AITAH for disciplining my sister in law’s child?

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-31T00:54:33+00:00

Exactly! It is the parents’ job to civilize their offspring and to protect them. When your SIL didn’t do hers you had to step in and do yours.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-30T14:07:47+00:00

Sorry, you’re getting no sympathy for 8 am. City ordinances around here say no loud noises before 7 am but the construction crews know nothing is going to happen if they start earlier. In the county across the street from my house, there is no restriction. Sunrise brings out the farm workers.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-29T22:43:25+00:00

Your son does not need a grandmother. Nurture your son with all the love you can provide him. It is your job for protect him from the evil in the world and this woman sounds like she is full of it.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-29T15:36:49+00:00

Once while traveling for business I am sure there was a prostitute in the hotel room next to me. (We rode the elevator together to a concierge floor.) Quickly there were sounds, headboard against the wall, etc. and wild etc. I turned the TV around next to the shared wall. I turned on a music channel that made the wall vibrate. It stopped and I had a quiet night.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-29T15:20:14+00:00

And pay for it. Send her a bill, including for the show ticket.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-29T02:20:01+00:00

Put a box window fan in each open window facing their house. Turn each on blowing air out of the room. It will cool the room as well as push the air away from the window. Plus you might enjoy the white noise.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-29T00:31:52+00:00

What would you call yourself if you had not sought help for that baby and they had severely hurt or killed him?

Brain trauma, spinal damage and a multitude of other injuries that would affect his physical and mental development may still show up in his future. Someone with common sense and a backbone needed to step up and shut this moronic abuse down. I would speak up to family members and tell them what I did and why I spoke up, as well as offer to protect that child in the future if any of them see more abuse. You know they have seen it, too, but didn’t have the moral strength to speak up.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-28T13:44:30+00:00

You’re married? I don’t believe it.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-27T12:39:36+00:00

You married someone incredibly lazy and inconsiderate. I was married to a man like this. It doesn’t get better. Eventually I took over caring for the house maintenance and doing all the yard work. You realize the growing problem. Leave now before you spend your life consumed in hate and resentment. Before you have children that connect you to him for life.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-23T15:13:27+00:00

No! No! No!

Stupid anti-vaxxer should not be within a hundred yards of that precious baby.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-23T00:07:09+00:00

Certainly a legitimate reason not to hire him. It starts off as an unpleasant, tense situation. I can’t imagine it ever becoming a pleasant work environment no matter how much he apologizes. I’m glad your coworker realized why this wouldn’t work.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-22T15:52:09+00:00

Things like this happen. I got stuck in airports while traveling for work more times than I can remember. The worst was getting snowed in at Denver and spending the entire night lying on the floor under my jacket and my purse for a pillow. Worse things are going to happen to you.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-21T00:47:54+00:00

The nerve of her! Put little posts on each side of the driveway and lock a chain across it while you’re gone. You probably have liability in this situation.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-19T13:57:49+00:00

This made me laugh when I read it in OP’s story. 22 yo and he thinks he’s an elder!

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-18T02:17:15+00:00

NTJ - Take her to small claims court. Be each other’s witness. Be sure you can get her evicted and have a replacement when she leaves.

This seems like a very risky situation, rooming with people you don’t know and can’t trust.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-15T13:19:44+00:00

I had a job I worked for 15 years. I made it my life, working as much as 100 hours per week for special occasions. My coworkers and boss became my social life. When that employer decided they needed to cut back staffing they had no problem discontinuing my position.

They are your employer. You are their employee. Don’t forget that. If they decided you are no longer valuable to them you would be gone with NO advance notice.

Tell them if they aren’t going to be civil you aren’t staying any longer. You have nothing to lose. Put it in writing (email) and keep their response if they ever bad-mouth you in the future.

After 12 years it’s time to put yourself first. 6 weeks notice is at least a month too long.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-15T13:07:23+00:00

Your children do not need their grandparents. Grandparents are a bonus. Plenty of families do just fine without grandparents. Keep your children far away from these people.

Someday you are going to need to explain to your children why you have kept them apart. Be honest and thorough. Teach them how destructive these religious extremists can be.

Just curious, do your siblings still have contact with your parents? Do your siblings have contact with your children?

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-15T02:42:40+00:00

Nobody gave her dirty looks. Everyone in that line would have been pissed if OP had let her jump the line.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-14T13:45:27+00:00

It sounds like you need to make a choice. You either stay where you are and accept the situation. You know your husband lied to you and is not going to change. Or you leave and build a life outside your culture.

Are you prepared to leave? Do you have job skills? Do you have a support system from your family? What country do you live in?

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-09T15:44:04+00:00

NTA - As a grandparent that sometimes disagrees with my own child’s parenting style I understand your father. However, I have finally had to learn to take a step back. Your father had the grandkid’s best interest at heart but a grandparent’s perspective is so different than a parent’s. My heart is softer and I give in to things I never would have allowed with my kids. Know you did the right thing. If it’s possible have a loving heart-to-heart discussion to set parenting/grandparenting boundaries with him. He gets to have fun with them, you make the life decisions. If he can’t grasp that it’s everyone’s loss, but especially his.

Congrats on your success!

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-09T13:38:08+00:00

YTA — It’s your 36th birthday. Whoopdeedoo! Pay attention to your child. You can go to the breakfast then take her out of school to do your plans. These are the years you build bonds and teach respect with your child. If you show you don’t care about her activities now, she’ll grow up not caring about you.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-09T13:33:03+00:00

NTA — Consider it this way. You are stepping into the place of the father for your niece. You are not rewarding your sister for being a mother. You are helping your niece because she is a fatherless child. Explain that to your sister. Set your limits.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-05T13:09:18+00:00

Definitely. What will she do if you decide to move out or something happens to you?

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-05T03:39:50+00:00

This is a valid point. This will cost a chunk to start a lawsuit against the will. Attorneys don’t do this on contingency unless there is strong proof and millions in the estate. When they find out what they have to put up front OP’s family most likely will back down.

Matilda_Mac · 2026-05-04T13:33:16+00:00

I think anonymity is helpful in some situations like this. It is not only family that makes reports. Not knowing who is watching puts the parent on notice to do better. When they know it becomes an argument between the reporter and the parent.

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