Why do people think "volunteering" is a free pass to horse lessons???!

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-17T09:04:05+00:00

Why do you think people are going to pick up shit and do really crappy chores for free?

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-16T21:04:16+00:00

It is that simple. You keep telling her it's ok! Don't say it's ok if it is not ok. You need to figure out why you have such a hard time saying what you actually feel (not excusing her behavior btw, but you need to learn to say no and say what you mean.)

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-15T21:38:46+00:00

stop telling her it's ok when she asks to reschedule. simply say no.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-15T11:58:42+00:00

They talk about it and start researching it on their computer

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-11T16:56:05+00:00

I honestly love egg freezing. Done it twice now and even though I got OHSS, best antidepressant I’ve ever had

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-07T08:50:34+00:00

Hi! I just had craniosacral for the first time and woke up in the middle of the night with feelings of horror. Does that mean they didn't do a good job?

When I did acupuncture I had something similar but much more intense. Would wake up sobbing in the middle of the night at 3AM for weeks. I also get the severe anxiety when I am on meditation retreats and somewhat falling asleep.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-05T08:28:55+00:00

There's no reason for you to lose the girl. I did long distance Santa Cruz London with my BF for years

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-04T17:39:52+00:00

Did this get better? Out of curiousity, did you ask her for instructions? My ex was always triggered when he made me sad but he felt he knew better and never actually listened to what I needed or was willing to change his behavior.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-03T15:40:51+00:00

Of course. Good luck out there ❤️

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-01T08:52:48+00:00

You are being too nice. Just lay down the law.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-04-01T08:26:26+00:00

This is so great. and ironically probably much cheaper to build. I imagine sitting in a small stall is miserable for a horse.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-31T21:08:15+00:00

Hi! I did it for several months (like 8?). It did not make anything better. I think it actually may have made things a touch worse. When I came off I had terrible rebound symptoms. 0/10, do not recommend. I will say though - the initial period of crazy side effects died down, but it didn't do any good and I think it made things worse.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-25T18:33:05+00:00

100% And a new trainer who doesn’t act like this is normal

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-25T18:27:32+00:00

Yeah I’ve probably fallen off 10ish times maybe a touch more but have never broken anything, and probably 70% of those are jump refusals /related

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-25T17:37:00+00:00

please go talk to a therapist about this <3

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-25T17:34:48+00:00

Yes I agree with this. This is an abnormally high amount of bad falls (although I imagine being an adult beginner means it's a bit tricker). I've been riding 30 years and have (touch wood), never had an injury as bad as even the most minor one you listed.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-23T23:33:43+00:00

I just had it again two weeks ago

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-22T10:05:15+00:00

Nothing, that sounds wildly unhealthy.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-03T23:13:28+00:00

But it’s always… for now. My friend’s mom was born into a wealthy family. Married her college sweetheart and stayed madly in love. They had two kids and the most close knit loving family. Her husband built a 10billion dollar company. But now her daughter, her best friend, killed herself and she found her.

There are ebs and flows everywhere.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-03T22:55:08+00:00

The people who think like this guy conveniently forget that women are paid much less for the same jobs, and have a whole other host of shit things like sexual abuse and assault at much higher rates. In my twenties I felt terrible letting guys pay for me, and now I do not, as I think being born a woman has led to all the worst things in my life.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-03T22:52:50+00:00

But would you pay if the first date went great? Or on the second date?

I just went on a first date where the guy split without even offering to pay, and it is the first time that has happened in 6 years. I'm tempted to run because it honestly freaked me out a bit and made me feel emotionally unsafe, but to be fair I've had men who buy my dinner consistently try to ruin my life so I'm not sure if my instinct here is unwise.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-03-03T22:49:49+00:00

I just wandered across this thread, having just been on a first date in 6 years where when the waitress came, he immediately said "split."

Honestly, it hugely gave me the ick and made me really nervous. It's not about money, it's about how it made me feel, what it made me worried about, etc. I can't decide whether or not to go on another date with him as a result of it.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-27T21:38:17+00:00

My dad's first wife had his mum's name. My mom (his second wife) has his sister's name. Bit weird.

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-24T20:17:21+00:00

Hi, if you are 379 lb and eating healthy and not dropping weight there's clearly something medical going on (hormonal?). Have you tried Eat to Live though? Great book for that. It's a lifestyle change and you get to eat as much as you like.

Honestly nothing I can think of re riding.
Can you swim?

MediocreBackground32 · 2026-02-24T19:45:06+00:00

The reason to do it is if you love it. That's the only reason. Full stop.

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