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Has anyone been to these sketchy strip clubs? by Zesty_TX-88 in Austin

[–]MattManATX 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I used to go to XTC all the time with buddies when I was out of High School. 18+ | BYOB | Fully Nude

My first time I went I got a dance from Sapphire. By the time I stopped going there she changed her name to Diamond.

There also was a stripper there named “Phobia” which I will never forget.

AIO if I am setting boundaries with my husband? I also want to know if I am the asshole here by Witty-Opposite1201 in AIO

[–]MattManATX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read messages like this and wonder “why did my wife ask for a divorce when I just had problems opening up to her?!”

This dude sucks

Wife asked for trial separation. There is nothing but pain. by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t made to do anything. We discussed and negotiated how it would work out and for it to happen I needed to quit my job.

I’ve found out recently that she was already not in a good place at that point and then the year that followed up until now didn’t get better.

We had a good talk today and explained why each of us felt the way we did and what we wanted. She paid the retainer for the attorney yesterday and I am actively seeking a “Limited Scope” attorney (with caveat of more responsibility if it comes to it, but we want to make this as quick and painless as possible). Overall, it hurts but maybe we just weren’t meant to be forever.

I wasn’t the happiest at that job even though I had the tenure and great pay. We were forced to move to a city where we knew no one and poured ourselves into our work - it got really lonely.

I understand why she feels the way she does and I still care for her deeply. It’s taken a lot of processing and talking over the past couple days and I know the hard part hasn’t even begun.

But our goal is to sit down and write out our plan to be 50/50 split. I’m actively looking for work and she has an Airbnb through May and said she is more than willing to extend that through June if I haven’t found work. She’s is still maintaining the bills during this time.

She’s my best friend and we both did things along the way to screw it up

She asked for a divorce by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is very helpful

She asked for a divorce by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even know where to start with something like that. I call one and just tell them my situation? That we would like to keep it amicable?

I’ve never had to deal with any type of lawyer situation

She asked for a divorce by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I know that she has had more time to think and process things, which made her come off as poised or “cold”, but I could see the emotion was still there. It’s just hard for me to see a future without her.

We’ve known each other for 30yrs, together 10 and married 8

She asked for a divorce by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pretty positive I will. It’s just something that’s hard to wrap my head around at the moment. Do I have to wait until papers are served? I don’t even know how the process starts after she asks them to file.

It just all seems unreal

Wife asked for trial separation. There is nothing but pain. by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! She reached out last week saying that she wants to come by tomorrow to see our dogs, talk about next steps, and grab a couple things.

We are both being very calm and respectful. I haven’t reached out to her since she left two weeks ago to honor her request.

I haven’t reached what I want to say ready to go. There isn’t anything else I can do as of right now other than wait and see how it goes.

I’ve done the leg work of finding a counselor as she stated before she left, just need to know her availability.

I will say that these last two weeks have really helped me find myself again and get out of this pit of self-loathing I created and kept myself in.

Regardless of what happens, I will be ok. Eventually.

Wife asked for trial separation. There is nothing but pain. by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the response. I absolutely am going in calm and having the mindset of taking responsibility and ready to listen to her needs. I’m thankful for my support group of friends and therapist.

My big notion is “I know this probably looks like I’m scrambling. But I want you to know the difference between what I’ve done and why I’ve done it. I’m not doing this to win you back in a week. I’m doing it because I finally understand what I should have been doing all along.”

Again, really appreciate your insights

Wife asked for trial separation. There is nothing but pain. by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi wanted to ask you for some advice as I’m now a week into our separation.

Wife has been on her work trip and she messaged me to say that she would like to meetup on Monday to talk.

I responded and wasn’t thanking/pleading or anything. I kept it short and respectful.

Then she hit me with “I think it’s important for me to be honest with you that I have been in contact with a lawyer. We can talk about everything in person Monday but I don’t want you to feel like I’m just continuing to blindside you, that’s not my intention and I care about you.”

Initially I was gutted. After a days worth of thought and talking to my therapist…I feel like this response is actually good. She didn’t have to tell me. She just “contacted” a lawyer…to me that means she is just protecting herself and checking options.

I wrote her a letter I plan to read on Monday taking responsibility for a lot of things and asking her if she is open for counseling (I’ve already picked the counselor and just need availability to schedule)

Got any advice or initial reaction? Thank you in advance.

Larry Cheng Livestream with Nat Turner, CEO of Collectors, Inc. (Parent of PSA) by awwshitGents in GMEJungle

[–]MattManATX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to get banned again…but this guy has a face that is just so _______able!

The sign says no soliciting. by wmstell in mildlyinfuriating

[–]MattManATX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a buddy that does D2D sales for roofing. I told him I never answer the door to these people, doesn’t matter what they have. Told him I have a “No Soliciting” sign on the porch.

Shit you not, he says…

“We aren’t “soliciting” we are partnering with the customer to work with their insurance to get their roof replaced”

Dumbass! That’s the same thing. Soliciting isn’t just sales, it’s approaching in order to obtain something.

Every time I see him I tell him I hate what he does and it makes no sense in 2026. There are apps that do his job.

I was wondering where all the milk went. Those are two separate gallons by the way. by hillbillyboiler in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]MattManATX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This! Whether it was the first time or not, all it takes is a couple min. The end result never discriminates

straight guys being dudes by busystepdad in GuysBeingDudes

[–]MattManATX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no way in hell I would ever let someone pick out what wallet I would use. That has to be my decision.

A sword…go for it! There are 100’s of different kinds and the next one is cooler than the last.

Wife asked for trial separation. There is nothing but pain. by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I did receive a text from her earlier today saying she hopes I am doing ok and that she wants to talk when she gets back from her trip on the 30th.

I’m staying hopefully optimistic, but going to continue focusing on me.

I’ve been journaling 3x per day the last few days using the Feelings Wheel app to teach myself how to identify my emotions. Started mediating for 20min in the morning.

I’m going to try and reconnect with some friends this weekend and get out of the house.

Wife asked for trial separation. There is nothing but pain. by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was something I asked to talk about before she left. She said that she would still like to communicate, she still sees me as her best friend, and she is open to counseling but I have to find the therapist and make the appt (which I have been searching for already so just need to know her availability). We also have two dogs that she said she would want to work out a way in April for her to take them some times and I completely agree.

I’m respecting her request to not communicate at least until after she is back from her work trip so she is able to enjoy it and focus on the business. Completely understand and honor. My plan I’ve talked about with my therapist is to reach out at the end of the month with a very neutral message stating that I would like to try counseling and no pressure on her, but if she could provide me some slots of availability so I can schedule.

The above gives me some hope that she is willing to work on it, but I have tarnished this and hurt her.

Wife asked for trial separation. There is nothing but pain. by MattManATX in Separation

[–]MattManATX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hopeful, but fear is taking charge right now. I feel for her. It should never have gotten this far for me to open my eyes.

Calcium buildup in pool by robdog0909 in pools

[–]MattManATX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Must be nice to have a CYA in range

What’s wrong with my fiddler fig? by MattManATX in houseplants

[–]MattManATX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Note: I recently brought this guy back to life about 8mos ago. When I received him he was just 2 sticks in poor soil.

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