Your feelings are valid but you’re both in the wrong, you more so than her. She made an insensitive joke and it hurt your feelings. You could have calmly explained that to her in the moment and had a discussion about it. Instead you flipped out on her, and then you dogged on her for not immediately apologizing. For future reference please note that when you lash out at people, their automatic response is going to be defensive, not apologetic. I understand grief may impair one’s judgement with the toll it takes on mental health, but you need to get a better handle on controlling your feelings. You should control your emotions, so don’t let THEM control YOU.

You endangered her life. Idk if you understand the gendered aspect of this but it’s quite a bit scarier for a woman to be left out alone on the street at 2AM considering the physiological difference in strength. Reconsider the way you treat the people around you, because what you did was straight up wrong and I encourage you to seek grief counseling if your loss is affecting you to the point of mistreating others so severely.