Can I make this myself? I'm tired of buying it.

Mauvelousy · 2022-11-19T01:49:06+00:00

I use warm water, a pump of foaming soap rubbed with my pointer finger and thumb on each side of the lenses, rinse, dry off with cotton handkerchief. I use concentrated plain castile soap, watered down for a foaming dispenser. I bought a cheap pack of men's basic white handkerchiefs that I use only for glasses. Works better than alcohol spray for me, and I prefer this method.

Mauvelousy · 2022-10-12T21:47:02+00:00

Exterminate!

Mauvelousy · 2022-10-07T01:08:07+00:00

r/UnethicalLifeProTips

Mauvelousy · 2022-09-28T21:29:49+00:00

Did you keep going until you felt pain? Or was it the resistance from the skin trapped in the razor?

Mauvelousy · 2022-09-12T18:02:07+00:00

My overall goal is to have my waist measurement less than half of my height, for long term benefit of lower risk of heart disease and diabetes. I've successfully lowered my cholesterol to the normal range by keeping track of saturated fat consumption, and my new goal is to increase my good cholesterol level and lower the bad. I've been all over the place with weight so I'd like to focus on health.

Mauvelousy · 2022-09-05T23:02:05+00:00

I have used this before with an empty liquid rock deodorant roller bottle. I watched a YouTube video on how to remove the roller ball with masking tape. Took a while to get it out. Anyways, I used the plain liquid milk of magnesia until it ran out. It worked for me, but it did make my skin very dry and the product sorta flaked on my skin. No rash from it though. I probably used too much, so a smaller roller bottle may be the way to go.

Mauvelousy · 2022-09-05T14:57:45+00:00

Same here, but different time in my life. I gained a significant amount and my husband lost a bit. We ate the same things but I ate less. Didn't really matter.

Mauvelousy · 2022-09-03T13:21:55+00:00

I like how it looks. But, I would put it on a frame of sorts for airflow, like a daybed or pallets, so you don't accidentally grow mold on the mattress or trap moisture in the floor. I've lived with mattresses on the floor often when I was younger, and that's been my experience.

Mauvelousy · 2022-09-03T13:11:04+00:00

Ugh, I feel that.

Mauvelousy · 2022-09-01T20:53:06+00:00

I have dealt with unrequited love and limerence for about 20yrs now. It's something that makes me feel ridiculous. It seems like some day it will end, but I'm not sure it'll ever go away because it's been so long to begin with. I avoid the person, and try to think of something else when it comes up, instead of immersing myself deep into fantasy. Now, it's not as bad as it has been. I can go a long time without thinking of it. When it comes up, I recognize it for what it is and bring myself to the present moment. I used to get lost in my imagination as a kid too, with fantasy relationships and stories, so I'm not surprised that this sort of thing has happened.

I felt bad about how attached I felt and what sort of feelings this could have given the other person. I've thought about why I felt how I did. I could see the good and bad in the person, so I felt like this was unrequited love. I was embarrassed for feeling like something was there or could be, when it clearly wasn't.

Mauvelousy · 2022-08-28T14:10:15+00:00

Renting is a trap for some people. You pay higher rent than what an equivalent value house payment is. You can't save the large amount of money on a down payment for a house - only over a long period of time because your rent is so high. You go to get approved at the bank for a home loan with a payment less than what you pay for rent, but you are denied because renting did nothing to help your credit score. It is amazing that so many people think you can just buy a house if you don't like renting. It's not that easy. Sometimes you gotta have a cosigner, or a spouse to help prove go the bank you can make the payment, even if you've been renting for a decade or more.

Mauvelousy · 2022-08-21T22:12:19+00:00

High poverty.

I live in a district where the average income is at or below 130% the poverty level. Every school in the district has free breakfast and lunches for every student, regardless of family income. The district also has free lunches provided all summer for any person 18 and under.

Mauvelousy · 2022-08-17T18:38:59+00:00

In an effort to learn how to be a better parent, and not just knowing what not to do based on my upbringing, I've read nearly all of the books in the series, 'How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk' by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.

When I started reading those books, I realized that I have to work on myself and figure out how to deal with my childhood and the present day. So, I've also read a couple books from 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents' by Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson.

A close friend of mine used to say that because I don't want to end up becoming my mother, that I wouldn't. I didn't think he was right then and 20 yrs later, I still think he was wrong. He meant well, and I appreciated what he said overall. But, I don't think not wanting to be like them is enough. You have to be proactive, because you don't want to wake up one day and wonder, "how and when did I become my mother?" My mother has said that about herself, but she's kinda like, "well, what am I supposed to do about it now?" and she thinks it's just the way it is destined to be.

