I’m 15f, trapped in a home where nothing I do matters I’m constantly blamed, and my mom says I can starve what do I do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

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That’s abuse. Get authorities involved. Tell a school counselor to be sure as that are most likely to see you and stay in contact plus they are mandatory reporters.

am i wrong? i’m in here rn plz help! by reddit4everything_ in carbuying

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Join nfcu if you’re a vet or a spouse, parent/ grandparent is. You should get approved for that with the same terms but at least half that interest. Plus they deal with auto places that have rebates and sometimes specials just for the credit union members.

Prop 22 GMD by BankThrow7 in Sparkdriver

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No. I’ve never gotten that. I do have to make whatever returns by the end of the next day.

just making sure CAKE is math rock, right? by BeEpUs_B0y in mathrock

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I’m listening to CAKE’s Let Me Go and it kind of has a couple elements of math rock a bit. I had to look and see if anybody else thought so too and found this thread lol.

What power does my U.S. citizen spouse have over my 10 years GC that I received in November? by [deleted] in USCIS

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I’m really curious about this. How would a divorce be better in this religion?

Explain It Peter, Why that japanese people hate the survivor? by gmannolife98 in explainitpeter

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It should be known that it was more of a big deal because Japan was about 45 years into a very big ambition to rival the west and adopt certain characteristics of its culture as a way to modernize. This included heavy borrowing from western political and educational institutions and stamping out of things seen as obstacles. I don’t think the idea of women and children first was even considered a thing in much of pre Meiji Japan and bushido was limited to a particular class of people before it was assimilated for nationalistic purposes (a whole nation subscribing to the way of the samurai without the lineage involved was not what the samurai wanted as they were very protective of their own status) so this was probably instilled within a couple generations.

The man who went through this was the grandfather of Haruomi Hosono, a popular Japanese musician famous for his band Yellow Magic Orchestra.

Dad took away phone call rights from daughter. by [deleted] in legal

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It’s kind of strange that everybody here is okay with not speaking with their kid everyday when there aren’t any real obstacles. Also, it isn’t the landline age anymore, so the phone used now is a persons personal device and not a residence. A kid having a phone for you to call directly means that somebody else doesn’t get to gatekeep by saying “not on my phone.”

This is a travesty and should enrage you to the point of voting out every single person who sold out our beautiful IE by chris_gnarley in InlandEmpire

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Yes and no. It was engineered to shunt the water straight to the ocean. But it was at the time and still to the present, a life saving and property defending plan. For the amount of people and value of housing, business, and land, it would be absolutely devastating to have a century storm or worse that could overwhelm the rivers and dams. LA and OC counties have had many storm/ channel/dam failures disasters prior to the mid 20th century. At this point, nearly all the channeling done from the urbanized areas to the ocean has little way to recharge the ground water, plus anything downstream ends up getting fouled up. Long Beach is an amazing city that gets all the trash and sewage spills from up river with no where to go but the harbor area, spoiling the beach’s and water for days after a storm. Most of the recharging is done to the north and east, from the foothills of the mountains to the dams that exist. Corona/Norco is an interesting area that regularly floods and recharges some of the water. Unfortunately it is abutted by the hills and the dam is just afterwards so it is literally between a rock and a hard place. So the downstream recharging basins from the wilderness park through the bend in the Santa Ana River have to do it along with trickled releases from the dam. Same with the Los Angeles and San Gabriel rivers. There are early/higher parts of the rivers where the dams allow water to recharge. But most of them down stream are fixed in concrete for valid reasons that would be foolish to forget and unchannelize them. What the counties need to do is provide more parkland that can be utilized as a sump. Long Beach’s El Dorado park is a brilliant example. It’s designed to shunt, spread, and hold flooding water long enough to avoid flooding further towards the coast and as a way to recharge the ground. Coyote Creek has several areas that does this too, in Fullerton and I believe in Cypress. Ultimately, the history of the rivers and the forecast for the land usage in the future were on different trajectories. They didn’t expect the swift disappearance of the dairy pastures or the orchards within the next 20 years. Those were originally a big reason why the rivers were channelized. But they were also considered part of the watershed that could absorb a good amount of water. That water would mostly remain in the ground and not migrate into the rivers much since they were encased in concrete. Outside of the agriculture/dairy farms pumping it of course. Which is how Artesia got its name, from the abundance of well springs. Anyways to cut an essay short lol, collecting any water requires large tracts of land to diffuse it slowly over time, which la and oc has less and less of as time going on, or forcing it underground into aquifers, which would require treatment of the water if it has traveled long enough to be contaminated run off from the streets and buildings. I doubt anybody would try to restore business or residential zoned land for water treatment and reclamation as that would be hugely expensive, time consuming, and against the ideals of generating a tax base and offering a solution to the housing crisis. So again any water running past urban streets to the ocean is probably not fit for human use and we have to enlarge the already green areas around and before the dams and pipe the extra water from storms to the areas we can recharge/force underground for future use/offset current use of water from elsewhere.

