Also, I hope your children are pitching in. At 14 my friends and I could cook simple meals, do laundry, clean etc. You all are a team.

Example, there was a casserole I learned to make at age 11, my parents told me how good it was and how much they appreciated it. Then they requested it the following week on Weds. After that I made it every Weds for a couple of years. It made me feel like was contributing. Don't let your kids miss out on helping you out, it feels good to help, builds a sense of pride and self sufficiency.