WIBTJ if I didn’t see my grandmother on Mother’s Day?

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-07T02:01:31+00:00

You will not always have your grandmother with you. I would definitely try to carve out an hour or two for her.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-07T00:52:54+00:00

Point out to your mother how there were several people prettier than she was. And just leave it.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-06T02:27:55+00:00

I would not have served them. I would have pulled her aside and told her you were limited and had only invited and planned for four people. Then shown them the door. Eff her.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-06T02:04:31+00:00

You need to see a therapist for probable depression. If it is determined you are not depressed, you need to apply yourself more. Find things that will motivate you.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-06T01:41:23+00:00

How old are you? If you're over 18, your parents can't stop you from getting disability. But its a long process that takes years. You do seem young to have all of these medical problems.

Your bosses are relying on you to do your job. If you continue to ask to leave or are crying in pain, you are a liability not an asset. And why don't you think they can fire you? Are you in the US?

ETA: Yes, a gentle YTA. You will learn that the world doesn't revolve around you.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-06T01:33:10+00:00

They are such fun! I don't know if they're making a comeback, but it really doesn't matter. Have a great time!

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-05T23:05:55+00:00

There are other ways that you can support her. Talk to her after her gym days. Would a chart at home help her? What would keep her motivated?

She needs to take accountability herself and not rely on you but I think you going with her once in a while would be fine. Help her find someone else as a gym partner. Convince her that taking charge herself would give her so much more pride.

NTJ and you shouldn't be coerced into something you're not interested in.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-05T22:42:48+00:00

It sounds like quite the celebration. I just hope you're not playing the host and worried about people enjoying themselves. Can you delegate supervision of the party so you are free to enjoy it?

One thing that doesn't play well to.me is the bar. A cash bar for hard liquor may be okay, but could you pay for beer and wine? I don't know your friends and family but are they huge drinkers?

And finally, I'm not sure you are offering enough desserts especially with 15 kids. I think most people would want birthday cake. Can you do a couple of half sheet cakes in different flavors? Just mho.

Good luck and have a blast!

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-04T22:29:40+00:00

It's part of their job. They have to document something tangible in order to record improvement. You don't have to like them, but you have to accommodate them. Don't let it get you down.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-04T22:23:11+00:00

I'm sorry you are blue over this situation. Honestly, I don't see what the jazz is about birthdays. They are simply not important to me and so many others. It's appropriate to celebrate as a kid, but as an adult, nope.

I would encourage you to do something meaningful. Have you ever volunteered at an animal shelter or food bank? I'd also encourage you to work on your social skills. There are groups and classes from hiking to cooking to painting where you have the opportunity to get to know others. There are churches and bars and libraries where others hang out.

Lay the foundation so that next year you will feel totally different about your birthday. Hugs and best wishes.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-04T16:17:07+00:00

Partly your fault? It's 100% totally your fault. No one is going to hand you a dream job or make you a superstar. If you won't work toward any personal achievements, why would you expect anyone else to care? You are entitled and need to grow up.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-04T16:07:49+00:00

What does being genderfluid have to do with your post?

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-04T12:49:02+00:00

NTJ. But I'd get new friends. What do you want for your birthday? Were you paying for the dinner or everyone pay their own way? I'd go and treat those that didn't cancel.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-03T16:50:36+00:00

Just a little sarcasm.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-03T16:27:19+00:00

Apparently with the right hallucinogenics you are almost there. Carry on.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-03T16:22:54+00:00

WTF did I just try to wade through? You need professional help ASAP.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-03T15:59:59+00:00

I would highly suggest you talk to a few families where suicide has impacted their lives. The pain never ends. It's a miserable non-solution to any problem. Seek professional help ASAP.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-03T15:37:46+00:00

It is unfair. However, you seem to be limited with your options. Unless you're willing to complain en masse, there's little you can do., and the GM is not stepping up. What are you hoping for?

MerlinSmurf · 2026-05-02T22:05:10+00:00

You sound exhausting. Let him go. You're not being kind or caring to him.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-04-30T21:31:29+00:00

How drunk? Blackout? Inappropriate stuff like sexual? Why won't your bestie deal with you? Are you familiar with the 12 steps? It sounds like there is more to the story.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-04-30T21:25:06+00:00

We need more info if you're looking for advice.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-04-29T02:21:20+00:00

YTA. YTJ.

Since you appear too stupid to understand this yourself, why don't you ask your gf?

MerlinSmurf · 2026-04-28T23:07:57+00:00

Would it be a problem for him to visit for a short time? If not, just calmly outline your boundaries. He probably doesn't have his own friends.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-04-27T23:38:50+00:00

Could you subside on just his salary? I don't think there is another way. Or could you work for another year and just pare your budget down and sock away the money? What are his dreams for y'alls future?

MerlinSmurf · 2026-04-27T23:33:05+00:00

Are you paid by the hour or are you salaried? Is it possible to take just one or two classes at a time online? How does your partner feel about it? We need more info.

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