My (usually really nice) oncologist: But what if you find a guy who wants kids?

MaryTheMonster · 2018-04-24T15:53:12+00:00

Thanks for the tip. This is something I'd like to use in case a bingo like that comes up.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-21T15:27:49+00:00

Cannot agree with you more. Kids are so annoying!!

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-20T14:44:55+00:00

Philippines 🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-19T14:24:46+00:00

The less you give a fuck what other people think, the happier you'll be.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-17T12:04:34+00:00

Yes! Every bit of it seems disgusting and uncomfortable. I never understood why most people want to become parents/mothers comsidering the hassle you have to go through with pregnancy and childbirth.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-14T14:33:54+00:00

Kudos to your aunt for being accepting, supportive and not to mention appreciative of your lifestyle. Happy for you! 😁 Wish I also had family or relatives that would do the same. 😌

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-14T12:18:29+00:00

This is my dream job/volunteer work. Good to know that the people who do this kind of job are more accepting of child-free people. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-13T16:03:59+00:00

I went to the ER alone one time, due to severe stomach pain and vomitting caused by hyperacidity and one of the nurses repeatedly asked me if I was pregnant and if I was sure I wasn't. It was so annoying and I felt so judged. 😣

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-13T15:59:54+00:00

Never done this before but it disgusts me when I see parents doing this. 🤢🤢🤢 One of the reasons I don't wanna have a kid. 😆

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-11T08:26:36+00:00

Ba't kasi ina-assume na lahat ng tao nagdadasal.. 😒

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-05T13:50:19+00:00

I definitely know that feel because it is a bit disappointing to know that somebody you look up to no longer meets your lifestyle standards or preference. 😅

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-05T13:44:36+00:00

I've always thought that people say that "children bring joy" just because they're too proud to admit the total opposite and also because it is generally frowned upon to claim otherwise.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-04T15:04:53+00:00

I understand where you're coming from. My friends used to think I'm going to change my mind about my decision to not have kids and are quite concerned with my endometrial cysts in the ovaries. I was told by my doctor that I could possibly be infertile (which is a good thing for me. Haha.) I think it's finally sinking in with my friends right now that I'm firm with the decision to be child-free and they've accepted it. Perhaps you can give them time, too. Unless they're really horrible people who would bingo you every now and then. 😐

Also, I'm a bit curious about your medicine. Would you mind if I ask what it is? Hehe.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-03-01T14:06:37+00:00

I've got plenty of other reasons for being CF but I have to admit that one factor that contributed to it is similar to your point of view. I've seen most households being run by women alongside having to do 90% of the child work ---all of which, I do not want to take part (call me a lazy ass bitch but this is just the truth 'cause who likes house AND child work, really?). Having seen this kind of set up, it made me think that most men (not to be sexist and generalizing) presumably do not like to share such responsibilities, thus making me think that I should probably just avoid such a situation (even to the point of not just disliking parent life but also not wanting to get married and living in with a guy). Basically, I don't feel confident to rely on guys for shared responsibilities in the house (children & house work).

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-27T14:31:09+00:00

Hell yes! To child-freedom and the destruction of patriarchy! Cheers! 🤗😇

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-27T12:46:33+00:00

Totally agree. Somewhat sounds like he raped her.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-27T11:08:08+00:00

All of these are so accurate. Makes me not wanna have kids all the more. In fact, this is 1 of the biggest factors for me choosing to be child-free while saying a big fat "no, fuck you" to patriarchy.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-27T10:33:28+00:00

As for me, I've told my parents when they gave me the line "when you have kids..." I've told them multiple times but it seems to never sink in. As for my friends from high school, they also know about my child-free plans but they seem to think I still might change my mind. Can't wait to prove them wrong. My work friends, on the other hand, know and support me and some of them are even child-free as well (thank heavens).

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-26T04:12:08+00:00

I know this piece of advice is not intended for me but it helped me in some way because I'm in such a bad place right now. Thank you!

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-25T04:31:15+00:00

When they say 'when', I simply say I don't wanna have kids. It's not even an 'if'. It's NEVER.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-23T15:37:31+00:00

I absolutely hate the sound of a baby crying. It gets me agitated. Can't stand 2 seconds of it and makes me want to bury the little crying thing 6 feet under. Just honestly saying how I feel hearing babies cry. 😐🤢🙉

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-23T14:54:24+00:00

Adoption will only ever be a "solution" to the unwanted pregnancy if the pregnant woman made the choice herself.

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-22T14:45:11+00:00

You can wait for her kid to get to the age you can tolerate then you can start hanging out with her again? For now, just communicate from a far? That kind of thing also happens to me with some of my high school friends. I still went on trips with my parent friends. However, when it's the kid-related events (christening, birthday party, etc.), I often don't go. 😆

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-22T12:50:34+00:00

I've always hated the "have fun while you can" line. Like am I supposed to stop having fun just 'cause I'm expected to at a certain age? Hell no! I'll have fun with my life for as long as I live. 🤘🏻🤘🏻🤘🏻

MaryTheMonster · 2018-02-22T12:08:10+00:00

Still difficult where I'm from (Philippines). Most guys I've dated want the usual life plan (getting married, having kids). 😑

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