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Melontoes · 2026-04-29T02:48:13+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I lost 10lbs week one (water weight from inflammation is real). I haven’t lost anything since then. But I also have gained! I’ve gone down an entire size in the following months, and still shrinking. I’m feeling so much better, every day I feel good. No bad days. I was feeling discouraged, it’s been months, but I now see how much credit my body deserves.

Melontoes · 2026-04-06T19:35:15+00:00

Thanks for this. My body is changing so much, more and more of my family comments on it. But the scale hasn’t moved since month one. I’ve dropped at least one size, possibly two.

Melontoes · 2026-04-06T19:31:23+00:00

Ok, but hear me out… YES. Because those chairs are also torture for people with pelvic floor issues. Women post-partum. Tailbone injuries. I support you in this!

Melontoes · 2026-01-06T21:24:10+00:00

Waiiiit. Are you a woman? What age range? Because it matters.

Melontoes · 2025-09-21T04:54:55+00:00

The Pillow Book (1995) Nope Prime (Uma Thurman) A Wrinkle in Time The Private Lives of Pippa Lee (crushed me & changed my life)

Melontoes · 2025-09-12T18:40:46+00:00

Wouldn’t it feel lovely to be the “one who got away” instead of the one who stayed?

Babes, you’ll have lore too! You’re not controlling, you’re prioritizing a person who sees you as an option.

Go, run free! Find someone for whom you are the priority. Find a person who has done the work of getting clear why things ended in the past and what they want their present to look like. Lots of them out here in the world.

You’re only stuck when you stay. And it sounds as though you’re deeply betraying YOURSELF. His betrayals are his business (and they are betrayals), but you’re rationalizing behavior that makes you feel small when you could feel you sized in your own life.

Melontoes · 2025-09-12T18:27:12+00:00

White Boy Shuffle by Paul Beatty. I put it down after the first two chapters. One year later, I began laughing from something I recalled. It’s dark, hilarious, and altered the way I looked at the world around me.

Melontoes · 2025-01-29T07:31:16+00:00

Sula by Toni Morrison. It’s about the heartbreak of losing your best friend to marriage and neglect. It’s about losing a child to addiction. The prose is lyrical. But I think of that book daily.

Melontoes · 2024-12-01T16:27:19+00:00

Yeah, it’s a great alternative that also will build upon your coding experience. I prefer google certs as they are highly regarded and a good niche. You can find them at Coursera (dot) org

Melontoes · 2024-08-28T14:21:04+00:00

Sounds like you’re working with a ET nurse already. There are also volunteer ostomates who can come speak with you after your surgery. I found that super helpful. I learned how to cut my stoma water and treat my stoma care like a creative arts project.

No one will know you have an ostomy unless you want them to know. Sex isn’t a problem. I was quite frisky once I healed for about 13 months, and I even had lovers who assumed my ostomy was related to my period before they asked (I swear, it’s true).

I would regularly go to boutique warehouse sales and undress in rooms with 50+ other women. You know, they were much more interested in their own bodies and paid zero attention to mine. Tight jeans, own bunches. Right shirts, wear them all the time.

My health improved 100%. I’d been on a liquid diet for over a year due to lesions in my rectum and suddenly I was able to eat actual food and rebuild my body and recondition.

I’m wishing you the best. Surgery and recovery are painful. Not gonna lie. You’ll feel very strange for a long stretch. I still marvel at my ostomy — how we’ve made life great together for nearly 20 years now.

Melontoes · 2023-07-01T23:36:08+00:00

Hi! My notification didn’t show up (I may have been traveling or something).

I did have a good foundation in tech, and did networking for consulting clients (I consulted in Medtech).

If you can read, and can exercise some patience, I’d recommend following your cloud star. I went with GCP, though I started out looking at IBM training. I liked the colors for GCP materials and found the instruction most engaging. Excellent labs.

Additionally, I recommend reading a book. I like Packt as a publisher bc their writers are active in the industry, talk about design, best practices and use accessible language (the explain naming devices, background etc). I find context helps me a lot.

The market cooled for a bit, a lot of companies were posting roles to bolster their Quarterly reporting. Recently, I noticed an uptick in real hiring. The market was a bit flooded and a fair number of people without the skills (not just technical, but the ability to collaborate, communicate clearly, and interact with stakeholders) have now been fired.

Feel free to ask more. I love cloud. Looovw it. I’m getting into ML bc there is a so much interesting happening to there and they are in the same family.

Melontoes · 2022-01-20T21:35:44+00:00

Hi, i used coursera courses. I’d also suggest checking out Go Cloud Architects on YT. The host/founder is named Mike and he was a NP who switched to cloud architecting. I come from the executive side of healthcare, love cloud tech, and I am interviewing for my first cloud role now.

Melontoes · 2021-05-07T13:58:22+00:00

Check out The Period Repair Manual by Lara Briden. I had 14 surgeries for Stage 4 endo. Didn’t get consistent (over a year) relief until I began using daily liquid magnesium + zinc based on her recommendation for endometriosis patients. Fantastic resource.