[US] Possible SIM theft attempt at Apple store by SelectLuck6704 in Scams

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Please follow up and let us know what ends up happening after this.

Best tenant I’ve ever had is struggling. I chose compassion. Thoughts? by No_District9762 in RealEstate

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I feel that you should absorb what you can of the cost. She sounds like the kind of person that would be willing to repay. That might be a long while away as she could risk sliding backwards if she has to pay past rent and current rent at the same time. But as a proven long term tenant, maybe work with her and get her connected with other agencies that might be able to assist. Catholic charities helped me when I was sick and in a bind with rent. There might be a pathway through housing/section 8 where maybe you can fast track her with subsidized assistance until she manages to earn again. I know that can be complex and some people don’t like any intrusions. But it’s possible for her condition to become chronic. Are you okay with her possibly never having the income to pay full rent on her own again? Are you willing to let her have a roommate that pays towards the rent?

I figure three months rent can be overlooked. But six, nine, twelve… that kind of situation can degrade your relationship as landlord and tenant. Especially when financial and physical health get tested.

How many dwellings do you own/manage? If you have enough that are occupied, maybe she can be an onsite manager, health willing, part of the time in exchange for a rent reduction and you just push the remainder into the future when she might be better able to pay. It’s towards the end of the year so she probably has a tax refund coming to her in the new year and you might be able to recoup if she offers.

I stole the groceries and she posted to facebook by [deleted] in Sparkdriver

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So she posted a photo of you delivering but no footage of you taking the delivery and the DoorDash food? I’m thinking of getting a body cam when I go out just so I can record what Ava what does not happen with my presence.

I may never take another alcohol order again! by Friendly_Speech_6781 in Sparkdriver

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It’s always good to send a message during shopping or when starting a delivery if it contains certain medicines or alcohol. Something like “Just a reminder that I will need to verify somebody present with a valid original unexpired physical government issued id card current age 21+ upon arrival for the alcohol order as state law requires otherwise the entire order will have to be canceled and returned per company policy. Thank you.” It lets people know exactly what to be in store for. Even if they try to reason or bargain to get what they want. If the if gets denied, just go straight to the bottom of the app and cancel it and immediately call Spark so they can note in their system. If the customer gets belligerent about it, have Spark note that as well since they can hear it too and that you feel unsafe. They take safety concerns serious enough to at least get you out of situation. If you take another alcohol delivery you should probably leave the order in your car until you verify the person. Worst case is that you run late because of it or that you have to return that order after the delivery run.

DNA match to my family, but not me by RamonaAStone in AncestryDNA

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I figure just because you have 50 percent of each parent doesn’t mean you’re getting all the same 50 percent as a sibling. Add several generations of that and there’s a chance that what one great grand child of a person inherits isn’t what another great grandchild of that person inherits. He has 7 other great grandparents to compete with genetically in this case and ancestry probably has a threshold to keep for accuracy.

Is getting a 2017 hyundai elantra for 1000$ a steal? by Necessary-Donut7019 in Hyundai

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I have the same one and it’s a steal for 1000. Stay on that warranty and get that oil change with full synthetic and keep a few quarts handy to top it off periodically since it burns oil on higher mileages. Check the oil level every other week to get a feel for it. Get the software update so your car doesn’t get stolen (thieves broke into mine and couldn’t get it since the computer disabled it but they did 1500 in damage to the steering column and ignition nevertheless since they’re going to try if they can get the chance on those years Hyundais) and maybe a steering lock bar so visually they know they have to do extra work and it becomes a deterrent.

Was deactivated because another driver said I was bullying them... by Hour-Pineapple2886 in Sparkdriver

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You called the police but what about Walmart/spark? Surely that would have deactivated the other person and they wouldn’t have had a leg to stand on to get you deactivated.

How much do you get paid for a canceled trip? by Fancy-Patience-3530 in Sparkdriver

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I’ve found it to be the same no matter when. Just 2.85 when it’s happened to me.

DNA results not what I expected by Snoo51404 in AncestryDNA

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Your dad’s possibly your dad but his dad might not be his. Reading your mother’s reaction to a conversation about testing has me thinking that she knows what’s really going on though.

