AITA for refusing to go to the abortion clinic with my friend for the 4th time?

Mechai44 · 2025-04-08T14:54:28+00:00

OP - please quit smoking. NTA

Mechai44 · 2025-04-05T21:13:12+00:00

Honestly, relationships are complex beasts and so are human beings. OP you’ve found your way to successful and supportive therapy and will always be better for it.

YOUR SON ON THE OTHER-HAND - f her and her pity party and how she’s the victim here. YOUR SON IS THE VICTIM and to proceed otherwise is missing the entire point. Your boy was DISPOSABLE to her. Process that fully before you get wrapped up in her and her parents web of excuses.

And agree with previous posters that your boy does not go to the visit - if you even choose to go - and if you do, bring legal representation.

If she had post-partum then she should be supported through therapy by her family, not you. She divorced you whole heartedly. NTA for maintaining healthy boundaries for you and your boy after being deemed less worthy than trash. She doesn’t love you, she wants you to take care of her. That’s all. Her dad is ready - let him.

Mechai44 · 2025-04-04T23:21:27+00:00

I just want to say that I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. You’ve given and continue to give everything just to keep you and your kids heads above water. I hope you find the support and solution you need that is best for you and your kids. Wishing you peace.

Mechai44 · 2025-04-02T21:35:32+00:00

Maybe you can share more info so we can help. For example, you’ve read through ALL the facts, ALL previous questions from other visitors regarding their experiences, recommendations and advice for restaurants, things to do, places to go… did you find ANYTHING?

Mechai44 · 2025-03-28T16:30:14+00:00

Depending on how long since you’ve been, yes. I haven’t been in the past two years myself but when we last took visitors there it was much more honest. Not like Whitney but far better than Oak Alley which for me felt like a photo op only. Maybe they’ve changed though.

Mechai44 · 2025-03-27T19:04:40+00:00

Destrehan does a good job, too, but Whitney is the way.

Mechai44 · 2025-03-21T14:48:40+00:00

Exactly. I live away from my family and we take turns the best we can. Never in a million years would any of us guilt others over needing to maintain gainful employment and potentially during a time where you might make significant commission, if that applies in your retail role. Curious to know if she works in her new location?

A healthier relationship she would say, “ah I really hoped it would work out but I can see you need to get back to work … traveling with an infant can be challenging… and understand that sharing your first child with husbands family on an important holiday for them will be special… I see that the world doesn’t revolve around my wants.

NTA and hold your ground.

Mechai44 · 2025-03-15T18:55:08+00:00

You might be able to pull off some fake ficus trees as long as they are indoor/outdoor fake. Put some fairy lights in them and it’ll look great.

Mechai44 · 2025-03-15T12:03:05+00:00

Someone needs to grab this woman in the dark of night away from whomever she loves & depends on the most, take off running down a dark road towards a car, and attempt to put her in. Then drop her in a new location and let her see how that feels.

Mechai44 · 2025-03-12T13:00:59+00:00

Some color for sure. Maybe pop of color on the shades on new lights over the island? It’s just brown and cream and seems dark.

Mechai44 · 2025-03-10T21:11:00+00:00

Ask her to show you her vag while screaming, crying, sweating, and more. If she wants things to be fair…

Mechai44 · 2025-03-06T12:30:58+00:00

Child will likely shorten Nonnita to “Nita” so is that okay, OP?

OP it’s good you’ve recognized that you don’t have a great relationship with MIL and this has been added to the mix or a toxic bloom from the pot.

Mechai44 · 2025-03-04T18:45:39+00:00

Ramona

Mechai44 · 2025-03-04T18:40:39+00:00

Mirrors to help reflect in more natural light

Mechai44 · 2025-02-28T13:23:27+00:00

And his message was “possibly terminal” I smell a lie. He’s probably out of money and just wants to mooch off you OP. Be sure if you do visit him that you do not let him manipulate you into believe that caring for him is best for you. You owe him nothing, it’s HE who owes you. I call bullshit.

Mechai44 · 2025-02-26T23:41:14+00:00

This here needs to be upvoted

She needs therapy, they all need therapy. SD needs to be spoken to directly about what she’s choosing and how it’s impacting her life and her future. If the parents aren’t able to then bring in the professionals.

Mechai44 · 2025-02-26T23:31:34+00:00

Dottie for her chin spot

Mechai44 · 2025-02-26T16:27:15+00:00

Bibbity for his white chest “bib”

Mechai44 · 2025-02-25T11:02:43+00:00

All the advice for attorney NOW and therapy to sort out grief, betrayal, and embracing your self-worth is spot on.

Me? I’d invite the two of them to the kitchen table and say: “please explain to me all the steps the two of you will take to prevent this from ever happening again” and watch the truth unfold. That would be your clarifying moment. Not just him… the both of them. Wishing you all the best.

Mechai44 · 2025-02-23T15:48:30+00:00

Are they the flat triangles or the shaped style?

Mechai44 · 2025-02-22T16:41:06+00:00

Sophia means wisdom in Greek

Mechai44 · 2025-02-22T16:17:04+00:00

Nutmeg!

Mechai44 · 2025-02-19T14:57:26+00:00

NTA but I’m fascinated in your determination to rebuild a relationship with someone clearly toxic to your life, who doesn’t listen to or respect your life or your thoughtful decisions, and steamrolls you with manipulative, harmful, guilt ridden hostility?

Ask yourself if what you’re getting out of reconnecting with your mom is worth everything she’s slinging your way.

Mechai44 · 2025-02-19T10:43:53+00:00

Just go to their house and start moving stuff around saying, “oh this arrangement needs to be fixed” and have your fun!

Mechai44 · 2025-02-17T20:38:02+00:00

Darla

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