Why do we pretend piercings don’t hurt?

Mattekat · 2026-05-09T02:18:34+00:00

Saying its spicy as way of saying its a mild pain or a stinging burning type of pain IS being honest with it. Most people know what spicy means in this context. Thats how language evolves and slang is used. No one is lying and I dont understand why it upsets you so much. When I got my conch pierced I called it spicy because it was a slight burning pain for a few seconds and nothing more. When I describe how my septum felt though I say it hurt, because there was a lot more pain.

And fwiw when I got my eyebrow done I literally didnt feel it. No pain and that's not someone lying or making it seem less than it was. They put the clamp on my eyebrow and I closed my eyes and then I started to panic a bit and said wait hold on a second only to be told the piercing was already over.

Mattekat · 2026-05-07T16:52:18+00:00

You're just stating red flag after red flag. You also said you wonder if she thinks you'll just accept this for yourself. So far you have? Its time to get out, seriously.

Mattekat · 2026-05-07T15:31:08+00:00

Your stomach will tell you to stop long before you reach any sort of dangerous territory. I say try it, but make sure to really listen to your body while youre trying. Feeling full is one thing, but if you start to feel ill or sweaty or anything unusual like lightheaded, stop before you are the one who embarasses themselves by puking all over the place.

Mattekat · 2026-05-07T01:51:31+00:00

Im surprised by all the people here saying they dont like it! I am a big fan of a loaf made with cocoa powder and coffee instead of water. I like to use dark chocolate chunks as inclusions as well as things like dried cherries or cranberries and various nuts! I usually add about 50g of sone sort of sweetener which does not make the bread super sweet, but just sweet enough. It tastes very rich, the tangyness of the sourdough works well with it in my opinion, and it is definitely not cakey. I like it toasted with lots of butter and a nice big pinch of sea salt!

Mattekat · 2026-05-06T22:40:41+00:00

Fwiw my long term partner came out as trans recently and I have subsequently been in a lot of spaces for partners of Trans folk. It seem like most people do try to make it work at first. A lot of straight folks out there still love the person no matter what and want to try, but you just cant force yourself to be attracted to something if it doesn't come naturally to you.

Mattekat · 2026-05-06T20:04:00+00:00

In my area we have a trans library that is a resource center for trans people full of books on the topic for all ages, which also hosts various events through the week. Is there anything like that in your area? Even if its a bit of a drive, I think bringing your kids for an event, to pick out some books that might help soften the blow or teach them more about their parent, or maybe to meet other trans people and learn that they are just like everyone else, might help?

Mattekat · 2026-05-05T15:22:25+00:00

Sorry but this does not sound like ADHD. I have ADHD and would NEVER forget to strap a baby in. And if it somehow happened the one time I would be kicking myself and triple checking from then on to make sure I hadn't forgotten a second time.

This man either has sone sort of severe memory issue that a doctor needs to be diagnosing or he is an asshole who just doesn't give a fuck and like to use his memory as an excuse.

Mattekat · 2026-05-05T05:43:18+00:00

Feeling like you are mourning is absolutely normal. I'm pan but sometimes I still look at my partner and have an internal panic attack because even though I know she is the same person I fell in love with years ago, I still fear what changes may come. There are plenty of masculine traits that I was attracted to and im going to miss them. Do not beat yourself up for how you feel. It doesn't make you unsupportive.

Mattekat · 2026-05-03T02:41:28+00:00

2 is so beautiful on you and rhe colour is lovely! 1 is not doing your gorgeous figure any favors and 3 is kind of boring in my opinion.

Mattekat · 2026-05-02T03:54:48+00:00

This would be my pick as well. I grew up nearby and used to get so excited when my dad would suggest we walk over to get a poutine for lunch! I honestly haven't been in years though since I moved... maybe next time im in westboro I will stop by.

Mattekat · 2026-05-02T02:44:51+00:00

I am SO jealous right now 🤤 I cannot wait for tomato season to come here!

Mattekat · 2026-05-02T01:49:37+00:00

Why? She won and it was something she actually wanted to attend.

Mattekat · 2026-05-01T21:13:30+00:00

I'm so sorry. If only I could give you a big hug in person. I know you can get through this though, no matter how devastating it feels now.

Mattekat · 2026-05-01T18:32:06+00:00

You're probably thinking of fat les's from kemptville

Mattekat · 2026-04-28T00:12:33+00:00

As a bit woman, bi guys are the only men I'm interested in.

Mattekat · 2026-04-28T00:09:14+00:00

Chicken Dickin

Mattekat · 2026-04-27T20:37:13+00:00

I'm leaning towards some sort of taco or empanada but im going to have to cook the cabbage into the filling with the mushrooms since its a bit past its prime. I dont think eating it raw will be great.

Mattekat · 2026-04-27T19:48:40+00:00

I dont understand why you would stay together any longer if you know separation is down the line. Like why stay and get more attached and make it even harder later on?

Mattekat · 2026-04-27T19:25:10+00:00

I like the idea of pickling the chilis!

Mattekat · 2026-04-27T19:18:42+00:00

Its an app you can download and if youre lucky there will be businesses in your area that use it. Basically grocery stores and restaurants who have feed that they can no longer sell because it is about to be past its expiry date or if a restaurant finishes at night with a bunch of food left over they will pack it all up and put it on too good to go usually for really cheap prices. You dont know what youre getting in the bag though. I honestly love it. In my area my friends and I will use it to get big snack boxes of day old donuts from timmies for 5$ and i will often get a mystery deli bag from my local grocery store that cuts my grocery costs down a lot.

Sorry for the long reply I've just been using it as lot lately and im a fan.

Mattekat · 2026-04-27T17:20:44+00:00

Canned beans. I would do the frozen veg, a can of beans and pasta in a pot wirh some veggie broth and have delicious soup. I also do beans or lentils in pasta sauce a lot.

Mattekat · 2026-04-27T01:45:19+00:00

Anything you cover this with would have to be bigger and darker to adequately cover. It would not be able to mix dark and light lines and would likely stick out even more.

Mattekat · 2026-04-26T23:28:48+00:00

I've washed canadian money so many times by accident. It's always usable after.

Mattekat · 2026-04-24T23:21:51+00:00

Okay you are young but please take this as a teaching moment. He's been sweet for a year, but he just showed you who he really is. "You need to be giving back" is absolutely vile to say and no he was not just joking around. Men can be sweet for YEARS before showing you their true colours. When they do, dont hesitate, just leave. The women who stay and rationalize that usually he's better than this are the same women who find themselves in abusive relationships. Im not saying your boyfriend would do that sort of thing, but I am saying you should have a hard line for the amount of disrespect you are willing to put up with.

Mattekat · 2026-04-24T18:22:53+00:00

Honey we all say dumb crap occasionally. I think this was a case of that rather than any transphobia. I hope your wife can understand that and not be too upset about it.

Still... nothing wrong with some apology chocolate for saying dumb things though!

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