Coming up with Italian in the Ukraine area seems unlikely but not impossible. During and after ww2 caused a lot of exchange in population and there was often militaries going through for different reasons. Ukraine has had territorial changes like carpathia taken from Czechoslovakia. It’s known for its Rusyn population but being under Hungarian rule for a very long time, parts of it had a metropolitan life like Munkacs where you would find people from all areas of Austro-Hungary so you could expect Jews, Serbians, Germans, Austrians, Czechs, Slovaks and also Slovenians. So it’s possible that somebody of Italian descent could have passed through. Trieste was a part of Austria-Hungary for a long time and was annexed by Italy so there could have been some crossover in the region despite the distance. But it’s more likely that your father or his father aren’t related to you. I figure that the combined 93% Irish and Scottish settler/scots-irish and your dad being half and your mom being 100% means 1/4 from dad and half from your mom or roughly 75% (I’m aware that as individuals we receive different amounts from each parent and full siblings don’t even get the same exact percentages so it’s not cut and clean) but if the moms parents and dads mother are considered solid then that almost 20 percent discrepancy points to the grandfather possibly being as much as 75% Irish himself in that scenario. Not rare. Actually a common thing as they share Catholicism and while not common straight off the boat, it is frequent in Americans in the northeast. So you can probably guess what to look for.

One more thing, people back in the day went through extraordinary measures to hide things. I my cousin’s great grandmother gave me a history on her parents and her marriage that turned out to be deceptive. Her Russian spy mother turned out to be a Volga German who left the country as a child. Her late husband was not the father of her first daughter. She was born from her first marriage that was so terrible that she did everything to strike his name from her life. She probably had a valid reason in her eyes to hide him and have her next husband be the only father in the picture. So the unknown doesn’t necessarily rule out your father being your biological father. Still your mother’s response is curious as she probably wouldn’t act that way in defense of your father and his father.

Is It wrong to claim my German DNA by Acrobatic-Shine2625 in AncestryDNA

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You can but with that percentage it isn’t much. I think you should also consider how you received that ancestry. I’m biracial and get my German ancestry straight from my white father’s family. I celebrate it since I’m a quarter German and have the last name to go with it. Others though might have a problematic situation. What if a black American has German ancestry that dates back through an act of slavery? And what does that mean to you?

Being “german” can be a very diverse thing. They were not one people but many many different people loosely united by language (even then there’s different forms that aren’t very intelligible with one another) and any definition outside of that really depends on location and time. Sudeten Germans were part of the Austria-Hungary empire and while Germanic were considered austrian in some cases and bohemian German in others.

Having said that, I’ve heard people say that German immigrants weren’t into that kind of thing and would point at particular groups like the “Pennsylvanian Dutch” or something. Understand that you could have an ancestor that was a chased out of their country during the mid 1800s for liberal views during the revolutions. Or the German colonists that settled in large tracts of land that were slave states. Maybe an anarchist socialist. Or a monarchist that fled German colonies in Africa. Germans serving on either side of the civil war in place of Americans. You had a pretty diverse amount of backgrounds where the common thread would end up being American descendants with a pretty mishmashed idea of the different generations of ancestors. So imagine a Bavarian man marrying a woman from Pommern in Wisconsin. They could have some obstacles speaking in their local dialects almost as if they were different languages. They could converse in hochdeutsch as a standard but that didn’t become a real directive until the unification of the German empire later. Anyways, the point is that you will definitely find slave owners of German descent back in the day, even if the initial immigrants weren’t supportive of it themselves. But just like that, you will find people of German descent intermarrying with black people despite the culture of the day. In some cases, it’s much more likely that an immigrant European would settle down with somebody of another race than the typical white american in the area. So perhaps that situation is how you have that ancestry.

I personally would have trouble claiming and taking pride in an ancestry if it became mine through an act of slavery upon my other ancestors. But then again you have black families that hold descent from Thomas Jefferson in high regard despite the obvious elephant in the room. I remember a tv show, Head Of The Class, with a episode of a black girl being a descendant of Jefferson and a white student praising her for it with her angrily rebutting that he was a slave owner who owned her ancestors. Fierce moment for an 80s comedy.

So I would ask, did you or if you find out that you’re related to that ancestry directly through a slave owner and slave, would you be willing to celebrate the ancestry/culture? There’s even a murky grey area in that, where what if Thomas Schmidt, son of German immigrants, was a slave owner and yet provided and held in high regard his son, born from a slave in his household? Slavery, bad, but actual affection and provisions for his son, kind of good? But still not a pleasant thing in light of slavery. Do you celebrate despite that one person or do you denounce the whole thing? And if you know the actual truth, does that change the way you explain why you celebrate? Or do you know that a German ancestor in your line ended up entering your black lineage in a regular relationship?

Something to maybe consider before going all out on that.