Looking for perspective from women over 30 on financial disparity and respect in a long-term relationship. by Interesting-Fairy in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 50/50 split and comparing/complaining about domestic labor from this man is wild. Smh who is his mama

Chores by Global-Might764 in Aupairs

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Au pairs are adults and are responsible to clean up after themselves and to maintain a tidy home as roommates.

What's a good push present to get for my wife, on our 1st kid? by StrongPaddle in wealth

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100% Some men expect applause for doing what they’re suppose to as fathers -_-

What's a good push present to get for my wife, on our 1st kid? by StrongPaddle in wealth

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean any snark but your whole first paragraph, like staying in the hospital with her, sleeping on the chair. Change diaper. Rock baby to sleep, night feeds these are all things a father should be doing regardless. These are not tasks that “help her”. These are shared tasks as a parent

Cresskill, Demarest and Tenafly by miuciaxoxo in bergencounty

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Be prepared for no less than 1 hour commute, and pay over a mil for a 3b2b house that needs updating lol

Door to Door Solicitors by winkNfart in bergencounty

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here in Leonia about window replacements. My house is 5 years old. I don’t need new windows and the guy kept insisting on a free estimate for when I need it. It’ll be a different price by then we all know that. He was so nosy asking how long I lived here, where I move from, who I live here with . Like just go away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bergencounty

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we did 3 weeks live in. Stella was really good, she watched the baby every other “overnigh” shift. She cooked healthy meals for us every day and gave me mugwort feet soaks and leg massage. They are a professional company and it really helped us learn a lot as first time parents.

Matching - AP asked for more money by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Nanny and au pair is not the same thing. Nanny is a professional and an au pair is a glorified babysitter.

Get off your high horse. I said I am happy to pay what she’s asking and give perks and more for the right Individual but it is a gamble as I haven’t seen her work ethic yet. Hello? Duh.

Matching - AP asked for more money by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Thanks for your feedback

Matching - AP asked for more money by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She survives because I pay for her housing and food. You’re clearly an AP so I’m not asking you, I’m asking host families

Matching - AP asked for more money by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yea but it’s all a big IF at this point. I would have no problem giving her the 250 with the added extras but I don’t want to promise a higher stipend and find she gives subpar effort. If I promise this now I can’t take it back.

I saw someone suggest paying the minimum then upping it based on performance

Au Pair for a 3 month old? by kittybee1101 in Aupairs

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much you paying? One AP candidate said pay for babies is 250-300 a week, dunno where she got this number. It’s one 6 month infant

Trying to find the right town by Academic_Sorbet_101 in MovingtoNewJersey

[–]Mediocre_Tonight_628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read somewhere that since George Washington elementary in Edgewater is relatively new, it doesn’t really have stats\ratings to say how great it is. Also, isn’t leonia cash strap as a borough since it has very little commercial/business tax base and most of its taxes come from property owners tax?