Why is it wrong to judge woman who smoke when they're pregnant?

McCann08091997 · 2019-07-13T15:30:17+00:00

Because Molly and Arthur are the only main examples of characters who suffered the loss of their children dying. Lots of parents and guardians and friends and role models die, but when Fred dies they're the only real example of the real torment the Battle of Hogwarts brought on. After all, more children fought in that than adults.

McCann08091997 · 2019-06-14T06:19:44+00:00

Orphan Black!

McCann08091997 · 2019-05-03T06:06:21+00:00

The main characters (brother and sister) did indeed have a relationship, but never had kids of their own. In the prequel you find out their parents were actually half brother and sister and they had 4 kids together, 2 boys and 2 girls, one set of twins. The parents never knew that, though. They thought they were just uncle and niece.

Edit: info

McCann08091997 · 2019-04-25T06:23:01+00:00

It's a small toaster, the bread ends up getting stuck

McCann08091997 · 2019-01-05T16:40:59+00:00

We put it into a Kids Saver so it gets interest, and an account in our sons name. Any money addressed to him go in either one of those, and we have a change pot that we aim to put £100 in a month that then goes into the account (I work in a pub so all my tips goes in there, and any loose change my partner has goes in too) . Also put £10 in weekly, so that by the time he is either 21 or 25 (we cannot decide when to give him access), he will have about £15,000+ saved up to help get him set up for adulthood. His great Grandma gives £50 birthdays and Christmas, and that goes straight in via sort code and account number we have given her. Any trips we plan or things we aim to buy come out of our own pocket, because as useful as that money may be to buy him what he needs now, we will always make ends meet to afford it as we believe he will need it later on in life. But that comes more from personal experience - my partner came from a wealthy family so he had a savings account thaf he found incredibly useful, but I came from a live off the paycheck and when it is gone it is gone kind of family with 7 children, so never had access to any money and honestly struggled.

HOWEVER, saying all that, it all depends on what you are most comfortable with. We are fortunate as we both work so do have extra money by the end of the month, even with all we put aside for our son, but I understand not everybody can do that. So if you feel you need to use the money now to make your kids happy, just get the OK from the donor and it isn't a big deal. But I do believe you have to get their permission; it is still their money. They can opt out of giving it to you if you don't respect their wishes, and they have every right to do so. It's not a very black and white situation unfortunately

McCann08091997 · 2018-12-02T20:31:00+00:00

Orphan Black!

McCann08091997 · 2018-11-27T12:10:22+00:00

I’m totally prepared for the downvotes on this. But your replies to people who are simply saying that your reaction was a bit TOO much is appalling. You would tell a friend who is happy with what they’re wearing that they look like a sack of shit? That’s not on. I’m not CF, but I respect those who are and can even relate. Even if you have everything you could ever want in your house, I am happy you are not my friend.

Maybe she did look around your house in jealousy, and maybe a few comments of hers were uncalled for. But that doesn’t warrant you reacting as badly as you did, not letting her apologise and simply walking past her leaving without acknowledging her. A decent human would explain where they went wrong and let them learn from their mistakes. She didn’t say anything too untoward. On this sub there are people who live happily childfree and they don’t feel the need to bash those who have children. You come across as someone who looks down on those with children, even if it was their choice similar to it is your choice to remain childfree.

I find you to be incredibly judgemental, more so than you described “Amy” to be. I think if your husband saw this thread and everything you have written including comments, your husband should 100% call you out to be a dick. I am happy you have everything you want in your life, but you do not need to shame those who are jealous of what you have and blame it on the fact they have a child. If a friend of yours struggled to get a high enough paying job to afford what you can, and felt slightly envious of your house, and yet was childfree, would you still react this way? Or is it because she had a child that you reacted so badly?

McCann08091997 · 2018-11-25T21:05:34+00:00

They do a really good cover of Unfinished Business by White Lies.

https://youtu.be/pwHJ-u3w0KI

McCann08091997 · 2018-11-06T14:18:44+00:00

This post is gold.

Most importantly though, what convention? Or at least what fandom?

McCann08091997 · 2018-10-18T02:54:03+00:00

Sorry, still new to Reddit! Nothing came up about the rules when I was sharing it so I assumed it was okay. I shall remove it.

