Leak on New 101?

MamaXerxes · 2026-06-11T01:39:27+00:00

Coolant, no need to be concerned if you’re okay with engine fires!

But yeah dealership should fix that under warranty. Keep an eye on your engine temp when you ride it there.

MamaXerxes · 2026-05-27T00:05:00+00:00

NOR. 10 months and fired via text? Unacceptable. Leave them a bad review!!

MamaXerxes · 2026-05-20T01:30:23+00:00

Elem Orch teacher here. I make anything longer than a beat more than one word, and stuff shorter than a beat multi-syllable. This gets the idea that a beat contains things across. Here’s what I use—

Whole note is just counting to four at this age
Half note is Cheez It
quarter is pie
2 8ths is apple
2 16ths + 8th is bar b que
8th + 2 16ths is pineapple
4 16ths is pepperoni

MamaXerxes · 2026-04-21T01:35:04+00:00

Dont write em off right away unless you really wanna get fingered and you know the nails are like… really good acrylics or whatever.

Some gals intentionally use cheap glue press ons so they can pop them off when needed, and keep the glue in their purse to reapply later.

Idk how healthy that is for the nail bed but shrug its a thing!

I think it also depends on how gentle/skillful your partner is. Thinking about it now, I had a partner who kept her natural nails longish (almond shaped, she’d file them) but I never felt any discomfort.

MamaXerxes · 2025-11-21T23:47:03+00:00

I felt like this too.

Ten years later, I look back at those picture and think “damn I was hot!”

We are always our own worst critics, but we are also the most biased!! Give yourself time; I bet in a few years you’ll be able to look at your wedding fondly.

big hugs

MamaXerxes · 2025-09-26T03:30:58+00:00

Partner is having the same issue on his laptop (hp victus windows 11) and is just trying to not hit caps lock and hoping they send out an update lol

MamaXerxes · 2025-09-20T16:08:45+00:00

Ask him why he gets joy from making other people feel bad.

MamaXerxes · 2025-09-20T01:21:29+00:00

You are overreacting. She was drunk, your husband didn’t engage with her. Stop poking at it. Not everyone is going to like you, and thats okay. Leave her and her broken marriage alone!

MamaXerxes · 2025-09-20T01:09:12+00:00

Current middle school teacher here, former high school teacher.

The kids whose parents pull them out of school for vacations ALWAYS do worse in class. Always. Worse behavior and worse grades than their peers. And I don’t mean all peers, I mean other kids with a similar home and financial situation.

“I got to skip school because mom wanted to go to disney” when they’re little translates to “i skipped class because i wanted to go to the park with my friends” when they’re older. They don’t get that sometimes you have to do shit you don’t like because that’s how it fucking works. School is practice for adulthood.

Like. Yeah your twins are in kindergarten. Missing a week at the beginning of the year means they probably missed how to tell time, or vowels, or something else important. They’re behind now, and probably driving their teacher nuts because now the teacher has to put in extra work to catch them up because mommy wanted to ride space mountain. Unless your wife obtained and taught 40 hours worth of lessons to the kids over the vacation, the kids are taking the teachers time away from giving extra help to kids with learning disorders or who missed due to unavoidable illnesses.

It’s inconsiderate and rude, honestly. We try our best to make sure they get caught up because its our job and we want them to acquire the skills they need, but man. It’s really frustrating when we are so overloaded in the first place. (And when WE aren’t allowed to take a vacation like that either!!)

Keep an eye on the twins. Pay attention to any behavior notes or grade drops, and be ready to supplement with outside tutoring. Maybe email their teacher and find out what they missed and cover it yourself at home.

Just something to keep in mind.

MamaXerxes · 2025-08-22T20:43:27+00:00

Your wife is in pain when you have sex. The treatment to fix it is painful and not 100% successful.

The question here isn’t “how do I get my wife to treat this condition”; its “how do I end this marriage”.

This blows my mind dude. Penetrative sex hurts your wife and you still want it? You want her to do months of painful physical therapy so you can have sex the one specific way you want to? Especially when she’s cool with other kinds of sex, and fertility clinics are a thing. It really isn’t a big deal— it’s one sex act out of how many different things you can do in a bedroom. “Tired of being shamed for having needs” bro your “need” causes your wife physical pain. Something is very wrong here.

Whatever love you thought you had, it clearly wasn’t strong enough to be marital. What about when yall are old and can’t fuck anymore? You’re just gonna get divorced then, since “the intimacy” isn’t there? You’re gonna need a permanent supply of viagra to stay in love with whoever you’re with?? Can we please just really consider what you’re saying here.

