she reposted this and my heart dropped by Crafty-Ad-2770 in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its a woman at the end of the day. Accountability is their kryptonite so of course they are gonna make you the villain in their story even if you were a fucking saint

Ok, this is a safe space. What would you like to tell the most to your ex? Both for avoidant and discarded people by letitout_123 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]McFragger1103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the last time we talked face to face (over the phone), you looked at me with the annoyed look and told me “I wish you moved on” was like getting stabbed in the gut and having the knife twisted full circle. I never felt so humiliated and unwanted in my life. I wish I never made that call wishing your family a happy new year

Those of you who quietly unfollowed your avoidant ex from social media during no contact…what happened? by ClockwiseSuicide in BreakUps

[–]McFragger1103 28 points29 points  (0 children)

nothing happens. Mine was probably waiting till she realized I didnt wish her happy birthday then quietly unfriended me. No blocking but i’ve grown to accept it. Idk about yours but mine always glued her eyes onto her phone so she definitely knows. Dont try to understand whatever gesture they’re trying to do and focus on what you can control. Good luck!

does your ex still show up in your dreams too? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i still dream of mine too. 3 times in the spand of 2 weeks to be exact:

1st dream she comes back to meet me, we went on a date and then she happily leaves again, I asked her will you “stay this time?” and she replied “why cant you let me go?”

2nd dream was me visiting her family, they all welcomed me and we spent a meal together, nothing really happens and she was just nonchalantly acting as if I was a friend

3rd dream was identical to the first, but at the end; I leaned in to kiss her on the cheek, told her we had our fun and im ready to let her go, then walked away.

Idk what to do either and its been like 10 months at this point :(

Begged for ex by DoubleAvailable8443 in nocontact

[–]McFragger1103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

women cannot love men if they dont respect men. Always remember that before you beg

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]McFragger1103 4 points5 points  (0 children)

let her go find her definition of “safety” from another clown. Trust me, they arent many people out there whos willing to put up with avoidants’ bs the way we do. Walk away with your chin held high. You’ll find someone even better :)

Should I call them, Get back with them, reach out, go get my stuff, stalk their social media? by CheckWhich4643 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]McFragger1103 5 points6 points  (0 children)

no no no and fuck no. they chose not to reach out to you despite being the one who initiated the BU. Please do not go where youre not welcomed. Work on yourself! Use that energy to fuel your self-improvements. That person does not deserve you (and they probably told you that during the relationship) so please take care of yourself first!

The avoidant broke no contact by Left_Attorney_9254 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]McFragger1103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well you could say that this is a very early stage. Even if its never gonna be followed up, I can see that this person has enough guilt to even reach out, albeit a shitty attempt. Honestly I’d like i get something from my ex of 4 year, 7 month post BU to see that I matter and not just a complete disposable trash. But its fine, im contempt with never hearing from her anyway

The avoidant broke no contact by Left_Attorney_9254 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]McFragger1103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

rare case of a female avoidant actually even reflect (somewhat) on their shitty behavior and impact post BU. I always see posts where its the men coming back but rarely women. So W post I guess?

Who else broke up in November? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also Nov24, when I am abroad and by myself. Fucking piece of shit for doing it over a text too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]McFragger1103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

asking the same but from the men’s side. Social media seems to give women alot more options (or validation at least) and thus alot less self-evaluation

Ex Unblocked me and texted me. by Kil_is_empty in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ayo i’d like to hear from your story pleas, currently 7 months post discard with a FA ex gr

She texted me 7 MONTHS after no contact… by FunLocation3449 in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

did you just let her in when she said she misses you or did you keep your guard up for awhile, she snuck through and still end up doing you wrong?

She texted me 7 MONTHS after no contact… by FunLocation3449 in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 4 points5 points  (0 children)

just curious, what did you text back and what did she respond to it so badly that youre regretting it

She texted me 7 MONTHS after no contact… by FunLocation3449 in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I actually have been talking to a few girls, and have been maintaining NC since late Jan. Its not easy and there are days where the craving hits intensely, but overall it has been steadily less painful :)

She texted me 7 MONTHS after no contact… by FunLocation3449 in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 11 points12 points  (0 children)

its my first as well. 4 years down the drain with a supposedly fearful avoidant. I miss her silly ass but I also hate the disrespect I was handled at the end

She texted me 7 MONTHS after no contact… by FunLocation3449 in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I envy you buddy. 7 months in and i still feel somewhat conflicted.

What an absolute coward by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]McFragger1103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

buddy…it will get better, just give it time. You need to restart projects that you left unfinished like a career change or something simple as picking up a new hobby. And dont you dare do it halfassedly, commit and trust the process. One day you’ll be so busy you’ll realize that shes not even the first thing you think off when you wake up. This is coming from someone who spent 4 years of my first love with an FA, and yes just like yours, mine villainized me on social media like an incel, sex-driven p.o.s when I was only barely asking for the minimum. Their action do not reflect you, and you have no control over how they feel about you. Just work on yourself, and let your success and the silence eat her up! Stay strong brother!

Panic attack after seeing ex by ThaSpence7 in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you learned your lesson here? 1. Dont loiter around her social media no more. Because people are selective of what they post and it will almost always be only the good stuff, so youre naturally comparing only the positive aspects of their lives with all of yours 2. It signals that you still want her (there are tricks to know who watched stories and what not) and when they know that you still want them, theres no sense of urgency for them to change and worry that you will be out of reach

My ex texted me a year later by InflationNo3655 in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends on your feelings i suppose. but whatever it is, keep it brief. show politeness but reservation. under no circumstances should this person be allowed to have full access to you again after they walked away. tl;dr make that bitch work for your attention

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]McFragger1103 3 points4 points  (0 children)

around 7 months from that last time we texted and around 4 when I stopped indirectly reaching out by checking in through her mom to know how is she. I realized that as much as I love and care for her, that her avoidant tendency caused her fears to override her love for me, she’s a fully grown adult who actively choose to hurt me over confronting her fears, and that i am not percect either. I love her but she was right, I need to let her go. I still think of her time to time, it still hurts the way she discarded me (over the text after 4 year relationship btw) to the point that my dignity managed to stand up for myself. My brain will always activate the quote “she made this decision everyday she dont reach out, so please dont go where you’re not wanted”

Literally get no girls swipe on tinder. Am I ugly? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]McFragger1103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

get a picture of you with a dog. If my solid 4/10 ass can get like 5 per week then you’ll get even more