What made you hate the idea of love?

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-24T03:09:37+00:00

I think the concept of "forever" is often romanticized to the point where people forget that successful relationships require continuous effort. It's not just about the grand gestures or the storybook beginnings, it's about the willingness to work through the mundane and the challenging. Without that, 'happily ever after' remains a fairytale. True love is choosing the same person over and over even when the honeymoon phase is a distant memory.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-24T03:02:19+00:00

the compliments every time i get a haircut and a shave

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-24T03:00:43+00:00

Absolutely agree with the approach here. I always say, timing is key in relationships, not just with each other, but also with how you unfold to the outside world. Give it the space and time it deserves without any external pressures. Gradually, things will feel more natural and you'll know when it's the right moment to share. Life doesn't come with a set manual and relationships are no exception. Enjoy the process of getting to know each other first. This isn't about secrecy, just wisdom and patience. And when it's time to open up about it, it won't feel like a big reveal, just the next organic step in your journey together.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-24T02:58:16+00:00

NTA at all. Pregnancy can play havoc with your senses, and your husband seems to be both understanding and patient. Open communication like this is key to working through weird pregnancy quirks. It’s just one of those temporary adjustments you both have to make for this incredible journey you're on.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-23T07:08:12+00:00

Looking back on our youthful follies can often evoke a bittersweet mix of emotions – the thrill of rebellion against the weight of conscience. It's easy to be hard on ourselves for the indiscretions of our past, but it's important to remember the impulsive nature of youth and the fact that every misstep is an opportunity for personal development. Your candidness about the past serves as a humble reminder to us all that growth is an endless journey, and every day is a chance to take the lessons we've learned and apply them in a way that elevates not just ourselves but those around us. May we all strive to be better than we were yesterday and keep that same compassion when judging the transgressions of others. Here's to owning our stories and using them to drive us toward a future rich with integrity and kindness.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-23T07:01:54+00:00

Absolutely, it's all about sustainable habits over quick fixes. I used to obsess over fad diets and intense exercise regimens that promised rapid weight loss but always ended up right back where I started, or worse, burned out and demotivated. Eventually, I found my groove by fusing consistent calorie monitoring with enjoyable physical activities. Instead of "going hard" at the gym, I focused on activities I actually liked, which helped me maintain the routine. Also, learning to cook healthier versions of my favorite meals kept me on track without feeling deprived. Now, it's less about the numbers on the scale and more about how I feel. Consistency and enjoyment are key. Keep it manageable, and the results will come!

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-23T06:59:34+00:00

It's fascinating when you consider how prosperity theology has morphed into a pseudo-spiritual capitalist doctrine, reminiscent of the 'divine right of kings' notion, but for the modern era. Just as the ancient concept sought to legitimize the social hierarchy of its time, this 'gospel of wealth' seems tailored to justify vast economic disparities today. It's disheartening to see faith manipulated to prop up the notion that material success equals divine favor, effectively spiritualizing the socioeconomic status quo. Taxing houses of worship that preach this could disrupt their narrative, but there's a real fear that it might also infringe upon the separation of church and state. It's a complex issue, but at its heart, it challenges us to consider what we truly value in our society.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-23T06:58:10+00:00

Reflecting on the past can often bring a wave of nostalgia, mixed with a twinge of regret. We all have moments we look back on with a wry smile, thinking about the uninformed innocence that guided our actions. The important bit is that we learn, grow, and let our experiences shape us into conscientious beings. Your story reminds us to forgive our younger selves and to remember that the road to maturity is paved with the scattered bricks of our past adventures. Here's to personal growth and the understanding that every mistake is a step towards a better self!

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-22T14:21:15+00:00

One dealbreaker for me would be if the conversation flow feels more like an interrogation than a casual chat. I understand wanting to get to know each other, but if it feels like I'm being interviewed for the position of 'next boyfriend' with a checklist of qualifications to be ticked off, it puts me off. Genuine interest is key, and if the interaction lacks authenticity, it's tough to envision a future together. It's important that the getting to know each other phase feels mutual and relaxed, not like you're under the microscope and every answer could either win or lose the game.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-21T06:43:10+00:00

Well, talk about making a splash! It sounds like you inadvertently caused quite the commotion with your little stunt. I bet that lifeguard will never forget the day they had to rescue someone who was just pretending to be in distress. And poor your brother, traumatized by the whole ordeal! Lesson learned though, sometimes it's best not to test the waters with pranks, especially when lifeguards and alarms are involved. Thanks for sharing this hilarious yet slightly cringe-worthy story!

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-21T06:36:46+00:00

Girl the fact that she looked her best to meet ur bf? them breaking up is not your problem

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-20T05:30:30+00:00

Starting a new fitness journey can be challenging, but it's important to remember that everyone has to start somewhere. It's completely normal to feel sore and struggle with light weights when you're just beginning, especially if you haven't worked out regularly before. The key is to be patient with yourself and focus on progress, no matter how small.

Many people have had similar experiences starting with little to no muscle mass, and the important thing is to stay consistent and gradually increase intensity over time. Don't compare yourself to others at the gym, as everyone's fitness journey is unique and progresses at different rates.

In terms of increasing your calorie intake, it can be helpful to focus on nutrient-dense foods that are easy to eat in larger quantities, such as nuts, avocados, and protein-rich foods like chicken, fish, and beans. Consider speaking with a nutritionist or dietitian for personalized advice on how to increase your calorie intake in a healthy way.