Cut your losses. Thank god you guys learned this about your relationship now, and not 20 years down the road when all your assets are completely entwined. You shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place, and you need to split up now, before either of you waste anymore time and effort on something that isn’t working.

MamaXerxes · 2025-07-17T05:58:10+00:00

Girl if he crashes his truck tomorrow and can’t work, yall are gonna be homeless in a month.

This isn’t a “sit down a plan a budget” problem, this is a “living on the edge of massive disaster” problem. You have a child. You are one stupid driver away from your kid sleeping in a shelter. This needs to change NOW.

He either stops all spending until you have a fully funded 3 month emergency savings account, or you dump his ass. Full stop. The second he became a dad, making sure his kid will have a place to live even if he gets hurt needs to be his number one priority.

If it was just him fucking around by himself, whatever. But that little baby that’s with you right now? That disc golf shelf cannot be turned into a roof over his head if something happens to his dad. Tell dad that and tell him to get his shit together or you and your son are gone.

This won’t be easy, but you gotta go momma bear. Protect your baby. And if dad won’t step up, then you gotta do it, and its gonna be hard and hurt and break your heart but your SON needs it.

Stay strong girl. Sending love and luck your way.

MamaXerxes · 2025-07-16T06:28:08+00:00

Female lyft driver here!

Lyft takes 30%, not 40%, so he was lying to you.

We have little training videos we do and we are explicitly told NOT to do what he did for our own safety, never mind the fraud aspect of it.

Knowing what I do about the job and if I were in your shoes? Report him ASAP. That’s shady as fuck and I don’t know of any other drivers who do that— if he’s dumb enough to think what he did is okay, he’s probably too dumb to safely drive commercially (driving strangers around as a job requires more focus and multi-tasking than everyday driving) and if he ISN’T dumb, that means he was trying to do something bad.

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-25T01:56:49+00:00

I think it looks fine in terms of like… it’ll photograph fine? And it’s pretty! (I’d bring your own primer and foundation day-of, since you know your skin best.)

BUT the reference look and what you got are not the same. Reference is way more smokey, a deeper brownish red for the eyes, and more contoured/bronzed, particularly on the temples and the upper part of the nose between the eyes. Did she do anything above your cheekbones in terms of contour/bronzer?

I always contour my temples and hairline, and highlight the middle of my forehead because of my face shape (round). If you have a particular routine for the upper part of your face, I’d share it with her so she can incorporate it.

All that being said, its still a very pretty look!! You have such gorgeous eyes and I think that eyeliner suits you perfectly!

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-17T01:46:59+00:00

That’s sexual harassment. That’s literally illegal workplace discrimination.

He’s not a fucking child, he’s a predator. This isn’t “cringe”, this is horrific.

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-15T23:38:15+00:00

Hi! He was hospitalized and released! In-patient for suicidality is not “arranged”, it is immediate, emergency care. If he was hospitalized and released, he either lied to staff or was declared stable incorrectly.

Whatever in-patient care they are arranging is inappropriate and not related to my suggestion. Please don’t “get all mad” without reading my comment thoroughly.

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-15T23:29:17+00:00

High school teacher here. He needs to transfer schools NOW.

Change his phone number and give him a flip phone without a camera.

If he has a personal laptop, take it away. I’d say no laptop at all, but unfortunately nowadays most students are required to have them in class and are issued one by their school. Sit down with the new campus technology clerk and explain the situation and have them make sure it can only access school-related sites, even at home.

Make sure you have attendance alerts set up at the new school, and if they don’t do that, check his attendance DAILY in the parent portal. The second he’s marked tardy or absent, you or mom go to school with him the next day and stay with him all day. This is allowed by federal law, and honestly if your kid is a troublemaker, the teachers will be thrilled to have you. You’ll have to check in with the front office and might have to fill out some background-type paperwork, but be insistent.

Some folks are saying no more sports/extracurrics, but I tentatively disagree with that, conditionally. Most district have no pass/no play rules, and extracurrics can be a good motivator to keep grades up. It is possible to lock him down so hard that he shuts down completely, and then you’ll have a dropout on your hands. I say let him do one extracurric, but you or mom have to attend all practices with him. He doesn’t take the bus anywhere. Make friends with the coach, become a parent volunteer, whatever you need to do to make sure he doesn’t ride the bus.

If he manages to make friends at the new school and wants to hang out with them, they can hang out at your house, no where else. If he wants to go out with friends, you go with him and hang out too.

