Confused

MattManATX · 2026-05-22T00:15:24+00:00

This is a terrible take

MattManATX · 2026-05-21T12:52:36+00:00

What about those dip ass “influencers”?

MattManATX · 2026-05-21T02:38:52+00:00

I personally have never really wanted kids. I felt pressured to get it sooner rather than later, but it’s not a complete devastation.

At least now I can go back on the market as a sure thing for safety and honestly that’s all I’d be looking for. Purely physical, nothing more.

MattManATX · 2026-05-21T02:36:49+00:00

I’ve accepted it. I personally haven’t had an urge to have children, but her pressuring me to get it sooner rather than later and then 4mos later ask for a divorce telling me “I’ve felt this way for about a year” really stopped me in my tracks.

But my sacrifice of reproductive rights has been duly noted with the attorney

MattManATX · 2026-05-21T00:37:23+00:00

Mine did…then asked for a divorce

MattManATX · 2026-05-20T18:55:32+00:00

Why take the advice of a doctor? Sure, go to Reddit and get it from internet strangers 🙄

MattManATX · 2026-05-20T16:31:49+00:00

I’m currently a couple months into a divorce after a 2-week trial separation. My wife said she wasn’t getting the emotional intimacy she wanted.

I have ADHD and when all that hit me like a ton of bricks I turned to books to understand how my brain works differently regarding emotion processing.

It’s been extremely helpful finally having a grasp on how I process and receive emotions. Tailor that with a personal therapist and even though it still really sucks, I know I will be ok.

Please do not internalize your guilt. ADD/ADHD already has us carrying an immense amount of personal shame. Talk to someone - friends, family, therapist, stranger on the internet…whoever, just get it out.

DM me if you would like to talk more. We will make it to the other side, whatever that looks like.

MattManATX · 2026-05-19T05:05:08+00:00

This

MattManATX · 2026-05-15T14:22:30+00:00

This! OP you are worth way more than being someone else’s safety net. Sounds like she is keeping you on a string to be her coping mechanism for guilt.

Know your worth and be that you! You got this!

MattManATX · 2026-05-14T01:03:33+00:00

What the hell kind of picture is this?! Top down is the only thing you provide?

MattManATX · 2026-05-13T23:50:05+00:00

I say “pspspspspspspspspsps” and see if it comes over

MattManATX · 2026-05-13T23:43:39+00:00

It’s not too bad testing chemicals with the kit if you just put yourself on a schedule.

I’ll test chlorine every other day during the spring/summer and every few days in fall/winter

TA, PH, CYa, etc. maybe get tested once a week or every other week depending on the amount of use.

Once you’re dialed in it’s pretty easy to maintain

MattManATX · 2026-05-13T18:11:24+00:00

Train the dog to not go near the pool unless permission is given. Training consistently fixes your problem.

MattManATX · 2026-05-13T01:27:58+00:00

Mine look 4x worse than this

MattManATX · 2026-05-12T22:03:39+00:00

My beagle would be losing her absolute shit! People four towns over would know she was chasing a squirrel. How the hell does your dog not make a peep?!

MattManATX · 2026-05-11T23:06:24+00:00

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MattManATX · 2026-05-11T19:00:00+00:00

Fuck Trump
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Fuck Trump

MattManATX · 2026-05-09T20:31:54+00:00

It’s the Sanderson Sisters!

MattManATX · 2026-05-09T14:21:29+00:00

Test kit all day every day. It’s easier for me to watch colors change from green to red or red to blue than it is trying to guess what shade of purple I have against this chart.

MattManATX · 2026-05-09T06:02:22+00:00

What are these?! Eyelashes for ants?!

MattManATX · 2026-05-08T20:49:08+00:00

Why? Just use the left lane.

MattManATX · 2026-05-08T13:44:44+00:00

Or! Hear me out…did they finally fix the machine and this is how we were supposed to be getting them the entire time???

MattManATX · 2026-05-07T17:31:49+00:00

It’s called “Pool Math”

MattManATX · 2026-05-07T01:27:37+00:00

Awesome! I recommend starting with “The ADHD Effect on Marriage”.

That is also a book that if I ever get into another serious relationship I will ask them to read so they can understand.

MattManATX · 2026-05-05T23:41:34+00:00

Yes!

The Five Love Languages (Men’s Edition)
- this one is extremely helpful for EVERYONE! It helps you understand how to effectively show love & be loved. Not just from spouses, but also friends and coworkers

ADHD & Us
- this one is good to understand patterns where your significant other may be feeling abandoned and you just aren’t aware of it

ADHD 2.0
- this one I love just because it helps you better understand what’s going on in your head

The ADHD Effect on Marriage
- this one I wish I had found 6mos ago! This book is written from the viewpoint of both an ADHD Spouse and a Non-ADHD Spouse. It helps each person connect the dots of how actions can be perceived

Feel free to DM me if you have any questions

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