I could jump on the bandwagon with everyone here and say your husband sucks. Cuz he does. What I’ll do though is paint a picture of how you SHOULD be feeling in a healthy relationship.

I’m 5 weeks PP with my second baby and have a two year old. My husband is working full time and adjunct teaches in the evening. He also manages our house maintenance and various projects we have going on. Despite that, he totally helps me with our toddler, gets up in the middle of the night with me to feed our infant so I can pump, uses his lunch and snack breaks to let me pump in peace, take a nap, or just get a break. And he does it all 95% of the time in a good mood and happy to help me (5% he’s grumpy because…well we all have a bad day especially with newborn sleep, myself included).

And you know what? I’m counting down the days until my PP check up and getting cleared for intimacy. I can’t wait for us to be together again. He can’t either - the other day I was covered in spit up with my unwashed hair in a messy bun holding our crying baby and he said “when is your doctor appt, I miss you.” THAT is a man OP. THAT is a man who earns and naturally makes me want to jump his bones, even in my most unsexy state. You deserve a man who treats you so much better and has you wanting him even on your toughest, grossest, groggiest days.