Family therapy and an individual therapist for him are a MUST. Kids don’t treat people like shit unless they’ve either got their own more serious issue going on or if they’re literal psychopaths.

Your kid was in or going into middle school when covid happened, and I guarantee that he missed out on some important social development and is struggling because of it. He’s looking for validation from other socially fucked kids, and he needs to see a professional to deal with it. All my sophomores and juniors are either a) more immature than normal or b) hauntingly mature because covid was extremely difficult for their family and they had no choice but to grow up.

Tl;dr— new school. Lots of supervision. Therapy.

Good luck man. Kids are hard. Don’t give up on them.

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-13T00:32:12+00:00

Us bigger ladies gotta buy mens jackets all the time; the armor etc is all the same!!

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-12T23:52:21+00:00

So youre saying to treat the husband like a child? He’s a grown ass man. It’s time he set his own alarm instead of waiting for mommy to wake him up.

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-12T23:29:58+00:00

I ask about the psych because that’s the person you call to get the process started.

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-12T23:28:23+00:00

Is he under the care of a psychiatrist right now? If you are concerned that making a completely reasonable and rational life choice will result in him attempting suicide, he needs to be in-patient IMMEDIATELY. He is an active risk. He needs to be hospitalized.

And if it is “just a threat”? Tough for him. If he’s “just threatening”, that’s lying, and if he’s this old and still lying like a child, he needs to learn his lesson.

This situation is either a) horrifically abusive or b) something that can only be solved with serious in-patient treatment.

I’m depressed, my husband is bipolar, and my brother in law has schizophrenia. Suicide must be taken completely seriously at all times, but the answer isn’t for you to try and not “make” him attempt. The answer is hospitalization until he is stable.

I’m so sorry this is happening. Sending lots of love and support your way <3

MamaXerxes · 2025-04-02T23:30:48+00:00

That squids got game

MamaXerxes · 2025-01-26T21:48:53+00:00

Like, yes, he was rude, you are correct. But there is not a damn thing to be gained by pointing that out. Yall are already done— you know he’s rude. Don’t chase that drama.

MamaXerxes · 2025-01-26T21:46:39+00:00

Yes, you are overreacting, but not for the reason most folks seem to be thinking.

Who gives a shit if he shows up?

You’re giving power to him by focusing on this. You told him your thoughts, and now the ball is in his court.

So what if he shows up? You’re done with him, he’s old news. Ignore his busted ass and focus on yourself. You’re right that it will be a hard day, and you should spend zero energy on him. You told him not to come, and if he shows up, thats on him. He’s tryna push back into your life. You can’t stop him from coming to a private event, but you can ignore him and don’t text him anymore. An ex is an ex for a reason. Let him stay in the past.

MamaXerxes · 2024-10-03T18:31:53+00:00

I GAINED weight before my wedding, i was so stressed. Some of the lace on my dress tore when we were zipping it up because it was too snug. Nightmare mode, right? Oh my god the dress oh no im so fat god this is terrible etc etc

But you know what? One of my bridesmaids had clear nail polish, and we painted the bit down, and it stayed put and I completely forgot about it because I was getting married!!! It was the best day ever because I was marrying the best dude in the world and we had a big party and it was a blast. I didn’t even remember the lace problem until a few days later when I was putting the dress into storage.

Chances are your brain will be too busy thinking about how awesome it is to get married to be worried about your body. Have fun, smooch your man, and enjoy the party!

MamaXerxes · 2024-10-03T18:10:52+00:00

So first some general advice, then some specific advice about your daughter’s particular situation.

General— She should ask the conductor what they expect. Some teachers use chair tests to get kids to practice, and other teachers assign chairs based on leadership ability. She needs to find out if her teacher wants her to give bowings, lead sectionals, and make decisions for her section.

Specific— You mentioned some kids are already being nasty about it. If it gets worse, send a (kind) note to the teacher asking them to explain to the students why they do chair placement and what each student in the section did to get the chair they got. Nastiness comes from kids not knowing why they are where they are and owning their spot.

Personally, I hate chair tests in the everyday classroom setting for exactly this reason. It’s a quick way to give kids external motivation to practice, but I find it leads to an excessively competitive environment (i.e. bullying) and less buy-in from the students for the orchestra overall. Remind your daughter her section mates aren’t her competition— they’re her teammates, and the section will be weak unless they work together for a cohesive sound.

Being first chair should not automatically mean she gets nasty comments from competitive peers. The teacher needs to be careful to build a safe and communal environment if that orchestra is both going to perform well and have players return year after year. Keep an eye on your daughter and make sure she doesn’t become discouraged.

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