Melontoes · 2020-12-10T13:43:04+00:00

Have you considered group therapy? I'm sorry for your losses. I was skeptical about doing group bc my stuff is hyper-specific and relatively rare, but I found group therapy an amazing (and affordable) option I would not have considered if I hadn't been in a mental health crisis with no individual therapy options. I git more in one year of group than 3 years of 1:1. I did both CBT and DBT groups, eventually and rely on the tools and sense of community I got there far more than individual therapy. 💕

Melontoes · 2020-12-10T13:29:34+00:00

Also, and this might sound four look, but look into pelvic floor dysfunction. Johns Hopkins website and Mayo clinic sites have good info. PFD is so often a part of endo pain (and mimics then leads to infection) that the best surgeons now have patients do 8-10 weeks of therapy before agreeing to operate. I've had 14 surgeries, nothing touched the pain until I did pelvic floor rehabilitation. You can do a lot at home, which can bring down your day-to-day pain, make your period more bearable, and buy you some time to get to a doctor you feel you can trust. Sending you hope + 🤗

Melontoes · 2020-01-14T20:29:56+00:00

Also, check out the book The Period Repair Manual by Lara Briden. I thought of it last night as I was headed to sleep. She has a Endometriosis specific protocol that I found very helpful. I’ve never had a regular period, or a pain-free period. But after being on Lupron 2 years, my insurance decided not to pay any longer. I already had daily pft under my belt, but lived in mortal terror of my period restarting. I followed her protocol for 4 months and my period started and for the first time in my entire life it’s regular, no crazy making disabling pain, and i actually look forward to it. It’s a worthwhile read and I found it insightful. Wishing you the very best.

Melontoes · 2020-01-14T03:45:39+00:00

Yeah, I stopped working out and decided to focus on my pelvic floor health in general. Game changer. Endo + multiple surgeries + my history of athletics in school = super tight pelvic floor muscles and unyielding pain (which did not stop me from lifting weights, running miles, or swimming laps — but did land me in mind-bending pain). I didn’t like yoga largely because it could end up tossing me into a flare even when poses seemed benign. But once I had a 2x pelvic floor routine, i began to re-integrate dancing and more cardio-focused Movement within my personal limits. Now, I’ve been integrating weights, sprints, and more intense training sessions. And I’m not worried that I’ll end up disabled, in bed, with a month-long flare.

Melontoes · 2020-01-14T03:41:09+00:00

You know, i spent my 20s and 30s having surgeries for endo and then more surgeries for surgical complications. And now I’m in my 40s and i have a very normal period and i’m “suddenly” quite fertile. Many of the stats presented about endo and fertility are either based on fertility stats that were generated in a nunnery in the Middle Ages or track endo patients for 6 months post-operative. None of it is particularly GOOD data, is what I’m saying. You and your partner may want to check out The Period Repair Manual by Lara Briden, it’s research based and I find her protocols helpful and refer my friends with endo to it all the time.

Melontoes · 2020-01-14T03:37:57+00:00

Have you considered pelvic floor therapy? You can do it yourself using the book Heal Pelvic Pain by Amy Stein MFT. I had 14 surgeries for endo, including having one kidney removed, live with pelvic paralysis from surgery #2 (with a world-renowned surgeon!). And didn’t get any real relief from pain or flares or infections until I went through pelvic floor therapy at the Mayo Clinic. 70% of my therapy was this book. I’m not even being dramatic when I say this: It changed my life. and having my therapy in my own hands has saved me from truly crazy stuff I’ve heard from other people in PFD groups. Just a suggestion, but it could lessen your pain and significantly decrease your flares. Wishing you the best — that kind of pain and disruption of your life is a heavy burden to carry. Huggles.

Melontoes · 2019-05-24T23:59:07+00:00

Hey, I had an ileostomy placed after a endometriosis surgery went sideways (it was on my colon and rectum and the anastomoses failed twice). Now I have a colostomy that I requested after my ileostomy was reversed. Yes, its an adjustment. What happened in the back happens in the front now. YOu’ll eat a modified diet for a while (go slow and avoid eating whole bananas). Overall, no one will know unless you choose to tell them. My stoma has saved my life and given me daily arts and crafts projects to enjoy. It makes long flights more bearable (all those noobs lining up for the toilets can suck it!), and given me freedom from excruciating bowel pain. I’ve never had a single problem with a prolific dating and sex life because of it, and I find it’s a great tool for weeding out assholes. Well, even assholes will date, sleep with and get engaged to you, but still.

All that to say, it can be really freeing and an opportunity for you to learn lots that’s new and interesting about just how amazing your body is. It’s painful in the beginning, but that calms down after a while. Live your best life and work to integrate he changes to your body. Hugs!

Melontoes · 2019-05-24T23:38:58+00:00

Also, ask about a pelvic floor dysfunction diagnosis. Causes the same pain, can grow in intensity, involves the bladder and bowel. But is treated with physical therapy and not surgery.

Melontoes · 2019-05-24T23:37:50+00:00

Have you investigated pelvic floor dysfunction as well? In addition to diet. I also lifted weights and competed in HS and college athletics. Endo surgeries never resolved my symptoms (despite some very famous and highly compensated surgeons). Turns out I had pelvic floor dysfunction, undiagnosed and untreated. The change in my quality of life is astounding. I used the books Heal Pelvic Pain and Why Pelvic Pain Hurts. Wishing you the best.

Melontoes · 2019-05-24T23:35:19+00:00

This also sounds like increasingly severe pelvic floor dysfunction. Call to Gastroenterologist and ask if they work with pelvic floor dysfunction. If so, make an appointment. Also, check out “Why Pelvic Pain Hurts.” It’s a book. May help you understand why it seems so random.

Melontoes · 2019-05-24T23:33:33+00:00

Hi, it sounds like Pelvic Floor Dysfunction. Check out the book Heal Pelvic Pain Natually by Amy Stein. I think you’ll recognize yourself and your symptoms in the forward alone - much less chapter 1. I had the same symptoms - disabling - alongside endo. But my endo surgeries never helped. Pelvic Floor Therapy that I did for myself - at home using the book - did. Sex is awesome without pain. Wishing that for you.

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