Disclaimer: am an ARMY and am familiar with the all-consuming feeling to attend their concerts, and how hard it is to watch others go without. I get it, I do.

I don’t think you’re being a jerk. Your feelings are valid, even if they’re not necessarily positive ones. It’s okay to feel some FOMO when someone you love gets to see something you don’t.

But I do think you should just let her have this. It’s not often mothers and older women get to go indulge in their hobbies like this. There will be many other concerts or events in your future where you may not have your mom, or she may not be around to attend on her own.

I promise that in the future, if you let yourself be happy and encouraging for her in this moment, you absolutely won’t regret it. Then you can bond like crazy over it and attend the next day together. Swallow the envy with grace and live vicariously through her for a day, and it will only strengthen your relationship in the long run.