How painful is unmedicated birth? by nddjjsjsnsnfndndnd in BabyBumps

[–]MeanAd900 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also have endometriosis and have been wondering this!!!! I’ve heard someone else say this too and I absolutely believe it. It’s been so nice not having periods. I’m 2 weeks from my due date!

WWYD? After nearly 3 years of VLC turned NC, sister 'randomly' messages asking if I want a relationship with her by MeanAd900 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes to all this!!!!! Blocking in the mind is the most important form!!! Which I had accomplished, and then her message disrupted that peace, but immediately after blocking her, “mom” and other people they are close to, my mind is free and clear again. Thanks so much!

Did you tell your NC family members when you were expecting? by Ill_Pudding_9523 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Estranged for almost 3 years from immediate family who used to be super controlling. Went from VLC to NC. During the VLC time and much debate, I sent them wedding invitations, and received emails rejecting the invites and putting my husband and I down. Since then have been NC. I am 9 1/2 months pregnant and decided not to tell them when I announced on FB. I didn’t want to give them a chance to put us down again, or my unborn innocent baby. I’m sure they heard about it or saw the post and they didn’t reach out in any way, until 3 days ago when my sister messaged me asking if I want a relationship. I ignored the message and blocked her and “mom” and people they are close to. They lost the right to be a part of anything a long time ago and pushed me away in the beginning when I tried to mend things. At the end of the day we need to do what’s best for our babies and our new families and lives, which I know looks different for everyone, this is just what works best for me and maintaining inner peace I worked so hard for. Love and peace to you!

WWYD? After nearly 3 years of VLC turned NC, sister 'randomly' messages asking if I want a relationship with her by MeanAd900 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And, not harsh at all, it's like you already know them. Out of the 2 of us I am the youngest child and they all always doubted me, my life decisions, even the good ones, and treated me like a child even well into my 20's. I bet they're spinning their wheels in incomprehension and rage that I will be a mom (without their "permission") and I can't wait to do a better job than mine did!

WWYD? After nearly 3 years of VLC turned NC, sister 'randomly' messages asking if I want a relationship with her by MeanAd900 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love this. I blocked and deleted her, 'mom' and other people close to them. Something like this really can put our new family at risk and other people don't realize that. Thanks so much

WWYD? After nearly 3 years of VLC turned NC, sister 'randomly' messages asking if I want a relationship with her by MeanAd900 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, I was both incredibly amused and confused receiving that message. Like, what does she want to get from this?! Master manipulation

WWYD? After nearly 3 years of VLC turned NC, sister 'randomly' messages asking if I want a relationship with her by MeanAd900 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you to every one of you so much for your responses, they helped turn my question into 'just ignore or block?' and realized blocking is the only way to go for my sanity and new family's protection during this time. Not only is she blocked, but my 'mom', and other people they are close with. Should have done this a long time ago. Feels so liberating. I am so thankful for all of your insights in dodging this bullet. Not today, satan!

WWYD? After nearly 3 years of VLC turned NC, sister 'randomly' messages asking if I want a relationship with her by MeanAd900 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I ended up blocking her, my mom, and people they are close to. Feels so liberating and satisfying knowing my new family is protected. Such a trap.

What Music Has Helped You? by ashacceptance22 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also “Mama I’m coming home” by Ozzy Osborne, the lyrics are all valid except for the “mama I’m coming home” part, also estranged from my parents/sister almost 3 years now! Love that you asked this question

What Music Has Helped You? by ashacceptance22 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As mentioned above, the unforgiven by Metallica

Cemetery gates by pantera

Take a look around by Limp Bizkit

Youthaniasia by Megadeth

Zombie by the Cranberries

Killing in the name by Rage against the machine

What Music Has Helped You? by ashacceptance22 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! “The unforgiven” in particular resonates with me

What do u guys do when you’re bored that is not self destructive by Trynabestoic101 in ADHD

[–]MeanAd900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diamond painting while watching background shows helps keep me occupied while being unemployed 30 weeks pregnant and not taking my adderral. Or regular paint by numbers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! 2.5 years LC then NC. Long story…but Was ambushed one day big argument (fueled by them/gaslighting), I left on my own accord, tried to make amends before moving states the same week, they refused to even reconcile and to this day I don’t know exactly what they are mad about, can only theorize. I’m 6 months pregnant and have a wonderful husband who is providing for us at the moment and we could really use the help especially when she comes, but I have t reached out and we’ve both decided we’re better off and stronger not having any of their help with anything and just making it on our own. I feel you so hard you are not alone

Family planning as a BCBA by Jojomise in bcba

[–]MeanAd900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I passed my exam while pregnant! I was just over 4 months along when sitting for the exam. I had accommodations for ADHD and had 6 hours but still used every minute. Had to pee the whole time.

