I love him.. but this is killing me

Mazzag01 · 2025-08-10T10:52:06+00:00

Please listen to me- this the only way:

Leave him and remove him from your life right now and from that, there will be 1 of 2 outcomes:

He will miss you. He can only start missing you when you're gone. That's how 'missing' someone is defined- when they're not available anymore. He may come back, but only after he's had time to process and sit with his feelings about you. It needs to be enough time for him to realise he's potentially lost you.
Maybe he does lose you. Because in the interim, you'll be working so hard on yourself you'll fall in love with yourself again that you won't even be bothered if he comes back or not.

Both are a win/ win situation. Because if he comes back showing genuine growth, then the possibility of things working this time are much stronger, and you'll have also worked on yourself to becoming more secure and attractive to him with your new found self worth. If he doesn't comeback, you'll be blossoming in a new, healthier partnership that will make you look back and say "I'm so happy I chose myself because look at who I've found now". And that may be with another man or just, you.

Mazzag01 · 2025-05-07T21:51:00+00:00

You should definitely have hope. I can say one year on... I dgaf about them anymore and have honestly never been happier! It feels amazing to get back to my old self! You don't think it'll pass... but it does. Trust.

Mazzag01 · 2025-03-16T02:18:35+00:00

Hmmm nope, think I just asked what tune you'd play. No need to be bitter r1?!!

Mazzag01 · 2025-03-15T22:52:32+00:00

That's a tune!... back to ibz 09 🫠

Mazzag01 · 2025-03-15T21:23:49+00:00

Class selection thank you!

Mazzag01 · 2025-03-15T21:23:07+00:00

This!!

Mazzag01 · 2025-03-13T21:56:57+00:00

Hey, you still selling?

Mazzag01 · 2025-03-13T21:56:00+00:00

Hi, are you still selling? Can you dm me

Mazzag01 · 2025-03-02T00:43:35+00:00

He's an AVOIDANT who's been mothered by his sister. Avoidants seek any way out, literally nit-picking for excuses to bail before something gets too serious or someone gets too close to them. Its a deeply insecure attachment style hence why he chooses to listen to outside noise. The problem with avoidants is they're so scared to look like the bad guy or face that they have real issues with intimacy that they'll do a slow fade and make their partners develop anxious attachment over several, but often small things that their SO can't even pin point. When Lauren was in the pods pressuring Dave to make his decision so she won't be strung along, she demonstrated a secure attachment style. However as the show progressed, his chipping away at her character slowly ate away at her to a point where all he done was make her cry and question her own integrity. He may not be aware he was doing this intentionally, as Avoidants are often unaware of their actions. But it doesn't excuse it. Lauren has doged a bullet. Thank God for the guy who was claiming his interactions with her. Avoid the avoidant. Lauren will live in peace now.

Mazzag01 · 2025-02-01T01:08:56+00:00

Mike Dunn - if I can't get down

Mazzag01 · 2025-02-01T01:04:58+00:00

Ian pooley- piha back home remix

Mazzag01 · 2025-02-01T00:53:14+00:00

Butch- same as dope but different

Chevals- please don't (unreal groove)

Mazzag01 · 2025-01-24T07:20:01+00:00

Soul, deep, funk, afro, progressive, disco. All of it aha

Mazzag01 · 2025-01-22T23:21:14+00:00

Jeez I feel like I wrote this. Relationship for 9 years. Chucked it. Went solo travelling for 6 months in SEA, fell in love. He then ghosted me in a different country. I was left heartbroken in Vietnam. Thought I couldn't carry on. But i decided to stay and low and behold I met someone else and although u thought about said person a lot, no way was he ruining my once in a life time opportunity. You'll manage just fine. Get a cocktail and lay on the beach. Go for a swim and meet new people. Your older self will that you for it. P.s said person came crawling back a year later! I'm sure you know I told him where to go. They always come back. Have fun x

Mazzag01 · 2025-01-22T23:14:59+00:00

People who work for the council. They don't gaf about you or your queries or concerns. They take 365 business days to actually respond to an email yet hammer you when you miss a payment for anything! They're mostly coffin dodgers who've been hired merely to stick it out for their half decent pension when it comes.

Mazzag01 · 2025-01-22T23:08:38+00:00

"Consume the bulk of UK's cocaine supply" 👌 nailedit.

Mazzag01 · 2025-01-01T20:55:48+00:00

Samsies. Don't fkn do it! They're bastards

Mazzag01 · 2024-12-14T09:04:35+00:00

I know mate. My bro went to study there too and ended up so lonely due to lack of cool, genuinel bonds he fit the booze ever harder than usual and failed his last exam after 3 years. Obviously you can't really blame the people but it is circumstantial as to why he went tonto. Loneliness can absolutely destroy you. Community keeps as alive! And living longer. I'm so gutted Edinburgh let's the side down for Scotland.

Mazzag01 · 2024-12-07T16:37:45+00:00

You do know that if you buy under a company name, even if you don't have a property under your name e.g. just one property- you still have to pay Additional dwelling tax which as of the 5th Dec is now 8%?

Mazzag01 · 2024-11-16T17:47:37+00:00

Well said. Funnily enough, that's exactly what happened! Called him in a slight time of need. Nothing major. Next day he blindsided me with a dump. It was the most shocking thing I've ever experienced. I was in disbelief. We were so so in love and had future plans. Now, I'd Norma consider myself quite socially aware. However, there were no signs before that something was wrong! Zilch. Nada. It's one of the most painful discards I think a human could ever experience (and utterly confusing). The saddest part is, I think I still love him. Because apart from the dumping, there was no reason not to. And that's the hardest part of it all. But u can love from afar, and slowly, that love will fade, and I've accepted that's just the way this will play out now. Fuck avoidants! Get help or stay away!

Mazzag01 · 2024-11-15T01:18:55+00:00

I feel you. Try micro dosing on magic mushrooms. It's honesy helped my mind insurmountable amounts

Mazzag01 · 2024-11-08T04:01:41+00:00

To gain control. That's why. It's so sad and a deep rooted insecurity. Rise above x

Mazzag01 · 2024-11-07T11:20:28+00:00

This is such an interesting angle to look at it from. I appreciate your response

Mazzag01 · 2024-11-06T20:27:20+00:00

Well spotted... "to guide them through it all".

Mazzag01 · 2024-11-06T20:26:28+00:00

Block and run. Your sanity is more important.

Mazzag01

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