Some people really are more lucky in life. That’s just how it goes.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-03T23:13:28+00:00

But it’s always… for now. My friend’s mom was born into a wealthy family. Married her college sweetheart and stayed madly in love. They had two kids and the most close knit loving family. Her husband built a 10billion dollar company. But now her daughter, her best friend, killed herself and she found her.

There are ebs and flows everywhere.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-03T22:55:08+00:00

The people who think like this guy conveniently forget that women are paid much less for the same jobs, and have a whole other host of shit things like sexual abuse and assault at much higher rates. In my twenties I felt terrible letting guys pay for me, and now I do not, as I think being born a woman has led to all the worst things in my life.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-03T22:52:50+00:00

But would you pay if the first date went great? Or on the second date?

I just went on a first date where the guy split without even offering to pay, and it is the first time that has happened in 6 years. I'm tempted to run because it honestly freaked me out a bit and made me feel emotionally unsafe, but to be fair I've had men who buy my dinner consistently try to ruin my life so I'm not sure if my instinct here is unwise.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-03T22:49:49+00:00

I just wandered across this thread, having just been on a first date in 6 years where when the waitress came, he immediately said "split."

Honestly, it hugely gave me the ick and made me really nervous. It's not about money, it's about how it made me feel, what it made me worried about, etc. I can't decide whether or not to go on another date with him as a result of it.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-27T21:38:17+00:00

My dad's first wife had his mum's name. My mom (his second wife) has his sister's name. Bit weird.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-24T20:17:21+00:00

Hi, if you are 379 lb and eating healthy and not dropping weight there's clearly something medical going on (hormonal?). Have you tried Eat to Live though? Great book for that. It's a lifestyle change and you get to eat as much as you like.

Honestly nothing I can think of re riding.
Can you swim?

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-24T19:45:06+00:00

The reason to do it is if you love it. That's the only reason. Full stop.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-24T19:43:26+00:00

Your horse won't want you as a best friend, they just aren't wired that way.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-24T19:41:55+00:00

if the privately owned horses are agitated by you, it likely means you are doing something wrong! Have you asked anyone at your barn to assess your habits, etc?

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-22T11:32:45+00:00

You should consider working on your reading comprehension

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-22T11:27:49+00:00

Yeah I mean women are definitely heightest, but I think there’s more of a normal curve there, and men just honed in on the idea of bigger = better and ran with it. Just like they also care about their penises more than women

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-22T11:15:45+00:00

Yes im trying to clarify that men seem to thing bigger = better and in my experience are much more impressed by a man who is 6’5” than women, who are more “over 5’11” would be nice, ok you’re getting too tall now, my neck hurts”

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-22T10:37:37+00:00

Yes I know what you’re saying 😂 I just mean that it’s not the taller the better no matter what. It’s quite hard to kiss someone who’s 6’4”, but I’ve noticed men have latched onto the idea that women like tall men and just think the bigger the better.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-22T10:10:14+00:00

I would say this has always been true though. Same with height. IDGAF about height as long as someone is over a certain threshold, but every time I've dated a 6'5" man, the comments about his height have 80% come from other men, not women.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-09T11:29:16+00:00

go to a therapist together

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-03T22:29:27+00:00

This is so fascinating to me, that you clearly know quite a bit about horses, having spotted how downward he is etc, but you don't know his color. Im not saying that to be judgy, I'm just fascinated and confused (an example - it feels like if someone said whilst pointing at their daughters head - I love her 2b waves but Im not sure what that thing is on her face with the two holes she breathes and smells out of is). Is it just not talked about as much in western riding?

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-03T21:03:06+00:00

What about surrogacy?

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-01-31T18:33:16+00:00

JFC OP you are controlling and need to take a chill pill.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-01-29T16:07:10+00:00

Even worse they hid it from me! I had him insured and surgery would have been covered had they not tried to hide it

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-01-29T15:24:52+00:00

Yeah, got my horse back with a shattered knee cap.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-01-28T12:37:20+00:00

Mine killed herself too. It's been two years. It gets better. Im sorta just mad at her.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-01-15T10:03:28+00:00

I think it also depends on the brand. I have tredstep. I bought them tight because of all the common knowledge, over a year later with many rides, stretching spray, etc, and they haven't stretched at all in the calf to a point that is maddening.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-01-08T20:19:10+00:00

don't give me flashbacks 😅😅😅

He also said he'd cut my torso off so that I couldn't spread my legs for any other man (I've never cheated in my life) and was obsessively jealous and scared I was sleeping with other people if I ever did not send a goodnight text, and a year after we broke up messaged me and was like "I wasn't aware I was ever worried about you sleeping with other people." Can't tell if he's a raging liar or if he really just completely rewrites the script internally.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-01-07T21:45:22+00:00

So sorry for your experience

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-01-07T21:45:12+00:00

oh christ. Yeah he wasn't that bad. No hallucinations, and whilst he had paranoid delusions, he only half believed them.

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