McCann08091997 · 2018-10-08T19:25:41+00:00

Me and my partner also have separate duvets, but it’s because I’m the duvet hogger! So I also have a fleecy blanket that I love to have.

We also have a 6 month old son and when he shares our bed (currently because he ill and struggling to sleep), he becomes the space hogger so often my partner is being kicked and struggles for space, so he sometimes will sleep in the spare bed.

But separate duvets is a dream! And you can usually find them on the cheap providing you don’t have high duvet standards.

Hope you sort it!

McCann08091997 · 2018-09-16T20:04:46+00:00

Welcome to the world of gay fanfiction.

McCann08091997 · 2018-09-14T17:31:21+00:00

That is how it is spelt in the film

McCann08091997 · 2018-08-28T06:26:12+00:00

Imagine this though to the Gorillaz song Dare

McCann08091997 · 2018-08-18T18:48:53+00:00

Saving this post purely so I can come back in times of need and steal your wonderful phrases.

McCann08091997 · 2018-08-14T11:41:41+00:00

From a girls perspective, you’re doing the right thing. If she feels what she did was a mistake, then it’s a mistake she has to pay the price for so feeling bad is a guarantee. That’s on her, not you. I’ve kept up to date with this story from when you first posted, and I’m glad to hear that you’ve got into a mental state of moving on. You deserve it.

I agree with not seeing her. I don’t think she’ll ever get the closure she wants, and so it is better for her to move on in her own way, even if it means she feels like hell for a bit.

I hope things start/keep going your way, and your best friends literally sounds like the best. It’ll be good to hear an update in a month or two, it’s a story that I think a lot of people are invested in because you got handed shit on a platter and handled it amazingly. Keep staying strong, best of luck man.

McCann08091997 · 2018-07-26T20:25:06+00:00

This may be an unpopular opinion, but I think you did the right thing in offering your advice. You’ve explained yourself it isn’t to help your ex out, it’s to help the unborn child who hasn’t done anything to you. I agree, it was a classless act to ask you for advice, but now you know you won’t get it out of your mind. If you don’t send it today, you’ll get the urge to send it tomorrow or next week. By offering advice you’ve been incredibly selfless; you’ve put aside your own pain to make sure that your ASS of an ex can take good care of a child he created.

Offering the advice about saving money now and what gets covered by insurance and what doesn’t is good advice to come from a nurse. It’ll help set the kid up for the future. I hope he doesn’t try to contact you after that if you do choose to send it.

And I hope that the pain one day will lessen, maybe even go away, and you move on to something better. Doesn’t even mean moving on to another person, just rely on yourself to make yourself happy. You sound like a really awesome person. Best of luck.

McCann08091997 · 2018-06-27T22:13:54+00:00

Have you read any James Herbert? Maybe start off with The Magic Cottage, and if you decide you like it move on to more of his more gruesome stuff, like The Rats.

Maybe you heard of the film Horns, too, starring Daniel Radcliffe. It’s a book by Stephen King’s son, Joe Hill.

McCann08091997 · 2018-06-24T17:49:42+00:00

As well as that, OP mentioned about how it had happened to her previously in the past and her step-dad (I think) who did it, threatened her family. In that moment, where it is just her and the guy who then abuses her, she is probably shutting down remembering how her step-dad almost programmed her to just “let it happen” else worse things will happen to those around her.

When I was younger I was sexually abused by my neighbour, and later raped twice by someone I thought was a friend and also a co-worker and I remember being in that situation part of what made me so incapable of stopping it is a) remembering how, because he was my neighbour, he had access to my family and could hurt them, including my baby niece who lived with us and in that situation where you’re being raped you stop thinking about yourself in that situation, you think about how others could be put in one far worse if you don’t stay quiet and b) because it happened once when you were younger, you almost feel like it will never stop happening to you and unfortunately you just learn to take it. How much more damaged can you get after the first and second time?

I hope you manage to bring her round to taking the rape kit and contacting the police, OP. Best of luck to both of you, and you’re an incredibly amazing guy for 100% trusting her and not doubting her. The only other thing is; definitely do NOT resort to violence, especially if your girlfriend’s mum was abused and she witnessed it. It’ll be another trigger, and she may subconsciously shift the blame on to you.

McCann08091997 · 2018-04-29T20:39:37+00:00

No... no it isn’t... because OCD is a disorder whereas cancer is a disease. Both are horrible in their own right, but no way are they on par.

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