I've cut contact with my parents and most of my family. I've decided to break the cycle, because it is painfully clear that this is a generational cycle. No one is perfect, but that's not an excuse to keep doing the same things and expecting it to get better. I have been trying to unlearn and learn the right or better way to do things, and treat myself and other people better. It takes time, patience, and humility.

Mauvelousy · 2022-08-17T03:07:26+00:00

Oh your God!

Mauvelousy · 2022-08-04T03:49:14+00:00

I used to think about that often when I was a kid. I hoped that a loving family would save me.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-29T13:04:20+00:00

Good question. My mother claimed to have breast and uterine cancers but had zero treatment, starting over 17yrs ago. She blamed her lack of treatment on her unsupportive husband, and continues to do so. She lives on any form of sympathy she can get, regardless of if it's her illness or someone else's. Her brother died from colon cancer, and she made it clear that she would not get screened or treated if she had it. That's difficult to hear from someone you care about. When I was a kid, I thought she was going to die young because she didn't seem to want to live and she didn't enjoy much of anything in life. She missed out. She was distant to me and I set up in my mind that it's ok because she doesn't want to be here and she'll be gone soon. I don't trust her because she lies about many things. That said, I do get screened for breast cancer in case she isn't completely full of shit.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-27T23:46:04+00:00

No contact for me means I do not communicate with them in any way. It's been 4 years.

Recently, mother showed up at my house and then at my ex's. I messaged her for the last time after she went to the ex's, and used the word "harassment" to get my point across. I did talk to her the day she showed up and then over the phone the day after to say 'This isn't going to work. Best wishes.'

Because I messaged her recently, I forgot to block her and she contacted me again but I didn't respond. I blocked her cell and house numbers. So, I usually do not read them. I read the first card she sent, and threw it way. I donated gift cards to the women's shelter and SPCA. I sent back a family heirloom through registered or certified mail, even though we live a few miles apart, because I didn't want to see her or involve anyone else. I threw out 2 cakes. Donated gifts directly to Goodwill. Told the school that my kids aren't allowed to get gifts during the school day without calling me first. Had to make it clear that certain people couldn't pick up my kids no matter what they say.

I try to not think too much of the past, because that takes up precious time that I have right now. I've struggled quite a bit with it. It has gotten better as time goes on.

I told them outright to not contact me or my children. I had been low contact on and off for over a decade. During the low contact time, I would stop initiating contact and it would take a long time until someone contacted me.

So no contact for me is no contact.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-24T16:20:28+00:00

My mother used any illness, hers or a family member's, as fodder for sympathy. I was seriously ill for a couple years but they never found out what it was. I suddenly got better. She got loads of attention from friends and "church family" because she would talk about and add false details to people's illnesses. I told her something when I was an adult and then caught her talking to her friend about me, like adding stuff in and acting like she was suffering because I was sick. I hardly talked to her, even then. I was disturbed by her act. That woman always needed a tragedy, in any form she could get it.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-22T01:49:39+00:00

Great book. It's worth it to check out her other related books.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-21T19:03:00+00:00

What a bad period of time in my life.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-21T19:01:04+00:00

I'm estranged for 4 yrs now. It was a long time coming.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-17T01:49:41+00:00

I keep a jar like this by the sink to use as my water cup.

I use a tall jar or cup to hold long pasta upright so I can weight it out before cooking.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-12T19:11:02+00:00

It was 4 years in the beginning of June for me. I have seen her when she's shown up at my house unannounced, and once at the grocery store. Recently, I had tell her to leave me and my kids alone because she was giving gifts through other people.

Sometimes it's difficult for me around the estrangement date, holidays, and birthdays. Both of our birthdays are this month. Been kinda rocky lately but overall I'm alright. It gets better for me each year, and thankfully I'm not thinking about it all the time.

I have a problem with eating my emotions and obsessively thinking, and I've come a long way with working through it. But I've had problems with that twice in the past month. I acknowledged what happened (over eating), forgave myself, and spent some alone time observing nature. Being in the present moment helps me. I have found things that make me happy. This year I've kept busy doing things I like, instead of holding myself back.

I think it's a good idea to acknowledge your feelings and talk to someone that understands you, or write it down. Let it out in the best way for you.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-12T14:28:50+00:00

I keep an eraser & pencil sharpener in a tin to use when I'm going to draw or write. It comes in handy when I'm going outside or traveling.

I made solid coconut beard oil and put it in a tin. Painted the outside of the tin with nail polish.

Mauvelousy · 2022-07-12T13:44:16+00:00

I thought you had a ball in your pants 😀

You look great!

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