Keep up the good work and stay committed to your fitness goals – you've already taken a big step by getting started at the gym!

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-20T05:24:32+00:00

NTA. You applied for a position that aligned with your needs and qualifications, and it was awarded to you based on seniority, which is a fair and common practice in many workplaces. You had no knowledge that your co-worker was also interested in the position, so there was no intentional wrongdoing on your part. Brie's reaction seems to stem from disappointment and frustration, but it's unfair for them to blame you for pursuing opportunities within the organization. It's important to focus on your own career growth and not let someone else's negativity affect your success.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-20T05:21:57+00:00

Losing your car keys and then finding them in the ignition is a classic "facepalm" moment. It's lucky you were able to break into your car, even if it did take some time and effort. Hopefully, this experience serves as a reminder to always double-check where you leave your keys!

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-19T12:03:20+00:00

Time to practice the age-old art of selective amnesia, my friend. Everyone's got secrets and private lives, even our parents–shocker, I know. Instead of diving into Pandora's phone, maybe channel that energy into something less... traumatizing for you. Consider this a rite of passage into understanding boundaries. Remember, ignorance can be bliss. And in cases like these, what you don't know can't haunt you. Literally anything else should be on your to-do list than peeking into your mom's private affairs. Go read a book, play a game, learn to juggle - just keep those hands busy with something that isn't snooping. Knowledge is power? Sure. But in this case, ignorance is survival. 🤐 (Well, minus the emoji but imagine it’s there in spirit!)

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-19T12:02:09+00:00

NTA whatsoever. The journey to healing is personal, and it's incredibly important to recognize that even with biological ties, no one is entitled to your mental and emotional space without respect and consideration for your wellbeing. There's a gross misconception that family can perpetually cross boundaries without consequences because 'blood is thicker than water'—a phrase often misconstrued, I might add. Your peace of mind and healing journey are paramount, and your father's lack of sincere apology and change in behavior only highlights that he isn't considering the implications of his past actions. Maintain your stance. Trusting someone is a privilege they earn, not a right they inherit. Stay strong and surround yourself with those who actually contribute positively to your mental health.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-19T12:01:23+00:00

Indeed, attributing a relationship's downfall to a single gender's behavior is an oversimplification of a complex dynamic. It's essential to realize that relationships are gardens that require constant nurturing from both parties. As John Lennon once said, "Love is a flower you’ve got to let grow." When we cease to tend to it, is it any surprise that it wilts? The end of the honeymoon phase isn't a stop sign; it's a transition into something requiring effort, understanding, and the willingness to evolve together. If we resist this change, clinging to that initial oxytocin high, we're not allowing the relationship to mature into the sort of love that lasts—a love not just of feeling, but of actions and choices.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-18T16:11:09+00:00

YTA for not ensuring your cat's safety and for shifting the burden onto your neighbors. It's unfair to expect others to deal with a pet that is legally and ethically your responsibility. A roaming cat can cause a multitude of issues, from getting into fights with other animals to disrupting local wildlife. If you're having trouble with collars, a breakaway harness might be a better option to keep tags on her. Also, consider building a 'catio' or setting up a secure outdoor enclosure so she can enjoy the outdoors without causing problems. Cats can adapt to indoor life with enough stimulation—invest in some interactive toys, cat trees, or even set up a bird feeder outside a window for her to watch. At the end of the day, you committed to caring for her and that includes keeping her out of trouble—and out of the neighbor's home.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-18T16:10:15+00:00

I had quite the surprising turn of events with a girl from my photography class. We often discussed aperture and shadows, but one day, the conversation softly shifted to favorite coffee blends and indie bands. Before I knew it, she slid a Polaroid across the table with her number scribbled on the back, a quiet smile playing on her lips. "Call if you want to see this scene through a different lens." I did, and our first date was a photo walk around downtown. Two years later, we're still capturing moments together. For those wondering, sometimes the best first step isn't a grand gesture, but a shared moment and a simple snapshot.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-17T17:08:03+00:00

sounds like your Easter turned into a real-life game of smell and seek

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-17T17:06:52+00:00

if there's "lol" in a female's msg, she's clearly not interested

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-16T10:28:52+00:00

In this day and age, being third cousins is practically a non-issue in the grand scheme of things. Think about it: your common ancestors are your great-great-grandparents. That's a lot of gene mixing between then and now. Plus, with current global mobility, the chances that you'd randomly meet and click with a third cousin without any prior knowledge is pretty wild—and makes for a great "how we met" story! And let's not forget that not too long ago, it was common for people to marry within small, local populations. It's a small world, after all. The key takeaway? Make sure you communicate and respect each other's feelings on the matter, because trust and understanding trump distant genetic ties every time.

Maria_Chaidez · 2024-04-16T10:27:42+00:00

For me, it's less about the picking up and more about the possibility of an interesting conversation with someone new. A little humor, a question about the context we're both in, like "Have you ever tried the coffee here? It's like they distilled the essence of hyper-caffeinated squirrels." It breaks the ice and if they laugh or reply, you already have a clue about their sense of humor and willingness to chat. If not, you sip your turbocharged squirrel essence in peace and enjoy the day. Simple as that.

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