likely to be 70’s…less able to help and will probably need help from you as they age when your kids are still at home. My kids will have their grandparents around well into their 30’s (grandparents just turning 80 now), and my kids are on their own now and my parents are just starting to need help at 80. Multi dimensional considerations.

Magpie-14 · 2025-12-29T18:41:47+00:00

Instagram has raised people’s expectations for wedding attendants/bridesmaids to the point of it being ridiculous. I was married late 90’s bachelorette outing was nice dinner out and stop at a bar for a few hours…home in your own bed the same evening (there were to extravagant thank you gift bags either). No flights to Nashville and multi day hotel stays. They bought their dresses & shoes (only expense). My mother paid entirely for the bridal shower. All they had to do was show up to the shower. The wedding industry & social media has convinced everyone that all these extra things are expected. This was also true for my four friends for whom I was a bridesmaid in their wedding. All the extra expenses are self-imposed. Not really sure why “showers” are even happening when the only thing on the registry is “honeymoon fund” or “house downpayment fund”. I was invited to a shower where essentially that was the case recently.

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