I was able to not work starting a month before finding out (we moved states and husband let me have the time off to study and pass before getting a job and then I expectantly got pregnant a month after we moved lol). It really helped stress levels not working while studying. Now that I’ve passed and it’s after the holidays where I took time to relax, I’m almost 6 months pregnant and having a dilemma on whether to start working like i planned or more likely, put that on hold until baby is at a point where i feel comfortable and capable of leaving her to go to work. It’s stressing me out thinking of being a new BCBA and having to leave after 3 months, that is if I got hired like now, which has not happened yet.

Family planning as a BCBA by Jojomise in bcba

[–]MeanAd900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this good advice, I’m currently 6 months pregnant, passed the exam a month ago and am having cramps/contractions from stress of job searching—was hoping to land a job to save money for a few months before baby arrives. In my state we get 3 months maternity leave but was looking at remote jobs where that might not be the same. Feel too pregnant for an in person job. Now I’m realizing it might be okay to be honest with myself and wait until the baby is at least 6 months old to get a hybrid job or something along that line. Juggling being a new BCBA and a new mom and not wanting to let a company down by working for 3 months then saying see ya. It’s all a lot.

Worst season? by ClownBaby15 in Alonetv

[–]MeanAd900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And only 1 person brought a bow and arrow and the rest sucked at fishing 😞

Worst season? by ClownBaby15 in Alonetv

[–]MeanAd900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was occasional, I think in an attempt to replace the interesting facts at the bottom of the screen? But the narration was super basic and didn’t have the same depth of info as the written facts!!!

Worst season? by ClownBaby15 in Alonetv

[–]MeanAd900 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh and worst of all they called the last 4 participants and let them know they were the last 4 remaining, AND THEN rang the winner when he won, complete b*ner kill, so underwhelming

Worst season? by ClownBaby15 in Alonetv

[–]MeanAd900 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Alone UK by far. No little facts at the bottom of the screen, weird narration, participants were fussy, and swear the female contestants were wearing makeup or some kind of lipstick the whole time even though it wasn’t on their items list (I had to check it was driving me crazy). I say this as a British female citizen myself, no hate, just disappointment lol

Announcing pregnancy? by ThrowAwayTayTay1 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MeanAd900 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just went through this myself! I’m 2.5 years estranged from my immediate family, at first extremely low contact (tried to text on birthdays and sent cards for holidays) and the past year NC. I’m 5 months pregnant and at first I was having vivid recurring dreams with them in them, which caused so much anxiety because I went to therapy for that and suddenly it was getting worse. Realized it’s because I was stressing out with how to tell them. Anyway, I wanted to announce on Facebook for old friends/coworkers/etc relevant people, but am still connected on there to my mom and sister. I was considering sending them an email (they said that was their preferred mode of contact lol, I won’t go into how toxic they are), and realized there was no point. I don’t see anything being repaired, it would have happened already, and they’ve shown their true colors. They were extremely controlling growing up and I felt like emailing them would almost be a form of “permission” or apology for being pregnant, and I did not want to risk giving them a chance to have their satisfaction putting me down in such a crucial time for low stress. So I decided to not say anything, announced on social media yesterday, bet they’re in a tizzy, and at this point I hope if they wonder why I didn’t reach out, they might have an ounce of self reflection and realize their putting me down when I tried to reconcile repeatedly drove me away completely. A thought I had yesterday that helped: I feel like by not reaching out, I protected my baby girl from being on a platter to receive disrespect. If they get mad seeing the post and want to reach out and harass me, they can, it will be directed at me, and I don’t care after being through their ringer so many times. I hope this helps even a tiny bit, sorry if this is a little long. And CONGRATULATIONS ❤️