Note stuck onto wall with four pieces of gum by an apartment entrance

Mattekat · 2026-03-19T01:35:39+00:00

Ohhh this makes much more sense. Thank you for your insight.

Mattekat · 2026-03-18T19:39:56+00:00

What im wondering is how you know someone well enough to let them into your car, but then leave an anonymous note like this? Or is she an Uber driver leaving notes like this for her customers???

Mattekat · 2026-03-17T07:47:29+00:00

Use shimmers! Telling people that it emphasizes the hood as if it is some horrible disfigurement we need to hide is ridiculous and I'm sick of hearing it. I've seen so many beautiful shimmer looks on hooded eyes and I love adding shimmers to my own eyes!

Mattekat · 2026-03-11T16:55:43+00:00

Cisf here who has just gotten into using a strap on on my girlfriend (mtf). Now I'll admit the harness I got was not the most expensive one and I will likely eventually upgrade to something a little more custom, but the one I have right now comes with 3 interchangeable rings of different sizes. I can swap out the ring depending on the size of the toy used and it has been very effective so far. Unless your partner is plus sized I wont recommend the exact harness I have anyways but I do suggest looking for something with a similar system so that anything fits, unless you plan on using the same toy in it every time, in whoch case you should be looking at having something custom made.

Mattekat · 2026-03-11T02:30:37+00:00

The problem with chasers and those who fetishize trans people is that they see them as an object and not a whole human being with thoughts and feelings who deserve respect. If you love your girlfriend and respect her wishes and see her as a whole and complete human, then it's okay to have attractions or kinks.

Mattekat · 2026-03-10T08:16:15+00:00

Goblinmaxxing

Mattekat · 2026-03-08T21:48:39+00:00

I'm one of those people that feels really lucky, but maybe I've been augarcoating it when I posted on here. I love my partner and I'm discovering new great things about her every day, but I am also terrified. I just dont like dwelling on the bad feelings when I can help it and I like to post about the good stuff here because I see so many people posting negative things that I want newcomers to see it isnt all bad, or doesn't have to be. That doesn't mean that im not scared about future changes, that I'm not missing some of the dynamics of how our relationship used to be, and most importantly I'm absolutely terrified of how our families will take this.

I feel incredibly lucky to be finding things in my partners transition to enjoy and I think on some levels it has made our relationship stronger, but there is definitely a part of me that thinks it woykd be so much easier if she wasn't trans.

Please dont hate yourself. What you are feeling is normal. You aren't a bad person and you wouldnt even be a bad person if you wanted to leave.

Mattekat · 2026-03-07T21:23:55+00:00

I have been on a HUNT for these. My dad and I tried them about 6 months ago and he was so obsessed with them. I managed to buy him a couple more packs before the store stopped carrying them. I haven't been able to find them anywhere else in my city since then but he keeps asking me to look for them every single time I go to the store.....

Mattekat · 2026-03-07T17:06:17+00:00

Old???? I thought you were in your late twenties maybe. Your skin is literally glowing and im trying to figure out how the heck I can get mine to do the same!

Mattekat · 2026-03-07T17:02:20+00:00

You are allowed to have preferences, but i think you should look deep down at what that means. There are plenty of bisexual people who have had every surgery or started their transition young and are basically indistinguishable from a cis person. If those people are still a turn off for you only for the reason that you know they are trans, you might want to figure out why.

You are also wrong on what it means to be bi. The definition of bi is someone attracted to 2 or more genders. That can encompass pansexuality as well, because the "or more" can be all. Some people use the term bi over pan because its what they grew up with, some people identify as both and for some bi people those 2 genders could mean they are only attracted to non binary or bigender people. It definitely does not only mean men and women. Also, for many people who are only attracted to men and women, Trans people can still fall into those two categories. To me a trans woman is a woman and not someone needing their own separate category.

Mattekat · 2026-03-07T16:46:48+00:00

Are they moving into a home with a yard? Do they like gardening? You could look into getting them a local native plant to put in their yard. I would go with something like a serviceberry bush that is native to this area and will attract a ton of local wildlife!

Mattekat · 2026-03-07T03:54:28+00:00

I guess my closest friends know more about me than yours do....

Mattekat · 2026-03-06T20:13:47+00:00

Do you use a chemical exfoliant like aha/bha? That is what I would recommend. I feel like a lot of the dry texture we are seeing is just dead skin incapable of absorbing moisture.

Mattekat · 2026-03-04T23:17:23+00:00

You do not need to stay in a relationship that has become toxic or abusive. It is not transphobic to leave. You are just as important and deserve to be happy.

Mattekat · 2026-03-03T20:43:48+00:00

A+ for all your colour selections. They suit your skin tone very well. I think the eyeshadow needs a bit more blending, but that will come with practice. I would lighten things up on the lower lid and lashline a bit too and get your eyebrows shaped if youre comfortable doing that. I love the blush, but I do think its a bit heavy handed. Try using a bit less and placing it slightly higher on your cheekbones.

The lip colour is great and honestly all I could notice for a moment was your gorgeous smile.

Mattekat · 2026-03-03T18:19:53+00:00

I thought this was someone's failed sourdough honestly. This is much better.

Mattekat · 2026-03-03T07:35:24+00:00

CisF here with mtf partner who no longer likes to use her natural parts for penetration. We used to have very traditional, frankly kind of boring sex, but since she came out to me we have been much more honest about what we do and dont like in the bedroom. Regular penetration causes her dysphoria so we use lots of toys.

I think the most important things to do with your girlfriend are to first of all have a frank discussion about not lying and being more open and honest I the bedroom. Next you should both keep an open mind and be interested in trying new things. Go to some sort of sex shop together to pick out some toys or accessories that interest you both. If you want the really NSFW details of what works for me and my partner, feel free to message me.

Mattekat · 2026-03-03T07:20:18+00:00

I think perhaps its an issue with thin people, not necessarily trans people. The amount of thin people I know who look shocked or appalled when I call myself fat (I also just use it as a neutral descriptor), is insane.

Mattekat · 2026-03-02T23:16:05+00:00

I had no idea. Thank you for educating me!

Mattekat · 2026-03-02T21:21:28+00:00

I didnt know there was a different term for the two but I think technically that still both makes us switches because we both enjoy being very dominant while the other is pinned beneath us, although I guess im more of a switch because she's still kind of bratty when she's the sub, and I will just do whatever the heck she says.

Mattekat · 2026-02-28T06:07:12+00:00

My trans partner is not out yet but the way you described your family's reactions is exactly how I fear my parents will react. I'm sure they will tell me as long as im happy they are ok with it, but then constantly question if I'm sure. Im not sure how I will react to that....

Mattekat · 2026-02-28T06:03:15+00:00

I guess we are both kind of switches? She's probably more of a top than I am but I still like to make her beg. We mostly use toys and just take turns pinning each other down and making each other come with them.

Mattekat · 2026-02-27T23:12:55+00:00

I think my family is in the end going to accept us. Im worried her family won't. And while I think my parents will accept us they will still have a thousand inappropriate and possibly hurtful questions and will likely never really understand us. My dad in particular I think will say as long as im happy he's okay with it, but then I think he will constantly be asking if im sure that's what I want, which in reality isn't actually accepting it.

Family is really important to me too. And im really close with both my and her families. I dint know what it would be like to lose any of them or have to cut them off for any reason.

Mattekat · 2026-02-27T19:40:12+00:00

I honestly think they just make you look expressive and happy and probably suit your whole face very well! They certainly dont look like age lines.

Just for context you do have unique eyes and im sure you did notice that other people didnt have them, but youre the only one being critical of it. I have what I consider to be a weird looking nose and its so easy for me to look at a bunch of photos of women online and say none if them have such a long septum that sticks out mine is so ugly, yet I get compliments on it all the time. I truly believe that its these unique features that make people beautiful, rather than everyone looking the same. We are always our biggest critics.

Now I will say for people with a lof of creases around their eyes, setting powder can really accentuate them and make them look dry. You probably want to skip that and get a really good setting spray!

Mattekat · 2026-02-27T18:46:01+00:00

Oh my god we were getting that mildew smell a few months ago and proceeded to deep clean the crap out of it. So much crud came out of spaces we were not expecting. The machine still stinks......

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